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Question

When it comes to girls for 25 year's I've been clueless. I try different techniques...seem to get good results (laughing...whatever) but it never ends well. I can't get a date to save my life. A lot of the time it's a blunt "No" or get laughed at. I've always felt confident about the way I looked and the person I was, but now I have doubts. I'm not normally one to give up, but while my friends get into meaningful after meaningful relationship...and when the nights role around I come home with 2 fake numbers...and little else. I barely have my dignity, if I ever did? At some point in life it would be nice not to get stood up every time I have a potential date! It's starting to get to the point of why is it even worth it....why would a girl like me...

I can go out now and talk to a girl and see her say she has a b/f only to leave with some complete stranger. I can tell myself that she deserves a guy like this other guy....he's better for her than I could ever be. I have been in this frame of mind and mindset for a couple weeks now. I hate to give up, because I've had many obsticles bigger than this. Had cancer twice and beat it...(I hope)...yet this....something that in the grand scheme of life shouldn't be a top priority. I don't even know **** about getting TOO many phone calls from a girl. I hear my friends complain their g/f's call too much. I lie and tell them I dated a couple girls...when it's a big fat zero. I've lied to everyone except my parents, relatives, and sister....I feel like a zero right now....I don't know what to do next?

Answer 1

Quit trying so hard..........and do yourself a favor, quit trying to get a "DATE"

Dates are nothing but pressure and misery.

Make friends.  Be yourself, forget techniques, be yourself.

So you only meet 1 or 2 women in your entire life that want to be with you, so what?

It only takes one.

Be who you are, and be honest about it.  Not rude, pushy, manipulative, honest.  Learn to listen, women really like to talk.

If you make friends with women, they may not want to date you, but almost all of them have a friend that would be "perfect" for you.

Luck

Answer 2

You can do what I did; quit.  I am 45 and have never had a girlfriend, kiss, s*x.  I lead a happy and fulfilling life still.

Answer 3

Do not lose your confidence yet, unless your about to turn 40 and

are still in the same predicament, and have not had any dates! It

might be some of the ones you are approaching, or the ones you

decide to talk to. Maybe you should go somewhere that you share

a like for, with another girl, like taking a class on something that is

of interest to you, or go to an event concerning something that you

would have in common with another, and start a conversation with a

girl discussing it. Please do not lie or over exaggerate to someone

in order to impress them, as that will backfire before you know it!

When you do talk with a girl, try to let them talk about what they

like, or do, etc.  And, hold yourself up with confidence, but not by

saying it, more by feeling it and sure of yourself! Hope this helps!

Answer 4

I hate hearing you've tried "techniques"! Oh well....anyways, just be who you are!! It is without a doubt the best way to find someone worthwhile. I'm not sure what the issue is here, but maybe you need to broaden your horizons with girls and ask out a few who you wouldn't normally go for. It seems in your "25 years" you may have learned everything but this: the people who end up being the best for us are often the ones we least expect!

Answer 5

I'm 16 in the same spot. If your friends have gf's, get them to try and hook you up on a date. Try internet sites or blind dates, all I can really suggest since I don't know you personally. If you can get someone to laugh and have good intentions, they'll come back to you. good luck, I really hope you find someone, because I know the feeling, and I still do.