1 to 4 kids? what to do?

Question

so i am babysitting my cousin. she is 8. and i told her that one of her friends could come over. and before i know it there are three other kids here! and her mom told me that 2 of them could come over but there is one who is like 13 and her mom doesn't like her hanging out with because she is so much older! and im not really sure what to do. I feel bad telling them to leave!

Answer 1

You have to be the authority, not the best friend. Make the 13 yr old leave, at least.

you don't want to tick off the parents.

Answer 2

If the mother doesn't want the 13 year old there, then you have to respect her wishes. Tell her that the child's mother thinks it'd be best if she left. If it makes you feel better, maybe ask them all to leave. You can explain to the mother that you didn't want to hurt the 13 y.o.'s feelings, or just say you couldn't handle so many children at once and you wanted to focus on her child. She'll get over it. Don't feel bad either, you're just respecting what the mother asks - you're doing your job!

Answer 3

If you don't tell them to leave it'll cause a problem.  If you don't want a problem just simply state the rules and tell them they need to leave.  If they do not, call your cousin's mom and let her know what is going on.

Answer 4

CALL THE PARENT TO COME GET THEM.   PERIOD!!!!

YOU DON'T HAVE TO FEEL BAD ABOUT IT......................

YOU

GOT

DUMPED

ON !!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

call the mom and explain the situation, asking for help. she's gain respect and see that you are a responsible babysitter.

Answer 6

The mother you are babysitting for really does have the right to tell you that she doesn't want bad kids around.  Otherwise, tell her you can't support that and to find another babysitter.

She is paying you to protect her kids.

Answer 7

You have to tell her to leave, your aunt told you she didn't want the 13yr old there.

Answer 8

Take your cousin by the hand and tell him/her gently that, "I said only invite one over, you invited 3... I think that you should ask 1 or 2 of them to leave, sorry!" Because it shouldn't be you asking them to leave, it wasn't you who brought them here, it was your cousin , she is the one who should do it.

Answer 9

maybe what you could do, is tell them that its time for some down time or that you will be taking the girl (cousin) out somewhere and they will have to go home.

Answer 10

Tell them to leave unless you are getting paid by the other parents.  Why should you be inconvenienced by them.  Your responsibility is the one kid.

Answer 11

How are you going to feel when something goes wrong and YOU are suppose to be in charge?  Tell them to go.

Answer 12

well your first problem is your on the computer and not BABYSITTING and you need to follow the rules the parent layed down. Your job is not to be friends with your cousin its to baby sit her. so  if she gets mad thats tough. use your head would you let her get drunk because if you didnt she'd be mad and you'd feel bad. no i hope not, so tell the other girls to leave and if when the girls mom gets home she  lets her have them over then they can come back.

Answer 13

just say that you are thied up in other things and cant handle more that that many. If they think you lying just say too bad its your job to babysit dont make it overwhelming (its not gonna kill if one kid dosent like you)

Answer 14

Just tell them that your Aunt? does not want anyone else there while she's gone and that they can come back when she gets home and see if they can play then. I would send all of them home.

Answer 15

Think of it this way.  It is your *** or theirs.  Tell them to leave.  That is the rules and if they don't like it, tough

Answer 16

Dont feel bad.

Part of being mature is being able to maintain control and follow the rules.

The rules have been explained to you, you are the enforcer!

I agree with the Mom. No good can come from a 13 year old hanging out with a 8 year old.

Answer 17

Don't be shy about asking them to leave.

Just tell them you have 5 min. left to play, then it's time to go home. Next time they come to the door... tell them she cant have anyone over until her mom comes home.

Answer 18

Ask the older to leave, just tell her that your Aunt said only the other 2 could be there and she can come back another time.   Your cousin is 8 she can also tell the older girl that she can't be over while her Mom isn't there.

Answer 19

Tell them to leave now! You are the authority figure here!

Answer 20

Can you take the other girls somewhere that she won't have room to fit? Like in the car or something? You are the adult and the babysitter. Just say, sorry but I am going to need you to go. I am not responsible for you and should something happen, don't have permission to watch you - SIMPLE! GL!

Answer 21

Tell them to leave. You're the adult, here. They'd better listen. Tell them you'll call their parents if they don't go.

Answer 22

tell them u need to do something and itz very private or just tell them to bug off and ask the 13 yr old if she know her hme # and just call her mom

Answer 23

Well if her mom said that 2 of them can stay,and they aren't bothering you,then that's fine.Let them stay.Unless it's causing you problems in which case you ask them to leave at least until her mom comes home.As for the older one,if her mother already told you she doesn't allow her daughter to play with her then you have to ask her to leave. I know you may not want to,but part of being a responsible babysitter is to respect the parent's wishes.Again you could tell her that unfortunatly there's too many children there and you would like her to go home and maybe she can stop by later in the evening to see if she's allowed in when the mom is home. If she still refuses to leave you may need to find out her parent's number so you can call them and explain the situation. How old are you? If you don't mind my asking. Good Luck!

Answer 24

well, i  the not wanting to tell her to leave, but if the mom says not to have he there, then you should tell her that its not the right time to be over..

Answer 25

All you do is tell her that her mother did not allow this many kids over. Explain to the kids, that because it is not your home, they need to leave & get permission first from her mom b4 it is ok. Tell them your sorry if they are mad, but you need to keep you babysitting job to.

Answer 26

Tell them to leave or .......

Answer 27

Pull your cousin aside and tell her that you told her she could have ONE friend over. Because she didnt listen to you, you should tell her that she has to tell her friends they have to go home. I wouldnt like a 13 year old to be hanging out with my 8 year old either.

Answer 28

Tell them to leave. It's your job.

Answer 29

I know you might feel bad but you have to respect her Mothers decision & she has to respect her Mothers decision and you as you are in charge at the moment. Tell her you said one could come over and you meant that ONE COULD COME OVER.

Answer 30

u call there mom of the 13 year old and tell her the problem and say her mom wants her so she goes or u could run in a coner and tie yourself up kick them out and say they where kidnapped or just get guts or run in a coner and scream hope this helps =)

Answer 31

You need to tell your cousin to tell her older friend to leave. Let her know that you spoke with her mom & she only said that two could be there, not the older one...you shouldnt feel bad, if you let her walk over you now whats going to happen when she want 15 people over (ok im exagerating, but still). Besides you wont be the "bad guy" you're just following the rules her mom gave you.