10 points for best answer! So confused as what I should do? Over 18 please answer?

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sorry if this is long in advance. Isn't this how it all starts meeting a guy? LOL, well we have been talking on the phone every couple of nights, and meeting once a week just to see each other, and he did make "special plans for the 15th", yet now I am confused. A few days ago I posted a question on what would you do if the guy you liked asked your mom a personal question behind my back when he knows that I am an open book and told him if he had to ask me anything to do it. Any how we got into it (the day after we met because of it), during our conversation later on (we talked for over 2 hours), he told me it was nice talking to me and said can I call in a couple days, I said maybe, so he said well my cell is on if you want to talk, and I said maybe I would call. Okay Sat, I left a message on his cell phone letting him know that I would not be home because I was going out so he would not call my house an if he could call in a couple of days. Well that night he called twice but I was not home and did not say for me to call back. An he has not called me since, not even to see what I done today. So it has me worried, because he usually calls, I don't know what to think.

(bit of history, we just met aug 2, he left for a trip on the 19, called me that friday the 22nd, then he called when he was at the airport the 26th asked me if I was mad for him not calling (I wasnt and told him that) he was like well I will be home tomorrow the 27 I said okay and he would call in a couple days, that wednesday when he got home, he wanted to meet, so we met had a good conversation, kissed then left on our different ways, the 28th he asked my mom if I had asthma instead of asking me which is why we fought because he could have asked me and not her, so I ended up telling him of my heart murmur, my cancer scare a couple years ago, asthma, and my miagraine headaches, just to let him know that I am not hiding nothing. Plus when we met before he left for his trip he guessed about my date rape that happened 7 years ago which I do not like to talk about because of the bad memories, yet he wanted to talk about that during our fight. I told him we had to talk in person to clear the air about everything, just so to reassure him that I have nothing to hide, I was suppose to get my pap on the 27th and give him my results but my menstrual cycle started the day before so I couldn't do my pap which I do have rescheduled for the 1st of Oct.

Now I feel like this is the end and I am so confused. Its not that I am in love with him because I ain't, I do care for him, and he was the first guy in 5 years that I have been with (and he was an unbelievable great lover, OMG I would hate to never have s*x with him again or kiss him, just kissing him gets me so turned on, dang hes that good)

So what do you all think or have I confused you all as well, any advice would be helpful. I am too scared to call him and for him to say it is over. I just don't know what to do HELP!

Answer 1

i cant read that all im too lazy! LOL JUST KIDDING

but i dont get ur story sort of what do u want us 2 answer?

Answer 2

I think you are the one sending mixed messages to him.  It appears you are running hot and cold like a tap, and need to take the time to sort out what you really want from this guy.

If you are into him then he doesn't need to know every single little thing about you straight up, you take time to get to know a person, but the fact that you have that kind of trust build up already is good.  Which leads me to my next point...if you have built up that kind of trust with him, why are you doubting him now?

Either way, maybe he has taken a little time out to try and sort out, in his mind, what is going on.

And why are you bothered if he talks to your mother?  Instead of fighting about what he asked her, be thankful he is trying to build some sort of repore with her, it would be much harder if she hated him.

Answer 3

i agree with the other post. I think you are sending the wrong message to him and he misunderstood that. based on these, i would guess he sensed that you are not yet ready to commit (though you really like him).

You two need to talk.set things straight.what are his expectations in this relationship.and yours too.where do you see this going?  

Answer 4

You're killing yourself by waiting around for him! Work up the courage and give him a call. If he says its over, you will be able to move on with your life and get over him, but if he says he was just giving you time or space then you can go back to normal. Waiting around isn't doing you any favors. I say just bite the bullet and call him!

Answer 5

You need to call him, because the waiting is worse than any answer you could receive. Give it a try, it could turn into something wonderful.  

Answer 6

too long, but anyways sorry abt ur rape thing, but maybe you should call him to know if he's ok. he might be sick or something and if he broke up with you over that then shame on him.

i hope things work out with you two. good luck!!!

Answer 7

I would just call him and open the lines of communication.  Honest is the best policy all of the time.  If you are avoiding calling him because you don't want it to be over then you are living in a lie!  You have to call him and ask him for the truth.  Best of luck!