12 year old pregnancy?

Question

Okay my best friend who shall remain nameless is PREGNANT!

She hasn't told her mom yet and she says that her mom will never find out. I am a bit worried because she is only 12 years old!!!

People at school think that she is lying. But from how I know my friend she is definitely not LYING. Like today in our Spanish class ( teacher wasn't there) someone said that she's not even 18 yet. My friend said she had s*x with a 7th grader that doesn't go to our school. She can't even suck in with out look FAT! I want to tell my parents but she won't let me! What should I do?

Answer 1

She needs some adult guidance.  Please tell your parents.  She is 12 years old and if SHE said she had s*x with a 7th grader, she is in dire need of some help.  It goes much deeper than being pregnant alone, she has some mental issues that need to be addressed.  Otherwise she is going to have a very hard time as a teenager.  Please tell your parents and urge them to do something if you care about your friend.  

Also, if I was the parent of a 12 year old girl and if her best friend was having s*x, I'd sure as h**l want to know what kind of people my little girl is hanging out with.

It is the decision of your friend and her parents of what to do next.  If no one knows about it, then they can't make a decision.  I don't know if you know this, but there is a certain time limit involving abortions.  After a period of time, if you don't do it, then you have to have the baby anyway.  Again, I'm not going to say whether it is right or wrong to do, but the person(s) responsible for your friend and she need to make the choice.

For those that say find out if she is even pregnant first and THEN deal with it -wrong answer.  She is having s*x AT 12 years old people!  If she isn't pregnant this time, then maybe it will be next time.  This girl needs to be put back on the right track of normalcy with some guidance to live her life like a normal girl her age.

Tell someone please.

Answer 2

she needs help go ahead and tell ur parents and maybe hers shes going to need help and at the time u tell her u told she may be really really mad but sooner or later she will be glad u did tell but if she doesnt let u tell and something goes wrong then u will feel bad because u didnt tell and u could have prevented it.... go ahead and tell she'll thank u eventually!!!

Answer 3

Support her. Its the only thing you CAN do.

Answer 4

um... wohhh? thats intense... um.. theres nothing else you can do.. she probly needs to see a doctor if shes showing.. there are clinics that dont cost anything and have confidintionality.lol how ever you spell it.. and if you explain the situation then they can help you convince this 12 year old that she needs to tell her parents.

Answer 5

Oh goodness. What a horrible position for her to put you in. Tell her people are going to find out eventually, so she needs to tell someone soon.

Telling your parents or a guidance counselor would mean you're being a good friend - remember that. A bad friend who just sit by and not do anything.

Answer 6

W0w!!!!

Answer 7

Well I think you should tell an adult because even though it may seem as though your not helping your friend in the long run you really are. and if the parents want her to get an abortion or have the baby its up to the girl and the parents. they'll make the right decision. Just stick by your friend because if she is telling the truth this may be the hardest part of her life.

Answer 8

Ask her why she waited so long to get pregnant. Her biological clock is ticking...

Answer 9

You already know what the right thing to do is.  So the question is are you going to do it.  At 12 years old she is not capable of making a responsible decesion and doesn't know how to get the help that she needs.

Answer 10

shes still al lill  kid clearly she cnt take care of her self she should of thought this trough you should tell bedore she tries to run away or something

Answer 11

You need to talk to her and tell her that she definately needs to talk to her parents about it. Its better now than later. She needs to tell her parents so they can help her out. and if she doesnt tell anyone then you need to tell her parents.

Answer 12

You should tell your parents and have them tell her parents.

Answer 13

she needs to tell someone right away so that she can go to the doctor and get on prenatal pills, which every pregnant woman needs to take. -VERY IMPORTANT-

Her body may not be able to carry a child healthy due to her young age and with out watch by a doctor she could damage her body causing her to never be able to have any(losing this one) or any other children.

she needs to see a doctor as soon as she can so that she can have a health pregnancy.

Either way the mom will find out.... when the water breaks and shes having the baby... you cant hide a baby from her lol It will need a place to live and believe me they are not quite things.

Answer 14

i think its you who u referring to as ur friend, ur 12 can't mess my head, anyways to answer your question idk, but i kno one thing, and thats no abortion!

Answer 15

um this is hard but she has to tell a grown up and get and abortion

Answer 16

Wow... first find out if she really is pregnant. Then tell her to tell her parents don't do it yourself, that is a major trust dis!!!

Answer 17

safe up and get her an abortion

Answer 18

Tell them anyway, she is 12 years old!

Answer 19

Either; She is lying.. If the kid's in your school do not believe here. Or she is telling the complete truth.

You should look at it both ways before you make a HUGE decision. 12 years old..Has she started her period yet? Isn'

t that a bit young to be having s*x any way? I am sure you are worried for your friend but chances are she may be saying it for attention. ESPECIALLY if she is telling kids at school.

On the other hand if she is telling the truth.. than she should tell her mother right away. Or tell a close adult that you trust: such as a teacher,parent,nurse. From there they will take over so you don't have to worry about your friend. It doesn't matter what age you are you can get pregnant [considering the starting period of ovulation] but you really should tell someone.

Either way; her lying or not.. it will help her out. Believe me. Tell someone sweet heart :]

Answer 20

what i think you should do is really find out if she is really pregnant, because your still not sure yet, all tho your pretty sure,

and than I guess talk to her about it, and tell her what you think she should do,:)

Answer 21

Because she is only 12 there are a lot of health problems she and the baby can develope.  If her mom doesn't know then neither does her doctor, all pregnant people no matter what age need to see a doctor.

If she really is your friend you need to go to her house when her mom is home and talk with the both of them.  Let your friend know she will always have you as a friend but her mom really needs to know.

If you slightly think she is lying have her take a test in front of you before you say something to her mom.  An adult REALLY needs to know for her safety.

Answer 22

She is young. I am kind of against abortion, but she NEEDS to talk to her parents about his ASAP!!!!!!!!!!

i am not really for abortion, but this just may be the best choice....

Be with her the whole way, whichever path she may choose. She will need it. You will need to convince her to tell her parents whether she may like it or not1!!!

Good luck...

Sorry i kind of repeated myself.. I am sick so I have been a bit discombobulated

Answer 23

its her fault she had s*x at least 5 years b4 she should so shes stupid thats what happens when u have it  tell her parents tey wont tell her u said it cuz shes gonna be there wen she gives birth

NO ABORTION!!!!

Answer 24

Get her help telling your parents is the right thing to do belive me. You will feel guilty at first but its what is best for her.

Answer 25

well, tell her in 9 months, her Mom is sure to find out. ofcourse she could be doing this to look cool.  A 12 yr old having s*x? GEESH! what is this world coming to?!

She's going to be in a lot of pain if she has a kid at this young of age. My Dad is a nurse, when he was in nursing school, a 15 yr old girl had a baby, and my dad said that it was so big, she tore the skin between her vaginia and r****m.....they literally had to sew her but hole.

Answer 26

tell your parents and then together tll her parents. It is a high risk pregnancy and she needs watching closely

Answer 27

Tell her parents over the phone sometime. The girl is obviously a little lacking in knowledge if she thinks that she can keep a pregnancy a  secret. There's no way... they'll see the kid eventually! Does she just want to shock them?

Answer 28

Your friends a w***e, get new friends.

Answer 29

What's happening to this world? =(

Seek a counsellor at your school! NEVER EVER think that you can handle things like this on your own. I mean 20+ year olds even stress themselves out! Please seek advice from a counsellor, social service worker, guidance etc. If you are scared, tell them that you want your discussion to be confidential!

Answer 30

godd, umm, i'd tell her mom, but tell her mom not to ask her yet or something, but to tell her mom and tell her that u werent supposed to tell her. godd that really stinks! abortion, she needs to learn some stuff. yikes. thats a little freaky.

Answer 31

abortion.. its terrible but shes way too young to take care of a child when shes a child herself. obviously shes immature if she cant even tell her parents. wow, thats embarrassing.