11 month old Potti Training?

Question

I have a daughter who just turned 11mos 2days ago. Today she farted after eating a bit of food and my wife thought it was a good idea to put her on the toilet to have her p**p in the toilet. My daughter was terrified. In fact, I don't think I've ever heard her scream like that for so long or so hard (over 20min).

I know she is no where near being ready to go potti (she just began walking 3 weeks ago). But my wife (this being the 1st child she's ever been around and cared for) instead of admitting she's trying to do it for her own gratification said she cried because she was constipated (even though she immediately put her on the toilet after she farted).

If the baby cannot even say poo poo or potti, how in the world is she suppose to know how to p**p? I just need some people to let me know I am not crazy, because she's a little off. Oh by the way, my wife is a 4th year med student, who is about to do anestesia (Hope she doesn't have to work on you, just kidding, she's very bright, book smart 100%, but life skills she's definitely lacking)

Thanks for any input

Answer 1

11months is too young its usually time to start potty training around 2 2 1/2 years depends on the child.

Answer 2

Its a good idea to introduce your daughter to a potty around one. Not to make her actually use it. I bought one for my daughter and let her play with it for months (just to get used to it) before I actually had her try to go on it. Forcing her to sit on it will just cause her stress and make her reject the potty even more. A lot of people try really hard to force thier children (even I did) but they will let you know when they are ready. My daugter wasn't trained fully until after she turned three. But she never has had an accident since, not even at night.

Answer 3

The Baby Whisper claims you should "start" putting kids on the toilet around 9 months and hope for the accidental pee or poo and then praise the child.  See  the book for the details.  No kid should cry for 20 minutes on the toilet -- was the child constipated (hard, round stools)?  

Answer 4

WAAYY TO YOUNG. i would be screaming too if i was 11 months old and forced to sit around a huge hole in a seat.

Answer 5

Whoa! 11 months old is way to young to begin potty training.  Since your wife is book smart as you say, tell her to get a book on potty training and it will tell her not to start before the child turns 18months.  

Answer 6

It is nearly impossible to try to toilet train a baby this young. Who put this crazy idea in your head,obviously does not understand normal child development at all. For heavens sake, let her be a baby.

Children can be toilet trained from 18 mths, but in my practice, it is usually at least 2 yo ot sometimes can be 3 yo. Latest research states that toilet training should be child initiated, not parent initiated.

Please enjoy your baby for who she is, they grow up way too fast in today's world.

Answer 7

Although babies have been potty trained that early, it is very rare.  

In my opinion you're exactly right.  It's for her own gratification, not because the baby is ready.  If she's screaming hard for 20 minutes then it's going to be a traumatic experience for her.  You're better off waiting a year and trying it again when she thinks it's fun and she can say pee or poo.

Answer 8

There is no way an 11-month-old is ready for potty training.

Buy your wife a baby-care book so she can read this for herself and not blame you for pressuring her.

Answer 9

Wow, your wife's quite a lucky woman. Does she know you feel this way about her intelligence?

When babies pee or p**p in a diaper they don't fully feel the sensation. By putting them on the potty and letting them feel it they will soon be able to give you signs that they have to go. I think this is a great time. Some people like to start this method around 3-4 months. It is not too early. And it's not hurting you, so what do you care? Maybe the toilet seat was just cold or she was just upset that it was a new experience.

When you don't have a 3 or 4 year old in diapers you will be thanking your wife.

Answer 10

my two nephews were both potty trained by 1, so it might not be too crazy.  

Answer 11

LMAO ya no your baby's not ready to be toilet trained at all!! she can't control those muscles yet. not until she is probably 24 month. maybe go to the book store and get he some books on how to properly toilet train, and don't be like I TOLD YOU SO or she will keep trying to prove you Wong!!

Answer 12

There's the old fashioned method - common until the mid-20th century - which is:- calculating what time(s) of day the baby is likely to do the doo and placing her on the potty and keeping her there until she does.  If she resists, you give her a suppository or soapstick to get her into the habit of doing on the potty at the correct time.  Eventually she should get the message and her bowel functions should fall into line with the trip to the potty.

I didn't use this with my own daughter but given the problems I had with her later, maybe I should've.

Answer 13

STOP 11 months is wayyyyyyyy to young they need to show interest in it first if she terrifies her she may take longer to want to use the potty.

Answer 14

Waaaaaaay too young.  Try to encourage your wife to hold off longer.