10 1/2 year old is still being treated like a baby by grandma...HELP!?

Question

my sons grandma treats him like a baby when he is with her. I have fought with her a bout this for years. Ok now in the last year she just stopped wiping his bottom cause he just wasnt gettin it so she says she was just helping, she runs his bath water and helps dry him, clips his nail sometimes she treats him like a baby and this madness never ends its always something. She says he will one day be to old to care for like this. He is ten and at home does everything on his own. His grandma refuses to let him grow up. She flat out says she will continut this behavior , its not hurting him. Help someone I need statistics to prove to her she is mentally and emotionally abusing my son. I love her to death shes great just when it comes to my son she refuses to let go. Like I said I have battled for 10 years with her over everything when it comes to him. This women is a micro-manager. Help someone give me advice. His dad lives next door to gran-ma so hes always there

Answer 1

So your son's father and you aren't together, and when he's at his dad's he hangs with his Gma next door who likes to bathe him and wipe his 10 year old butt!  (gee I wonder why you aren't with his father) Anyway! First I'm surprised your son allows this behavior.  Most 10 year old boys would be mortified if their wrinkly old grandmas wanted to towel dry them! You aren't going to change grandma, so stop trying.  Your son's father is obviously no help! So that leaves your son.  Does he like being treated like and infant?  If not then let him tell his Gma to knock it off.  You may be able to get him on bored with this even if he "kinda likes it".  Tell him that if his friends knew that his grandma clipped his toenails they would never let him live it down.  Good luck....... Lastly, get Gma a dog...she can baby him.

Answer 2

u dont need statistics u need a video camera. secretly video tape her babying her son and then show it to ur son. tell him this isnt what a grandma should be doing to her grandson. not just that, but the grandma might need psychiatric help. my grandma never babied me like that when i was 10 so she might be using him as an object to use her baby love on. also lay down the law, u are the parent not her, if u dont like her babying him u tell her to stop or she cant see him. this is ur child so u parent him the way u see fit

Answer 3

if your son doesnt mind it ..then you are acting jealous. there is nothing wrong with nurturing and fussing over a child and making them feel warm and toasty and special. I think thats awesome and will be that kind of grandma one day

Answer 4

WHO the h**l is the PARENT here??????

Does this grandmother LIVE WITH the child??????

If I read your question correctly, you are not the parent.  Why are you talking to HER and not voicing your concerns directly with the child's parents?  You do not have any "final say" in this matter, unfortunately for your sake.  So all you can do is voice your concerns with the parents, and it is up to THEM to deal with the situation.

If you get yourself involved, you will be viewed as just as "intrusive" as the other grandparent is.  Like it or not, you must restrain yourself.  Unless the physical or mental well-being of the child is endangered, you can only "speak" and cannot act.

Have a great day.

Answer 5

Pray about it

Answer 6

I think that you should just stop worrying about him, eventually, as he gets older, he is going to notice that her grandmother's behavior is not normal and he'll feel uncomfortable with her treatment . This behavior is very very normal, and you shouldn't worry too much about it, but when you see that she's doing something that is ridiculous you should make her that observation.

Answer 7

Get dad in on the act, I can't believe he thinks there's nothing wrong with his mother doing this to her son. You need to tell her if she keeps it up she won't be allowed to see your son.