13, 14 in 3 months and mother is still edgy with the idea of making out and kissing.?

Question

Im allowed to date. in fact ive been on a couple already, but b4 the dats shes like "now dont be kissing up in there"" and she sure doenst want me making out. im 13 turing 14 in 3 monts. and im really mad...

Answer 1

I have JUST started letting my 15 yo, 16 next month, start going to the movie with her boyfriend, but, only because her bf's mom goes with them. .I have a 17 yo half daughter living at home who has a 4 month old.. It all starts with kissing, and, no matter how much you believe that you can control things, when it gets hot and heavy, you can get carried away, and, then, the next thing you know, you're visiting an obstetrician.  Be happy momma lets you date at that young age..

as for dates, I told my daughter, 16, and that's how it is, and how it's going to be.. she's got less than a month, and, I hope the 'examples' she has are good enough to keep her chaste, at the very least, until she's 18, or married. which, of course, as daddy, I would prefer.

Answer 2

maybe you should put this one in the dating or adolescent section.

It's no good here.

Answer 3

Honestly...I wouldn't let my 14 year old date let alone make out with anyone.  I was 14 once and I know what goes on...If I was your mother I would make you wait until you were at least 16

Answer 4

You wouldn't be dating at all if you were my daughter, you are too young!

Answer 5

you are lucky you are dating. if you were mine id lock you up and throw away the key. kissing leads to s*x. and at almost 14 you should not be having s*x. so thank your mom for being a mom and not a person who had a kid taht does not care what you do. i wish my mother was like that. the only reason i said that is because i am 23 and i have 3 girls. but i am married. so thank your lucky stars you are dating.  

Answer 6

Mad is the correct word if you mean insane !!!!

I personally don't think you should be dating at your age, other than in company of other couples and  adults.

If your parents permit something different, it is their choice (and responsibility).  However, it is also their choice to not allow physical contact and to discipline if it is found to have happened.

Mom has very good reason for her rules.  She would probably explain them if you approached her calmly, withou anger and accusations.

Keep in mind:  A FAMILY IS NOT A DEMOCRACY.

Answer 7

Because kissing and making out always leads to something else. I think that is what she is worried about. If you aren't planning on having s*x, put her mind at ease.

Answer 8

Why are you trying to grow up so fast??? There is no way my kids will be dating at 13!!! If they have a boyfriend they want to hang out with, it's with parental supervision only.  You are still a kid, enjoy it. There is no sense in "making out" at 13.  It's no dating before 16 in our house...and that is only if said teen is proved him/herself responsible and mature enough!

Relax...slow down...you will have plenty of time to do all of that when you are older, but not much left of enjoying being a kid.

Answer 9

You shouldn't even be dating at that age, kissing, making out, none of that.

You're too young for that stuff.

the fact that you're really mad at your mother for trying to protect you shows that you're not mature enough to be dating.

My daughters won't be allowed to date at all until they're 16 years old and even then they won't be allowed to ride in a car with a boy.  I'll drop them off and pick them up.

Answer 10

why is this question in newborn and baby

Answer 11

I'm sorry. I'm a mother though, and I have to just tell you how hard it is for us to imagine our little girls (I know you aren't really a little girl anymore) tongue kissing a boy! It's a really big shock. Your mother thinks it was just yesterday that you were wearing a tutu and playing with dolls.

She is probably worried that kissing leads to more - and wants to keep you safe. You have to understand that while it's hard for you because you want to date, it's hard for your mother to see you grown up already.