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13 yrs old and pregnant?!?

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my friend is 13

we have been best friends since forever and theres 2 more of us so 4 best friends since forever

one of our friends had a bad boyfriend and got pressured into doing s*x...ewwww

shes not going to tell her parents and she doesnt know what to do ..and of corse her "perfect" boyfriend left her

all of us want to tell her parents for her

and she has to tell her parents sooner or later she cant wait until the last second. what should i do

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Ok, she might hate you for a while. But how much will you hate yourselves if she doesn't get the medical attention she needs and something happens to the baby? Everyone needs to start thinking about the good of the baby. Her parents and her are going to be upset for a while, but life goes on. She needs to deal with the reality of the situation, because ignoring that she's pregnant isn't going to do any good.
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This decision was a choice that your friend made, so she, not you, needs to take responsibility for her actions. The parents will find out sooner or later, so don't feel like you have to be her guardian.

This is a perfect example of why s*x can ruin long lasting relationships forever. I feel truly sorry for you and your other pals that your buddy's own irresponsibility is now plaguing innocent friends. Take this incident as an example for the rough times that you yourself will encounter in the future.
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I think that you and her should sit down together on google and you should show her her rights. If she was PRESSURED that counts as a rape. She needs to know that she has to tell someone before he does it to someone else.

Than all of you 4 meet up and talk about telling her parents. They HAVE to know, because for 13 years old is very dangerous to be pregnant. High chance of misscarrage since she's in a lot of stress. Ask her if she want you guys to tell for her. Don't do it without her premission.

Perhaps one of your moms is friendly with her? See if maybe she wants her to talk to the parents.

That guy has got to be caught. Don't leave a rape like that. Also she might have some STD, so get checked.

Good luckies, lotsa luv!
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Tell her that you'll go WITH her when she wants to tell her parents. Expect a very odd reaction. It'll be very mixed--anger, upset, hurt, confused, scared. . . but they will still love her and want what's best for her of course. Reinforce the idea that she needs to tell them sooner than later... if they find out from someone else, it will be worse than if she told them.
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13 is WAY to young. Just because she had s*x doesn't mean that she is pregnant. However, now that the deed has been done she needs to go and get a pap smear to make sure that everything is in good order. I think it would be a good idea to that she sees some that she can talk about safe s*x practices. Weather you as a friend can make her see someone or if her parents need to find out doesn't really matter in my opinion. I will say again, 13 is WAY to young in my opinion.
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Maybe she can talk to one of your parents, if she feels comfortable. Also, maybe she can find a local Planned Parenthood and talk to them. I am sure they can help her in telling her parents. Unfortunately, she will need to tell her parents eventually. The sooner she does, the sooner they can help her with her options.
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first be sure she si pregnant, then if she is talk to her first, support her and convince her to tell her parents, she will have to do it or else she is able to live by her self at 13!
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Wow. Um........JUST TELL HER PARENTS when the girl tht's pregnants in the bathroom or something. Or tell your mom and have her tell her mom for you.
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You need to support your friend right now. The way to do this is to encourage her to open up to her parents. Tell her how important it is for her health. Tell her you know it will be hard but you and the other friends could offer to go with her if you can handle that. Tell her that you are giving her 1 week to tell them or you will have to because you are so worried about her and her health. That way she can pick her own destiny, either she tells or you do but it has to be done. Good luck!
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You need to talk to her and tell her she have to do this for the sake of heself and the babay so the baby can have the rite nutrients it needsa. If she cant tell her parents let her tell her aunt or her grandmother. Dont tell her parents for her because she would hate you for what you did. Be there for and let her know you are there for. BEST OF LUCK
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Her parents don't need to know unless she's pregnant.

Wait 1 month, take a test and if it's positive tell her parents. If not, they never need to know.

If you tell her parents she will never forgive you for betraying her trust, especially if she isn't pregnant.

Good luck!
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what a pickle, she needs to tell her parents but offer to go with her as support. how old is the boyfriend? what he has done is illegal and something needs to be done so he doesnt get another girl of your age in the same situation.
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Your friend has made a bad decision and since she gave in to this "perfect" boyfriend she needs to tell her parents herself. If she is pregnant telling her parents that she is pregnant is not the hardest thing coming her way. It is going to be hard for her to go to college when she is older because she will have to take care of her child also. You mentioned that she was 13. Hasen't she been through the health class where the talked about not being pressured into s*x. Best of luck to you friend.
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Just be a good friend.. let her handle the family and you handle her emotions. If I were her I would never be able to trust u again if u told. So be a great friend and help her anyway you can... let her do her own dirty work. She put herself there, she has to get herself out.
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maybe encourage her to go to a counselor and they can talk to her and tell her how to break it to her parents easier.
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wow. that's a lot for you guys to handle! fortunately, you have each other.. she needs to find out for sure if she's pregnant. and she needs to tell her parents (obviously..). you 3 need to invite yourseves over for a sleepover or something.. maybe not a sleepover.. just a day thing. let her practice on you guys. she probably hasn't come to terms with it yet. it hasn't hit her. the main thing is to be there for her. let her tell her own parents.. it's her responsibility. i know it's going to be tough.. but you've got each other. please let me know if you need any help or just want to talk. i'm a good listener. i'm 19 (almost 20- august) and i'm a virgin.. i'm talking to a 12 year old and a 14 year old who are also pregnant on yahoo.. you are all very brave. feel free to message me. i also have a facebook group called "dear steph:" for any info. you can call me day or night. i live in florida time zone wise.. good luck to all of you!

steph
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She needs to tell her parent. They may be angry with her but she knows she can't handle this alone.
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Be a friend and go tell her parents yourself. It is imperative that your friend have medical care RIGHT AWAY - she could die if she doesn't. She is also at risk of hemorrhaging (because she is pregnant) if she is ever injured or falls - so everyone at school, at home, etc... needs to know she is expecting a baby.

Be a friend and tell all the adults - maybe start with YOUR mom!
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You need to tell her to tell her parents. Her parents need to know about this. This is a serious thing.
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she could call 1-800-395-HELP to talk to trained consultants that have experience helping pregnant teenagers. They can talk her into telling her parents and advise her on what to say. If she refuses to call them, maybe you could call and ask them how you can get her to tell her parents or you could put her on the phone. I'm sure they could help and also give her information that she will need. You should at least for now take her to a Planned Parenthood to get a ultra sound, buy prenatal vitamins and books about pregnancy and childbirth if she has decided to keep the baby or adopt.
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she will eventually have to tell .But she needs to speak IMIDIATELY if she waits any longer the baby wont recieve the rite care.soothe her and talk to her. tell her how much she is endangering the baby, she doesnt need a child with disabilities at 13 so its best to speak now.

the parents will love the baby more than she thinks.
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Yes, there is a great possibility that she can get pregnant even if they only did it once, especially if your friend has had regular menses already. It is better that her parents be told and maybe as her friends you can all be her moral support when she tells them. And maybe next time try not to allow yourselves to be cornered in situations that you can't handle. Keep in a group, your friends are your own protection. Take care always.
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well, she needs to tell her parents now, the longer she waits the worse it will be and plus, they will probably start to notice, i mean especially once she starts getting morning sickness and all that,
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parents are going to find out one way of another whether its her telling her of them seeing her giant belly

tell them for her. she may hate you for a while but someday she will understand and she may not say it but she will be thankful
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let her deal with it herself. maybe try taking her to the doctor and seeing what they can do. but sooner or later theyv gotta find out. but dont tell them for you. your trying to do the right thing but your doing the wrong thing its not your desiction . and + how do you know shes pregnant. maybe just because shes putting on a little wait means nothing. make sure she takes a pregnancy test
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You have to be there for her, just sit down and think, 'How many times was she there for you?' Probably a lot. It's not your choice to tell her parents just yet. Sit down and talk to her, and tell her choices. Tell her, she needs proper care and she needs to tell them! Good luck.
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for the record, they DO NOT have to get married. the girl that said so is an idiot. she should talk about it to her parents, she NEEDS to see a doctor. she should not have to marry someone like that.

good luck =)

GO C A DOC!!
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dont tell her parents.she'll do it herself. make her eat healthy foods.she might as well have a healthy baby.tell her boyfriend.he sucks.and tell her when she tells her parents, to tell who the father is and that they have to talk to his parents to work things out. lastly, they have to get married.
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Don't tell her parents for her, she'd hate you forever. She needs to be the one to step up to the plate and tell her parents.
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You really need to stress to her how badly she needs to tell her parents because the sooner she does the better. She needs to be able to receive thre propper care she needs.
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Sweetie, she has to tell her mom herself. It'll be better for the whole situation - and as much as you'd like to help her, this is her problem and she needs to handle it. Just tell her to talk it out with her parents and decide what to do. I'm sorry, but you can't do this for her.
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