14 & pregnant. What are my options?

Question

Okay so basically i'm 6 weeks pregnant...I'm not going to have an abortion, i just couldnt live with myself...but how do i tell my parents? And when do i tell my parents? if i do will they make me have an abortion? if so i dont want to do it until as late as possible.

I am just going into year 10.

My parents are divorced. My mum lives in Cornwall (i live with her) & my dad lives in Surrey.

What do i do??

I AM NOT PUTTING IT UP FOR ADOPTION!

i am keeping it whatever anyone says...i just need to know how to tell my parents....?

Answer 1

They can not force you to have an abortion, even if you are underage. You need to tell them soon, as you will need support at this time. I can't tell you exactly what to say to them, whatever you say it is not gonna be easy.

Answer 2

good luck hun i hope everything goes well. i know this is very very vyer difficult for u and im not joking when i say try watching the secret life of the american teenager. the gril is a little bit older than u but not by much. seriously though u might get some ideas from watching it. :)  

Answer 3

you need to tell your parents as soon as possible then you need to talk to your head or year ot school. because your going into year 10 your going to be doing your GCSE's soon so you'll need someone to look after the baby while your at school. i used to work in a nursry and there was a baby there whose mum was 15 and her school paid for her childcare for when she was in school. not sure if your parents have to be on benefits to qualify for it tho.

good luck with everything hunni

Answer 4

1.) Adoption.

2.) Abortion.

3.) Keep the baby.

4.) Your parents take the baby as theirs.

Because you want to keep the baby, options 1 and 2 are out. Because your parents are divorced, option 4 is out unless you have relatives that would take it. So that leaves you with, ta da, option 3.

Are you ready to be a mother?

You actually sound very calm and collected about the situation, and you sound mature. I would say you would deal with this and do a good job.

Tell your mom first! Then ask her how to tell your dad.

Answer 5

Just go right out and tell her, best of luck to you and your baby.

Try kidshealth.com for pregnacy info, I fing it informative, I think it has a unbiased article on pregnant teens and what to say to parents too..

Anyway raising a baby is hard work, but it will be very rewarding too, just hang in their.

Answer 6

Tell your mum now! No one can make you have an abortion or give your baby up for adoption. You could wait for a quiet moment with your mum and tell her how you feel. If she goes mad at you, (I dont think she will) she won't mean it, its cos its a shock probably, she'll come round to the idea. Whatever your decision is, its your choice, be prepared to grow up fast if you want to be a mum, its hard, I know cos one of my mates, sisters, frend (confusin!) had a baby at 14 almost 15.

Good luck! :)

Answer 7

i think you are definitely making the right decision,

just sit her down and tell her your sorry and that you didn't plan it but you are pregnant and threess nothing you can do about it and that you couldn't live with the fact of killing it or giving it away.

it will obviously be hard for it but i'm sure eventually she will come to terms with it and realise it's what you want and she will probs help you out with things whilst you are at school. good luck - hope i helped xx

Answer 8

well if your sure about not having an abortion

first off sit your mom down and tell her your very sorry but your pregnant and you dont belive you want an abortion (she will be mad but get over it)

tell her you would like to finish your education and you really need her help , would she be willing to support you.

Answer 9

Before anything else, let me say that I've admired your decision of not aborting the baby or putting it up for adoption. It takes a lot of courage to do that...

Now, to confess your current situation to you parents, you just have to be straightforward about it, there's no other way of telling them. They're you're parents and couldn't possibly force you to abort the baby. But they would get mad at you. Still, I know they'd forgive you in due time.

Answer 10

Find a quiet time when your mom isn't distracted with anything and tell her you need to talk.  Tell her soon!  You two should discuss your options and see a doctor to be sure you are healthy and taking all of the right steps.  Good luck.  It's not easy.

Answer 11

why are you asking for options and opinions on what to do when you've already set in stone what you want to do?

just tell them. the days of sugarcoating are behind you.  

Answer 12

that's the result of s*x in an early age. being a mother is soooo hard and im sure you wouldnt enjoy being a teenager. you'll suffer!! but hey,im not here to nag you,tell your parents right away, and if it happens that they scold you or something, be ready to suffer the consequences. that's all.

Answer 13

tell your parents as soon as possiable becuz there are certain things you need to do while being pregnate.

they might not want you to get an abortion.

how to tell them well.... first telll the parent who you think will understand then you and the parent tell the less understanding one together, Mention you don't wanna have an abortion and who the father is . you also have to tell the father

good luck

Answer 14

If you are planning on keeping the baby how are you going to support the child?  If you think you are going to be living with your mom still and having her help raise the baby you are not being very realistic.   What about school...who will watch the baby when you are at school?  If you need daycare then how and who is going to pay for that?  You really need to think about these things if you are so adamant you are keeping the baby.  As for telling your parents you tell them when you think it is too late for them to force you to have an abortion (12 weeks along).  Brace yourself for a very difficult conversation but you do need to tell them since it will become obvious at some point.

Answer 15

you need to tell your mum straight away just sit her down and tell her you need to talk telll her just to listen to what you have to say she will be glad you have told her dont keep it a secret and she wont make you get rid of it that is somthing that is up to you as you will have to live with that the rest of your life . good luck xxxxx

Answer 16

well it is up to u what u do but u have to tell ur parents and it will not be easy but if u don't tell them they will find out sooner or later u made a mistake by having s*x so now u have to grow up really fast and face what ever happens hate to tell u but life isn't going to be easy for u good luck hope it works out for u

Answer 17

Okay.. First of all id like to say i do NOT approve of kids having s*x and getting pregnant, second id like to say.. well done for taking responsibility, people alot older than you end up getting abortions.. i think you deserve alot of respect..

please remember that having kids is not easy.. seriously its worth every minute but sometimes you wanna scream and cry cos you cant remember the last time you even got to pee in peace!!!

anyways im sure thats not what you wanna hear.. if i were you i would tell her by saying something like...'i think my period is late, what do you think i should do'  she will probably know what your trying to say..

it wont be easy and shes gonna be so mad at you, thats natural and shes allowed to feel like that.. it wont last forever..

make sure your healthy, dont smoke or drink, go to doctors and take your folic acid etc

good luck and i hope you have a healthy pregnancy...xx

Answer 18

first off,why are you having s*x at your age your a child,and having a child,So there is your mistake.you will be outcast from your family in my personal life,i have a cousin that probably is about your age or a yr or two older,and has 2 kids...worse part is she is still living with her mon and her boyfriend is living with them two,and she does not even take care of the kids seeing she lets her mom take care of them....

My advice is kids should not be having s*x in till they are ready for all the conqusetines that come with having a child.

Answer 19

you're just going to have to tell them, it's your body so they can't make you have an abortion or anything, but you should tell them sooner rather than later because the longer you wait the harder it will be

Answer 20

It may seem the hardest thing that you have to do but really you have to get it over with!

The stress of worrying about it is not good for a pregnant girl!

This may seem harsh and i am not against you in any way but if you were mature enough to have s*x be mature enough to tell your parents!

They love you and i am sure will help you!

Answer 21

well you just go and tell your parents i am sorry but mom dad i am pregnant i am sorry if this upsets you in any way but i am making it my full responsibilty to take care of this baby thats all you got to say

Answer 22

just sit down with ur mum and explain my mum and dad tryed to talk me into getting rid of my baby but i wasnt having any of it there diapointed in me now im 33 weeks pregnant expecting a little girl i no things are going to be hard but it what iv got to live with i love my baby already and cant wait to hold her in my arms if u want to talk email me [e-mail] gd luck with everything

Answer 23

you are still a baby yourself, and you are going to have a baby

you stuffed up when you opened your legs to some other thoughtless baby

now your options are   you wont have much of a life from now on   with a baby you cant go out and enjoy yourself with friends same age as yourself, you have blown your education  therefor stuffed up in getting a god job

Answer 24

Your poor parents. I wouldnt nkow what to do if my 14 y/o little baby was pregnant. think about them and how this is going to imact their lifes as well. hopefully you all can raise the child together as one family. seeing as you'll need to becuase your only still a child yourself

Answer 25

You need to tell them as soon as possible, so just coming out with "I'm pregnant" will be the best course of action.

No one can 'make' you have an abortion, they may be angry as you are only 14, but you need to tell them asap.

Answer 26

FOr any pregnancy there are three options:

Abortion

Adoption

You keep it.

You have ruled out the first two so you have really answered your question yourself.  Are you sure you want a  baby?  It's only a few cells at the moment, nothing else.

As for telling your parents, you will just have to tell them straight away.  They might be cross to start with but they will help you and you will be glad they know.

Answer 27

Hey,

You sure have got a little problem here. I think it is very admirable that you are not going to get rid of the baby. It's never going to be easy but I suggest you try telling the parent you are closest to, first. They will probably get very mad at first, but then become more understanding. Explain who it was with, why it happened and how. Accept you have made a mistake (you've done that already) and tell them how you're going to resolve it. Work very hard at school to try and get some GCSE's before the baby is born if possible as it will be easier later.

Make sure you talk to them both, and your boyfriend about it.

Good Luck to you, your boyfriend, your family and of course, your beautiful baby-to-be.

"Kat to win bb9" I am disgusted in you. How do you know how this girl will turn out as a mother? How dare you say that you hope the baby dies?!! I'm sure they will be a lovely little family and maybe you don't deserve children yourself if you are so blind to different options. Maybe one day you'll come on here looking for advice and help and some ***** will say back to you about how your a bad mother.

Get a life you sadcase.

(Sorry that paragraph ended up longer!)

Answer 28

First off I will not judge since I got pregnant at 13, you need to just tell your parents because you can't hide a baby forever, and they can not make you have an abortion its your baby and your body its your choice not theirs, and also if you did get an abortion don't wait til later to get it because its just harder on your body (I don't believe in abortion unless the baby might die soon after birth or not even make it to be born.) And since you plan on keeping the baby you really have no options besides telling your parents.

Answer 29

I'm the same age as you, also going into year 10. I'm not gonna say, well you shouldn't have doneit, use protection etc, because what's done is done.

You have to tell your mum, the sooner the better. You will also have to tell the father of the baby. No one can force you to get an abortion. You will have to think about school too, it's gonna put a lot of stress on your schoolwork, especially as this and next year are really important because of out GCSE's. You will have to plan ahead, you might not be able to even go to school in the final stages of pregnancy!

All the best and good luck,

-Alex <3

Answer 30

next time don't do s*x if you ended up problematic or worried of the result.. we should have a self control on things like s*x because we are not animals that do s*x anytime they want.. There is a proper time to do it ..

Answer 31

First of, Let me say congratulations to you on deciding to keep the baby and taking up your responsibilities.

It would be best for you to tell your parents as soon as possible so you get the prenatal care you need. And don't worry, NOBODY can make you get an abortion, only you can decide that.

Just sit your mom down, (since you live with her) and calmly tell her you made a mistake, but your willing to take responsibility for it. And just point blank, "I'm pregnant." Then I'm sure she will call your dad and tell him herself.

Good luck to you.