13 year old hiding her breast and body.?

Question

My 13 year old daughter is hiding her body especially her b*****s. She is wearing 2 shirts even in the summer. She will not go swimming with out wearing a huge shirt and shorts down to her knees. She is not over weight, she is 5'7" and ways about 125. Her shoulders are always rounded over because I believe she is hiding her b*****s. How do I deal with this issue?

Answer 1

thats not normal. you should ask her if theres something wrong. if she doesnt tell you bring her to a doctor or counselor. im almost 13 and i try to show mine off not hide them.

Answer 2

Ask her why she is always wearing so many pieces of clothing. She obviously has a problem with something because no 13 year old girl wants to hide her b*****s! They like to show them off. Maybe she is embarrased about her body. Definatly talk to her, she needs her Mum.

Answer 3

I used to do the same thing. i was always hunched over.

i look back on it now and know that i did it for 2 reasons

1.  i was the tallest girl so i always trying to make myself shorter

2.  i was hiding my breast because i was embarrassed of

them. i wouldn't even let my mother see me naked.

this is a problem she will have to overcome on her own.  when you see her slouching remind her to stand straight.

Answer 4

That sounds just like me when I was that age. It just means she's developing and embarrassed by it. Just try and talk to her about it. Let her know that she is very normal and all girls go through it. Maybe go shopping and help her find a good bra that fits just right so that she feels a little more comfortable. Just don't let her be "too comfortable" because then you'll have the opposite problem... her wanting to wear clothes that are much too revealing.

That sounds just like me when I was that age. It just means she's developing and embarrassed by it. Just try and talk to her about it. Let her know that she is very normal and all girls go through it. Maybe go shopping and help her find a good bra that fits just right so that she feels a little more comfortable. Just don't let her be "too comfortable" because then you'll have the opposite problem... her wanting to wear clothes that are much too revealing.That sounds just like me when I was that age. It just means she's developing and embarrassed by it. Just try and talk to her about it. Let her know that she is very normal and all girls go through it. Maybe go shopping and help her find a good bra that fits just right so that she feels a little more comfortable. Just don't let her be "too comfortable" because then you'll have the opposite problem... her wanting to wear clothes that are much too revealing.

Answer 5

She prolly cuts herself.... Why would she hide her breast????????

Answer 6

talk to her about it. but arent u lucky she isnt flaunting it about loads?

makbe shes lacking confidence so maybe help her build on that

get her some nice bras and stuff, go shopping together

she might not want to show her body off because she doesnt shave? doesnt have decent bras? clothes. etc..

Answer 7

don't worry its a phase the moment she hits 15 or maybe even 14. she will start to change and u will see her true colors.

Answer 8

just leave it! i hated my b*****s at that age! she will change!

Answer 9

Maybe she's pregnant?

Answer 10

let it play out........ i think its a phase that every young woman goes through

Answer 11

well they all do the same at this age, i know a lot of girls who acted the same. there's nothing you can do,it+s not so bad.let her get used to the fact that she's got b*****s

Answer 12

Perhaps she's ashamed of her body.  You want to watch that because low self-esteem is never good. A breeding ground for all kind of problems.

Tell her she looks beautiful once in a while. I wouldn't say you should directly confront her as it will just stress her out and make her very uncomfortable. Drop hints. Be subtle but try get out of her what you can. If the whole subtle hints idea doesn't work, then talk to her. Don't make it formal, just be friendly and make it casual.

Also, you should check her body if you can, check if she has any cuts on her body. Wearing excessive amounts of clothing is a classic way to cover her up.

Good luck!

Answer 13

well actually, a lot for mothers would prefer this lol for modesty reasons but just ask her if she feels insecure about herself. she may not be overweight, but she may feel as though she is. MANY teenage girls do even if they are skinny rails or normal sized. anyway, she may also think her b***s are too small and just doesn't want anyone to see that they are actually small. either situation i think this is inferiority-based. just try talking to her calmly about it. she is a teenager now and may not want to tell you about it depending on your closeness but try being sincere and listening in a way thats he knows that you're interested or concerned

Answer 14

Make sure she has bras and swimsuits with adequate padding, and offer to buy her a waxing kit or shaving cream or something for her bikini line.

Answer 15

just talk to her

Answer 16

sounds like the best answer to me-

Maybe she's pregnant?

Answer 17

That sounds just like me when I was that age. It just means she's developing and embarrassed by it. Just try and talk to her about it. Let her know that she is very normal and all girls go through it. Maybe go shopping and help her find a good bra that fits just right so that she feels a little more comfortable. Just don't let her be "too comfortable" because then you'll have the opposite problem... her wanting to wear clothes that are much too revealing.

Answer 18

I think your a really bad speller, or a liar, becase you spelled weighs "ways" & I'm 13 and I know that. Maybe she's just ashamed right now, she'll grow out of it, chill.

Answer 19

Well YOU can't..She has to

She's eventually learn to except her body for what it is...

Most teens go through this...Due to embarrassment..Mostly because they feel intimidated about how others look around them

But like i said..She'll eventually come around

But if you really want to get involved then just sit her down and talk to her about it

Answer 20

she may be hiding them because she i getting harassed because she is younger then alot of the more developed girls.

you should really just talk to her.

Answer 21

Does she wear bra? (sorry, but you haven't included that)

Maybe she doesn't shave and is embarassed to ask you for help? Me and my friends had some bikini problems, but we bought waxing kit ^.^" Our moms knew because we told them (we are very open to our moms), so that's what they suggested.

Also, I'm sorry to say, but maybe she has been raped?

Some people after sexual abuse have habit of hiding themselves, because they feel like they are 'provocing' people to do soemthing... That would need a therapy.

I sometimes hide my b*****s, because when my bra becomes too small, it looks really weird... Maybe that's the problem, and she's just embarassed.

I think you 2 need to talk really. Just ask her what's wrong, why does she hide all the time and stuff. You have to be honest with her, and she with you.

Answer 22

Maybe she has a secret ugly scar or something on her...

Answer 23

Dont' worry about it. I did the same thing. She is very sensitive about her looks, weight and developing body. Wouldn't you rather that she covers up than flaunts herself? Try not to compare her to other girls and try not to make any negative comments about her body or the fact that she is covering up.

Plan a mother daughter shopping trip. Compliment her of aspects of her body by choosing outfits that will compliment her body. "You have beautiful legs, these pants will fit you well and accentuate that"

Answer 24

its not an issue. shes feeling uncomfortable about herself right now and thats her way of dealing with it. i did the same thing. but i got over it on my own. just give her time and don't bother her about. its her body and if she wants to hide it, she can.

Answer 25

sit down (maybe bring out her for lunch or dinner) and have a nice, calm, one on one discussion. Maybe she is just self conscious and maybe she just likes the clothes but either way getting her to open up is the only way to go about this.

Answer 26

maybe she is hiding them because she does not want to grow up and b*****s show u are growing up. just ask her why she does that and tell her its nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 27

seems like she is self conscience about her body, alot of early teens are. just work with her.  Hopefully she will grow out of it. good luck!

Answer 28

shes probably just shy. talk to her. encourage her to feel beautiful about her body.  give her a makeover. get her a haircut. buy her clothes that are A LITTLE MORE revealing than her usual clothes. then by the end of the day, she'll feel beautiful, and when she does, she'll be more confident, and when she does, she'll show her body more.

Answer 29

thats how i am...i am just more comfterble wereing guys cloths, i were a guys bathing suit with a shirt on, theres nothing wrong with it in my eye, so maybe shes like me and just feels more comfterble wearing guys clothes, maybe she isnt into wearing tight clothes, and she wants some comfy loose fiting clothes :)