13 month old son... time out and saying no?

Question

I don't know what to do with my 13 month old son. When I tell him no, he either ignores me, or he melts down. He will start bawling and lay sprawled out on the floor. I don't think he is mentally ready for time out, but when he ignores me I place him in his crib for a min or two. what should I do?

Answer 1

It sounds like you are handling it calmly and appropriately. A toddler being told no is a very hard thing for them to deal with at first. Mine is 2 and still melts down when I say No sometimes. He gets a time-out on the kitchen mat for throwing a temper tantrum or fit. Just be consistent and don't give in once you say No.. eventually he'll learn that what mom says goes.

Answer 2

I have a 14 month old daughter and at times she can be a handfull. If she plays up I usually just tell her no in a firm voice and move her away from the situation (eg if she keeps trying to play with a power point I'll move her from there) and try and distract her. If she still continues I'll put her in her portacot for a minute with no toys. I think there isn't really much you can do at this age as they don't understand right from wrong and they are just exploring. Another thing I do is if she is playing with the power point (switching it on and off) I'll get her a toy that she can press so its kind of the same thing (only not dangerous) hope that made sense.

Best of luck :)

Answer 3

i know its hard expecially when they give you those puppy dog eyes  but the best thing to dois to ignore it  he is learning cause and effect with this and h**l learn that if he gets told no that all he a\has to do is winne to get what he wants   when he is doing what he is supposed to be doing  or behaving himself then  give him some extra attention like read him an extra book or two  or sit there and talk to him  have a conversation about what he sees out side or in the house or somthing this might help eliminate some of the  behaviore he may be hitting the terrible 2 already mine hit them pritty early himself

Answer 4

My youngest does the same thing and it isnt gonna stop anytime soon. He will be 2 next month and has a very independent will. I think all toddlers have that in common. All you can do is pretty much what you are already doing. If you believe in spanking, a light tap on the bottom or leg will go miles, it hurts feelings more than it can ever actually hurt physically. Mine is now into telling *me* No! which is lovely.

Good Luck !!

Answer 5

Disciplining you child when they are young is so hard.  When my daughter was that young and starting to her no, She would test her limits with me by not listen. So  I would pick her up from where she was and have her sit by me but I would not pick her up just to let her know it wasn't OK not to listen to me. It was more punishing for her by me not picking her up then anything else. I started time out around 15 months old. I kept having to put her back in her chair but eventually she got that she could not get up. Time out should be as long as their age. You don't want to put your son in bed for time out because the will associate bed with time out. You don't want bedtime to be so hard. Hope this helps. We don't spank but our daughter knows when we says not to do something we mean it. Being consist with your children is important. Sometime you want to cry with them, but be strong. They are very smart and know how to work parents. My daughter is 3 and if she test those boundaries all we have to say is "Do you need to go into time out" and usually her answer is no and her is good again. Good Luck and Be Strong!

Answer 6

Personal experience... DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT!!! I let my daughter hug on me and cry and now shes four and it's HORRIBLE!!  I worked at a daycare for about two years and quit recently but my boss always said you can love on them after punishment.... only give one minute of time out per year they are old...ex 1min=1 year... but timeout does not start until they quit crying and explain to them while they are in time out why they are in time out and that you said no and mean no....i'm having to do this all over with my 4 year old and i wish i would have started when she was younger.... good luck... also... if he starts pitching a fit...pick him up...take him to his room and shut the door after you walk out... if he knows pitching a fit gets your attention then he'll do it more and more... including in the middle of the store when you have a buggy full of stuff.... Good luck!!

Answer 7

They just dont like to hear the word no and be disciplined but its very neccisarily so dont give in to his emotions and do what you know  you have to do.