10 year old brother looking at p**n? Please help?

Question

My brother has been jumpy every time I walk by the computer room and he quickly exits off the screen he was on, and I knew something was up. So today I quietly walked by it, and he didn't hear me. Well, I saw he was on some p**n site with naked girls and such on the screen. I was hurt in a way, you know? But anyways, I don't know how to approach my parents about this. He has his own account on the computer, and it's locked by his password, so I can't get on it. [So glad I have my own laptop :p] Any help/tips from people who've been through this? Is this normal for boys his age?

Thanks so so much for your help.

Answer 1

Leave it alone say nothing he will get caught soon enough.

Answer 2

I have the same problem with my 11 yr old brother!! (i read on his myspace that he saw 2 girls one cup ...gross!!)

Gah, I want to confront him but it seems so embarrassing.  

Ignorance is bliss, but i still find this disturbing.

My choice was to keep quiet, since at that age I was already listening to Eminem and other rappers and learned anyway about s*x through his songs.

Kids in other countries like Japan an Europe have less of a taboo on p**n (magazines, tv) , and hey.. they turn out just fine.

Answer 3

It is normal however you still should tell your parents because these sites are focused to the adult crowd. Maybe your parents should monitor what he does on the computer and put a parental lock on the computer.  Just go to your parents and suggest they look at the history of the computer under his account. They will be proud of you for coming to them however your brother might be a little mad at you. Hope I could help!

Answer 4

Do nothing.  Say nothing.

He is growing up and exploring sexuality.  Totally normal.

Why are you hurt?  Would you rather he spied on you?  LOL!

Like you, he is entitled to some privacy.  Would you want him to tell your parents if he caught you masturbating?  All normal girls do it but it is a private matter rarely discussed with parents or siblings.

Answer 5

Tell mom and dad as soon as possible.  There could be predators on the program that little brother is watching.

Answer 6

yes its normal. geez. i dont know why you naggy people make a big deal out of these things.

Answer 7

I don't think that is *normal at all.  I think he is way to young to be be involved in such activity.  I really think you should say something to mom or dad.  

Answer 8

Where are your parents? Kids should not have unsupervised computer time. Just tell your parents.

It's normal for a 10 y/o to be curious but it isn't normal that they have access to the junk on the internet.

Answer 9

I think you should tell your parents about the situation at hand!

Your brother is extremely too young to be exposed to p**n...

It is unhealthy for his well being and mental state!

Also, there are crazy people on the web! It is so not safe!

Be a good big sibling and do whats best!

Best of LUCK!

:-)

Answer 10

Yuck...

LOL

Uhh its normal he's just growing up! But yeah tell your parents because that could give your computer virus's...it did to my computer! (i have a brother too) But hes 17 and he broke up with his GF so thats a different story!

XoXo

Vanessa

Answer 11

Yes it is normal for boys his age. Leave it alone.

Answer 12

if you have a video camera put it in the room so that your brother and whats on the screen will be recorded then give your parents the tape, at this age boys and girls become interested and want to explore their and other peoples sexuality, i don't think what he is doing is abnormal but at the same time how he is going about this is very inappropriate, as I'm sure your parents will agree. he should take a s*x ed class and learn in a healthy manner about his body and s*x in general. be mature as this is a mature situation although your brother at the tender age of 10 may still be immature, approach your parents and tell them that you think or have seen your brother on websites that they may disapprove of, and let them take it from there.

Answer 13

its normal...but i think you should tlak to him about it yourself and not get the parents involoved unless needed

Answer 14

My question is where are the parents?

If there was ever p**n sites accessed, my husband or I would find out fast enough, then look out!

Answer 15

I really think you need to tell a parent about this. I mean, 10 year olds should NOT be exposed to p**n, no matter how curious they are about s*x. In fact, at 10, I didn't even know what s*x was.  

Answer 16

Yes, it's totally normal for him to be interested.  The danger could lie in the things he looks at though.  

Looking at nude women will not hurt him.  Looking at some of the perversions he's likely to encounter might.

Nudity in nature is healthy.  Nudity with whips and beatings is NOT something he needs to know about, but it's almost unavoidable if he's dabbling around in some places.

Someone needs to monitor him, for his own good.  Being quiet about it is NOT in his best interest.

Answer 17

What IS normal is that your brother's interested in sexuality and 'girls'...and it's healthy, too.

What is NOT healthy is that he's getting his exposure from p**n.  p**n rarely shows a healthy view of what a healthy sexual relationship is like, it gives unrealistic views of women and it doesn't express sexuality as something to be enjoyed by two people who care about one another.  This is all MY opinion...

However, the decision about what is acceptable for your brother should not be made by me...or anyone else on this post...or you.  That decision should be left up to his parents.  If they didn't like it, but didn't want to confront him, they could easily change the parental guidelines for his sign on which would solve the immediate problem easily enough.  But I would really hope that your dad would talk to him (give him "the talk"), explaining that women are to be respected, boys and girls always have the right to say no, and that s*x between people who care about each other is special and awesome and can not be found on those sites.

SO...my advice is that you tell your parents...they are his parents, too, after all, and should be the ones to ultimately make the decision on how this is handled.  You could just tell your mom, if you're uncomfortable talking to your dad about this, and she can take it from there.

Good luck!! :)

Answer 18

He is 10 and he is naturally curious. They are probably discussing reproduction in health class and all his peers are sharing websites they have found. Not a problem to be concerned about unless it is harmful or illegal (beastiality, rape, sodomy, etc)

Answer 19

To be honest, I wouldn't tell your parents. They will just over-react and punish. He's just being curious about the oposite s*x. It's perfectly normal.

If you feel comfortable talking with your brother, tell him that thats not what real women are like and if he has watched any videos, tell him that isn't love it's just s*x. You'll have to word this in a way he'll understand depending on his maturity.

I would really consider him giving him a big sister talk because at this age he can't propely understand this and he will grow up seeing women as s*x objects and expecting them to have huge fake b*****s.

He'll be embaraced but it's worth it. Just be cool about it and talk about it like it isn't a big deal.

Oh, and tell him that looking at p**n gets a load of viruses and c**p on your PC.

Hope this helps.