10 points...........mummys or daddys or parents to be!!!?

Question

how do u decide if and when u want a baby leavin aside the obvious been finacinaly secure ect how do u know when the time is rite really deep down?

Answer 1

There's this feeling in your heart, a longing and you just know that a child is what you want. You just know.

Answer 2

In my answer it will be impossible to leave aside the financial aspect of it, as that is a HUGE part of making such a decision. Other than that, you want to make sure that you are in a stable relationship, have a decent living space to bring the child up in, have good medical benefits, and have done all you might want to do before starting a family (such as travel,college, getting settled into a career, or whatever it may be). Not that you can't do any of those things once you have kids - but it is a lot more difficult. You also need to be prepared to have less freedom, in the sense that you can no longer just get up and go on a whim. Say it is a rainy Sunday and you decide to go on a road trip to a city 2 hours away just for fun. Without kids, this is no problem. Just get ready and go. WITH kids, it may not be possible at all or else if you do still go, you have to get them ready and make sure you bring everything necessary for them along with you. It takes a lot more planning.

And finally, you and your partner should both be 100% on board. If either is not 100% sure, that is probably a sign that it is best to wait. It is normal to be nervous, but even being nervous is different than honestly not knowing whether or not the time is right.

I think that if you have to ask some strangers on the internet, then there is a good possibility that you are not quite ready. I could be wrong though - just my opinion. Good luck!

Answer 3

I got to the point where my life and all I had achieved up to that point felt very empty and shallow.  I felt like something was missing.  Of course as soon as I was pregnant, I freaked out a bit and worried that I would not be able to handle it or be a good mother, but I think that is pretty normal when you are about to take on a huge life altering change.

Answer 4

are you married? a child needs the influence of a mother and a father! It's awesome being a parent and it's awesome sharing that experience with someone else that has made that total commitment to you and your (together) child. Of course, it's nice to be unified as parents in your philosophies on parenting and it's nice if the child can witness that their parents love and respect each other. but your child will NEED what BOTH of you have to offer and to give them less is a disadvantage to them and to you.

Answer 5

The desire comes from your heart. It is really heard to explain. It is like when you fall in love and know that particular person is "the one". You know when you are mentally ready for a child.

Answer 6

when u and your partner want to have a baby!

and decide together that this is what you both want and decide that u want to start trying!

and when u are finally pregnant u have 9 months to prepare urself!

Answer 7

When the time is right, you just know.

Answer 8

i knew that i was really ready when a baby was the first thing i thought of in the morning and the last thing i thought of at night.  never mind all the say and night dreaming in between.  i was so ready.

Answer 9

Mine was medical.  I was married to my best friend and lover after a 5 yr relationship and we as a couple decided to try for number one.  When he was 1 yr old we tried for number two and got two and three at one time(twins).  But my husband was in a secure job with great medical benefits and (I know finances) we were all in the black(actually 3 months ahead on all our bills) without my paycheck and my doctor told us to get a move on or children would become harder to have.  I was 28 and my husband was 27.  I did it in what my family calls the right order....marriage then children.