14 year old girl friend?

Question

Need Advice.?Please help?

I ask this question several times but i want more advice and fix the question up.

My Girl Friend is having a baby. My Girl Friend had s*x and we are going to have a baby. We are both 14 years old We started going out less then 4 months ago she is 3 months and 14 days pregnant,

Her parents are not going to be happy. They might even kick her out.

I have asked this but i want more advice

What is the best way to tell her Parents?

My Parents wont be happy but they will help any way they can.

what will be the best way to tell my mom and dad?

we both want to keep the baby

She is going to family court and get her parents away from her. They are that mean to her.

My Parents are helping her with that

we talked about asking my parents to adopted our child. But 1st we have to tell the about the baby

We kinda knew each other for years but we never talked. Then one day at school i got really sick and she helped me out. She changed my life. We both made one mistake. we learn from our mistake.

Me and her still like each other alot

This is true.

Answer 1

Just flat out tell them. If the girl's parents are "mean" you should have both you and your parents present. Plus about the baby, shes the one having it, and good for you for supporting her. Good Luck!

Answer 2

My best friend is 17 years old and she had a baby a year ago. She's probably the best teenage mother out there but I have to agree, put the baby up for adoption. You're not ready to take care of yourselves much less a kid. I won't berate you on your life choices since it is not my place but remember that taking a kid is VERY hard. Also, having a child at 14 could seriously harm her body as she is still developing. Keep in mind that it could hurt your girlfriend in the long run. Think your decisions out before deciding.

Oh and Good luck. ^^

Answer 3

I agree with answer number 2. and probably another..

you created the child, the child will be YOUR responsibilty.. and your "girlfriends"

One way to learn from your mistakes is to pay for them..

I would seriously concider holding off on sexual contact until your both older and realize what happens when your not careful and mature.

I am sure if you both work together you will be wonderful parents and maybe in the future you will marry and have a family, and more children.

Who knows..

Until then, play it smart and take care of your child to the best of your ability.. i am sure it will all work out and you will have a support group, and help from your folks. Good luck and congrats on the little one.

Ps.. just tell them about the baby.. the longer you hide it.. the less you will be trusted in the future.

Answer 4

I applaud you both for deciding not to abort. However....you are only 14. You are very young, and as a parent myself I can tell you right now you are *not* ready to be parents. The fact that you guys had s*x at 14 in a brand-new relationship makes it kinda obvious that you don't yet have the judgment that parenting requires. I'm not saying that to judge you guys.... but it's true.

You should give the baby up for adoption and give it a chance to be raised by a stable, married couple who is ready and responsible enough to care for it. That would be best for the baby even though it would be hard for both of you. You two "like each other alot"....doesn't your baby deserve parents who are in a more stable relationship than that? Please, give it some serious thought. And good luck.

And you have to tell your parents. There is no easy way to do it but they will find out soon anyways. Just man up and tell them.

Answer 5

she is very young, so she will need her parents support in the best way possible.. tell her to sit her parents down, and b4 she says n e thing about the baby, she needs to tell them that shes made a mistake, shes learned from it, and shes very scared and right now all she needs is their support.. and to voice record it too.. this way if her parents say any thing bad or touch her in any way, she has proof for this "family court" u speak of. .  hope this help hun, and good luck!!

oh yah, and the 2nd person who answered this question is VERY RUDE, and shud not being saying stuff like that to you, wtf is your problem!! people like you make me sick...

but good luck!!

Answer 6

i think you both are ridiculous and THE TWO of you should raise the baby NOT your parents, to easy for you.

I think her parents should keep custody of their daughter and pay attention to what shes doing in her life and your parents are just like la de da my 14 yr kid got some girl knocked up;

im sorry but what kinda girl is having s*x at 14 yrs of age ? and what are YOU doing have s*x at 14 ?

Your lives are ruined, nice.

Put the baby up for adoption cause obviously your parents failed as well in parentin

Answer 7

"Changed your life" should be the understatement of the century. Do you have ANY idea how much kids change your life?

You're both going to have to tell your parents. That baby is coming- and the longer you put off telling your parents the more risks that come to your girlfriend and her baby. She needs medical care, now. She's also a high risk pregnancy patient, since she's so young. I can't stress enough how important it is to tell both of your parents and for her to see an OB/GYN.

If you want to keep the baby, her parents can't make her have an abortion. Tell her that if they try to, that she should fight them and tell them "No" and refuse to go. If they drag her there, she should be kicking and screaming in the clinic saying "I don't want an abortion". No doctor will perform it on her if she does that.

It's good that your parents are helping her. Both of you need to stay in school so that kid has a future. Get a job as soon as you're able to. Tell your girlfriend to get on WIC- they provide food and formula for underprivileged pregnant women, children, and babies.

Lastly, I know this is a scary and sudden change for you, but you HAVE to live with the consequences of your decisions. Support your girlfriend when she gets the pregnancy blues-and trust me she will-and be there for her in every way you can. You have to grow up fast and be a man now. This young girl is carrying your child. That is a huge responsibility on your shoulders. I know you can handle it. Good luck.