14 year old bestfriend meets 23 year old guy on internet and is in love with him?...?

Question

So, i've known my bestfriend Ronni for 3-4 years and she introduced me to Kyle. She's known him for a year, and met him online. She's turning 14 and he's 23. Her parents don't know about it either. She was in love with our other good friend named Ryan, but suddenly introduced me to this guy and in 3 days fell in love with him...before she introduced me to him he was just a random guy to her. I tried talking sense into her but she keeps saying "If gender doesn't matter in love why should your age matter." she won't listen to me. I talked to the guy and he kept trying to convince me that it's ok, but it's not. So does anyone have any advice that could help my bestfriend realize how screwed up this is?...

Answer 1

If she thinks love is so all-encompassing that age doesnt matter, then tell her 4 more years wont be such a big deal either and that she can wait that long until its less illegal.

23 years old? He WILL try to have s*x with her. Just the fact that she fell desperately in love in 3 days and that she's not more skeptical about the situation means she's not ready for a sexual relationship with an adult (she's probably not ready for s*x with a peer either but thats another story).

I agree that the best thing to do would be to tell the parents. But i know that can be SO hard because you dont necessarily want to betray your friendship. Maybe what you can do is tell YOUR parents and have them discuss it with HER parents. Then when she gets mad, just tell her you had to tell an adult because you care about her so much and you were worried. And that you didnt expect your parents to go directly to her parents.

Maybe she'll be less mad at you. If you guys stay friends then she'll thank you later. You guys are 13/14 year olds now... there's a good chance you wont stay friends for more than a few years anyhow. So as harsh as this sounds, losing her friendship might not be the worst thing in the long run. But knowing that you could've stopped a friend from being raped and that you didnt... that could mess you up for a long time.

Answer 2

tell her it can be an online predator, there are many cases in which older people met young kids and that all ended up in a completely horrible situation

Answer 3

Sorry honey but the best advice your going to get on this site is to "tell your parents"

Answer 4

Yeah, show her how much you care by telling her parents. Gender doesn't matter but we do expect (by we I mean anyone with common sense and an opinion) that the two women or men are adults. It's sick to consider a 14 year old girl even contemplating being with a 23 year old man....I would tell her parents and it that doesn't work...tell the cops...Bottom line, If this guy is considering datinga  14 year old....He is a sicko and you can't let him around your friend. Wouldn't it suck if he did something to her and you had to live with the guilt of not having done anything to stop it from happening.  

Answer 5

Tell her parents. I know it is not a great feeling to tell on her, but you tried to talk sense into both of them, and this is a very serious issue. As in, illegal.

Answer 6

Hi, I'm Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC.........

Answer 7

well shes known him for a whole year give him some credit

and besides just b/c shes in love with him doesn't mean that hes in love with her

Answer 8

*cough* *cough* paedophile *cough* *cough*

tell her parents.

there is no other option. she will be pissed in the beginning but she will realise you are her friends when she isnt raped and left for dead

Answer 9

tell her parent tell your parent this needs to be solved and this is seriously bad

Answer 10

find a way for her parents to find out without her knowing it was you. props to you for having a brain unlike your friend