14 and cant stop wanting a baby ..what can i do???

Question

I'm 14 at the moment,every time I see a baby or hear, I just feel sad and depressed. I don't know any teen mothers personally so it's not pressure from anyone. i really want a baby, I'm good with them too. I look after sometimes 3 kids( 2 newborns) and still cope well even though my age. I just don't know what to do ....plz help ??

Answer 1

Nothing wrong with having a maternal instinct. Having a baby of your own however is something you might  want to postpone until you are educated , settled and  in a  stable relationship / married. At my local hospital they have this scheme where  volunteers  go in to  baby intensive care wards and cuddle the  premature babies. Apparently studies  have been done that  prove that  just being held  and cuddled does wonders for their development and  growth, and the nursing staff  don't  have the time and the parents have to sleep at some stage! Maybe you could look in to this in your home town.

Answer 2

please dont have a baby until you're married if you love babies as much as you say, you wouldnt want your child to live without a dad because he left when the two of you were to young to raise him. i want to be a mom more than anything and that's exactly what makes me wait.

Answer 3

Get a puppy, instead.  They are almost as much work, but they grow up much faster and are cheaper in the long run.

Answer 4

I felt the same way when I was 15 and it happened I ended up getting knocked up and of course dumped, and had to raise my son with my parents help.Thank god my parents are so awesome. But trust me.. 6 years later and Im still relying on my parents, no job, no degree. All i have is my son. It's just much better to wait till your married and find someone who loves you- reallly loves you and will be there for your kids. And if you have a good job and are stable. I wish I had someone to tell me to wait.

Answer 5

i have that feeling sometimes too =)

dont worry, youre not alone. but having a baby too soon, closes a lot of doors for you. like how your family might think about it, less time for friends and school. itll also be hard to support a child at 14. you can babysit to satisfy your hunger for babies. its definetly not worth to lose your virginity at 14 to have a kid. in the long run, you should wait. it also takes a lot of physical and mental preparation.

Answer 6

first of all i think it is normal for you to feel this way. I remember wanting a baby at a young age with all the hormone changes and so forth that go on at that age.  I was really good with kids too and i worked in a daycare for years.

BUT!! I strongly suggest that you  finish school before you have one. They are a lot more work than just babysitting. And think about it do you really want to be at home taking care of a kid during the best years of your life. You will miss out on a lot of fun times.

You have plenty of years left in your life to have a baby. Enjoy the REALLY fun years of your life.

Answer 7

There's no way to HELP your problem...

It's a maturity thing, you're far too young to have one. deal with it.

maybe you could get a part time job (or something) at a pre-school.

Answer 8

dont even try!!!my cousin went through the same thing and ended up dropping out of school at 13...ask an adult or family member with a baby if you can stay with them for a day and take care of the baby. if you still feel like you want a baby after that then try volenteering at a nursery or kindergarten

Answer 9

hey omg i feel the same exact way! i am 15 and i cant stop thinking about having a baby i want to sooo bad but i know i dont  want to dissapoint my parents or anybody and im just going to wait but i totally understand!!!!

Answer 10

get a dog

having a baby

this early can seriously mess up your "teenagehood" and your future greatly

im 15

and have seen this happen to people

and in a way

people can pity you for your poor sense of judgement[as ive seen]

and will begin to question your morals

Answer 11

babbies are always cute but u don't want to get pregnet right now    ur way to young and it would hurt like heck   people would think of u differently   it is just hormones so just keep baby sitting and don't have s*x it will go away sooner or later don't worry just be patient

Answer 12

OMG

r u kidding me??

I got pg at 16 and i am now 18.

my son is about to be 2.

I wanted to have like 4 kids and now ! is just FINE.

I love my son to death but I definately do not reccomend it.

I have been married a year now to the father of my son and it is still extremely hard. So, i give props to all those single moms who have a job and a child. Fortunately, I dont have to work and i am in college but it is not as easy as you think it would be. I worked at a daycare and babysitted too.

but it is still not the same.

PLEASE WAIT

Answer 13

Just realize it will be better for you and the baby to wait.

For now just be an amazing babysitter.. The best part is you can get paid for it..lol..

Answer 14

Sometimes I feel the same but then I think how would my parents act and how would my relatives act so if you every see the baby borrowers its a good t.v. show it's about teenagers wanting babies they are a bit older but it's a message to teenagers

Answer 15

read about other 14 year olds that have kids

im 21 i was 20 when i had my first married for 2 yrs to my highschool sweetheart but seriously even now i get stressed and couldnt imagine being young single[most likely] and still in school with a baby

i know you dont want to hear the facts but you need to

pampers are 13.50 and thats the cheapest ive seen

formula is 23.50 for the big cans and yes you can get that on wic

wipes are expensive unless you get the cheap ones and they are def. cheap that clean up nothing

you have no job and are too young to get one unless for some reason your parents own one and even then they can get into trouble for that

my husband is an e-4 in the military and we do well but still have finacial problems not really with raising our daughter or buying her things she needs but with stuff we want to do

then theres the school aspect how are you going to do in school with 3 hours or less of sleep

who's gonna raise your baby when your in school for the next 3-4 years

seriously think long and hard about all of this....and then think of the baby you want to bring into the world and do whats best for it thats the best ive got for you

Answer 16

just have 1 and i'll be the baby daddy just send me a message we will meet up

i'm 13 i live in houston

Answer 17

Come on your fourteen years old. At 18 i had my son Connor and my goodness the love you have for that child is a wonderful thing BUT having a baby is very hard work. You are still so young and still have so much to learn about the ways of the world. I bet you have not asked yourself some very obvious questions that maybe you should ask yourself like who would support you financially, who would look after that baby while you were at school, what would happen to your social life. Have some fun mate before you have kids and like i said it is a wonderful thing but that wonderful thing should wait till you are in a stable relationship and you are mature enough to PROPERLY take care of a baby. Don't spoil your teens once there gone there gone. Best of luck and i hope you take the mature route.

Answer 18

what ru thinking your stil a baby????? stick to babysitting

Answer 19

You can't always get what you want, but if you try some time, you just might find, you get what you need......

We have wants, and needs.

You don't need a kid right now, you may think they are the coolest thing since sliced bread, but babysitting 3 kids is not the same as being responsible for one, full time, for the rest of your life.

However, you feel the need to be near kids, so stop by a nearby daycare and ask if you can help them out.   They will not be able to hire you, because of your age, but they may be willing to let you work with the kids and help the care givers.

Also volunteer at the church.  There is not a church anywhere that doesn't need nursery workers.... usually parents are drafted, and forced to work.  They would LOVE to have a 14 yr old, and could probably find you extra babysitting jobs as well.

Answer 20

i will get that thought off my head...i became pregnant when i was 14 and had my daughter when i was 15 ...they are a big responsibility..u may think that just because u watched over some newborns..for a couple of days or maybe months gives u the super mom image.. ...but u having so young would mean a lifelong compromise....for me its real hard because i cant go anywhere with my friends.. its just now me and the baby..things are not the same.. u have to dedicate Urey whole tI'me to that child.. im 16 and my daughter is a year now..as soon as they start growing its going to get even more complicated

Answer 21

im 14 and have a 5 month old baby girl i say you have a baby but wait for someone you really love

Answer 22

I know the feeling, I get it too and I'm 15.

But just realize that you're still really young right now and have plenty of time in the future to have kids of your own.

For now, just babysit. You get to play/take care of the kids, without having to worry about how you're going to pay for them, work, etc.

Answer 23

Volunteer at a day care.  They will love to have you.  

And you can major in Early Childhood Ed. in college and be a super Mom when you are in your twenties.

Answer 24

I know how you feel!!!! I want a baby so bad[i'm 15]  but i'm making the decision to wait until i am married, i currently have a job doing pony parties for children's b-day's that has helped me and made it harder but just keep babysitting until you can actually support a baby.i know how u feel i'm not trying to be mean. just telling you the truth that i realized to. if you truly love babies and want one wait until you can give it the best life ever!!!!

Answer 25

Just keep babysitting, it is hormones and environmental factors in your life causing you to want a baby so bad.  I was like that at 14 too.  At 16 I lost my viriginity and hoped to get pregnant (and I even had a great mom who I was well bonded with) but God I feel had other plans because I didn't get pregnant until i was 22.  I love my boys and looking back now I am glad i didn't end up having a baby at 16 because my life wasn't ready yet.  I did babysit a lot and I mean really a lot up until having my boys.