13 year old daughter? parenting issue?

Question

What should I do, my daughter met a guy online - via Myspace who lives in California and I believe is in his mid 20s, My older daughter read and saw the text messages that he sent my younger daughter who is only 13 years old and it was very explicit content of him. my 13 year old has history of self-harming and thinking about suicide. My older daughter said my younger daughter said he talks about suicide when she has to hang up with him and I'm afraid he'll lead her more into that and talk her into thinking on suicide as she has a history of. I don't know what to do yet, but I think she's to close to him and if I get her away from him, she'll hurt herself or do something else. What should I do, take away her phone, and block him? Get him arrested? I don't know on what she'll do? It's really not that easy either.

Why is she doing it though, for getting love? feeling love.

Have someone to talk to. She's afraid of talking to me

or her siblings or any of the people I got to help her.

We live in Florida, and she's 13 year old girl.

I am a single mother of 5 girls and 2 sons.

I am getting her help, I have in the past it isn't working.

She's got a younger sister who's only 10 I don't want her follow in that either.

Answer 1

umm i would tell the police and they could track him down i mean the fbi has a whole divivsion looking for guys like him!!

Answer 2

This is a really difficult situation. But my opinion is that you should keep him away in a tricky sort of way. I think you should call the phone company and block his number from incoming or outgoing calls. Don't tell her! She won't understand why it isn't working. Also, block myspace from the computer or take the computer away for a little bit and say it isn't working right that you need to get it fixed. When you "take it to get fixed" block his email and anyother over the computer communications. When you return the computer to her tell her the man who fixed it said that myspace gave her computer a virus and he installed new software that doesn't allow myspace to work. I can't think of anything else because it sounds like she isn't strong enough to deal with any hurt right now so you best bet is to lie.

Answer 3

1. call the police and get this guy arrested

2. get a councelor for your daughter if she doesnt already have one

i know this may seem harsh but she might need to go to a facility

if she is telling you she's going to commit suicide

take her to the hospital and let them talk to her. she's not going to like it but it will let you know if the suicide thing is just an act.

absolutely do not let them talk though.

i had a friend that went through this and the guy turned out to be 56 and a rapist.

Answer 4

Okay, for her safety you REALLY need to do something immediately! This guy is a total creep and your daughter doesn't see through it because he's being nice to her.

Go on her myspace account, read the messages, and if you fear for her safety DELETE THE ACCOUNT or go to the police.

Ban her from the computer, take away her phone, watch over her, PLEASE do whatever you can, you don't want her to be murdered or raped from this sicko.

Answer 5

my brother had the same prob with a girl . i told him not to talk to her he stopped for some reason. you re daughter might feel left out from you re family try talking to her.  

Answer 6

I think you should contact myspace with the help of your older daughter if need be and close the account. Let them know that they also have an adult in his twenties talking to minors about suicide.

Get your daughter some help and keep her away from this guy. He troubled psychologically at least and dangerous at most. Try going out with your daughter(s) and doing something fun if possible or maybe you can allow your daughter to do something special that she might want to do.

Consider moving the computer in the family room or out in the open and you could try some software to monitor and block what she does. If you have AOL or something, I would block her and keep her at the young teen level.

I don't think you can get him arrested since it doesn't seem like he has done anything illegal but you should contact the police if he's anywhere near your child or you think he might be...see if you can get a restraining order.

I hope this helps and good luck : )

Answer 7

wow.

I'm 13 too and i would say get her a psychiatrist or therapist of some sort. YES get him arrested, that is terrible for her to be talking to him. Call the police, tell them everything.

Answer 8

Ban her from the Internet! =]

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Answer 9

Don't allow her to use the internet! Delete her myspace account. Don't allow her to use a cell phone!