10 year son and accident issues HELP?!?

Question

My almost 10 year old son has suddenly in the last three weeks started filling his pants while outdoors playing. He then sneaks in and cleans himself up and I find the evidence in the laundry later on.

Any ideas if this is just a phase, a psychological issue or what?

Thanks!

Answer 1

My daughter is 10, almost 11 and for  a short time we had the same issue. She didn't full on fill her drawers but had held it for so long that there was a thick smudge in her drawers. This started abruptly around the time she turned 10 and went on off and on for about 2 weeks when I finally sat down with her and in a non-confrontational way when there was nobody around so that I didn't embarress her I brought it up. I just started the conversation like..."Lately I've been noticing... Is something going on?Are you having problems controlling it..This isn't like you"

The answer I ended up getting was that she and her friends were in the middle of something ..a game or sports or something so she didn't want to stop.She would try holding it, but a little got in her underwear. She basically was afraid of missing out on something and didn't want to leave her friends.

I just told her she was a big girl and too old for this and that it was ok, accidents happen,I wasn't angry and that if her friends are real friends they will still be there when she comes back out.We haven't had any issues in a while now.

Good luck and I hope things get worked out and better.

Answer 2

you should comfront him about it. it maybe some insecurity issues. or he is scaring himself somehow. it still presist i would got to a doctor cause that odd. he may not be doing it on purpose something could be physicaly wrong not so much mentally

Answer 3

Has he had any big stress lately? If he has, you might consider talking to his school counselor.

If not, it might just be that he forgets to go to the bathroom when he is playing. Ask him about it. (That might be a whole different question entirely.)

If neither of these is the case, take him to the doctor. He might just have problems controlling that part of himself.

Answer 4

There are a number of reasons why this might be happening.

Before deciding that there is a psychological issue, you need to rule out physical causes.

A visit to your child's doctor is in order.

Be well.

Answer 5

This seems quite serious.  I would have a wee chat with the boy about this.  He might feel a bit embarassed about it but pursue it anyways.  Maybe something is happening at school or with friends. Perhaps he has an allergy to some types of foods and might need to see a doctor.