15 y/o girl, straight A student, parents don't let me do anything?

Question

I'm 15 years old, a straight A student, and in my entire life, I've only done one thing that should cause by parents to not trust me, about a year ago (it really wasn't that bad, either.) Since then, I've proven to them that I'm very, very trustworthy. Yet they don't let me do anything involving guys or go to "parties." They were relatively crazy when they we're younger but now they over react to everything.

I think part of it has to do with my 17 year old brother who's really nerdy and anti-social and never goes to parties or has had a girlfriend or anything.

What can I do to get my parents to lay the h**l off?

Answer 1

Tell them what you just said in your question that they are making your high school years negative ones.....they wont loosen up unless you tell them that its upsetting you.

or

sneak out and create your own raging social calender. what they don't know cant really hurt them (unless they find out which they will)

Don't compare your self to your brother even though he has made it harder for you by being so good as long as you keep your grades up you'll be fine.

Have fun and Good luck

Answer 2

Welcome to my life! I'm 16 and mine do the same thing!! I even have a nerdy anti-socially brother too!

Answer 3

You don't need to go to parties.  they are just people drinking, smoking weed, and having s*x.  No joke

I'm 17 next month and I'll be a senior in the fall.  I've gone to maybe 3 or 4 actual parties the whole time i was in high school, and they were all birthday parties, so there were parents and structure

Really...They know whats best. Its notthat big of a deal, you aren't really missing out on anything, just a bunch of people from your school getting drunk and acting like idiots and then you'd have to babysit them

Its dumb, just go out with girlfriends and get coffee or something

(I'm not 43, nor in the midwest.  I am in California as well.  And its not a negative high school experience unless you make it one. get involved with actual activites.  I got involved in yearbook and theatre and they take up a lot of my time and I have fun.  I also have great friends and a loving boyfriend  i'm having a great high school experience :))

Answer 4

sneak out....duh! lol

Answer 5

my parents really never let me do anything either. i was not an A student in all classes. but im glad they did that. i did not like the party scene when i got into. dont worry partying is not everything when you are just a teen. you still have plenty of years to do whatever when you are of age. i think what they are doing is that since you have all As they dont want you to mess that up. they think if you start doing these things now your grades will start to drop. and besides your parents were once teens too. they know alot more than you about what happens since they lived the party scene

Answer 6

Sadly, I have to say there may not be a way to make them lighten up a bit. They're just trying to keep you safe, even if in your view its just them not letting you do anything. Parents have to be even more cautious with daughters because there just seems to be people just trying to get into a girls pants and nothing else. Sorry I couldn't exactly help, but hopefully you understand.

Answer 7

Suggestion #1, invite friends to your house

Suggestion #2, go out in small groups with girls your parents know and like until they feel comfortable about it

Suggestion #3 Go to church and meet some other girls/guys and join the teens there. Your parents may approve of this socializing. sometimes they have fun social events.

Suggestion #4 Take your brother with you (especially to parties). Your parents probably want him to go out, and will love that! You will have to be mature enough to handle his lack of social skills, but eventually he will either improve, or you will gain more trust from your parents.

Suggestion #5 Sneak out......very dangerous. You had better really really think about this one first, and NEVER sneak out alone.  sorry to say it, but it is so dangerous!!  If you are trustworthy and a responsible girl, get a babysitting job. After you are done babysitting one evening, go out with your friends. Your parents will expect you home late anyway. You can just say the kids' parents were late coming home...... but don't go alone, never go out alone at night, be with friends.

Suggestion #6 Ask your parents about your social life and ask them what they think is reasonable. Ask them to actually describe to you what they think your social life should be like now and in a few years at college. Maybe if they describe it they will see how limiting it is. Also, point out that you need some experience so you learn and can ask them questions and get their advice while you are young. How else are you going to learn?. You don't want to go off to college and be overwhelmed and go to parties there for the first time without your parents to come home to. This is a very valid argument. Repeat  this one every few months.

Suggestion #7 Get a summer job. Maybe your parents will be happy to see you are responsible. It might help them see you as a responsible adult.

Good luck!

Answer 8

i think u need to have a serious talk with them....i think that high schoolers like us should explore evrything we can.....b/c if we dont then when we get older we would most likely be outta control...b/c of things we didnt experience on our own

Answer 9

i understans where your coming from i was in the same position, but that didnt stop me..i became very clever/sneaky! but dont do that because that part of the reason im preggo now!

Answer 10

Sounds like your parents are smart. PArents who let their kids do whatever they want don't really care what their kids do. So, obviously your parents do care about you, and do care what you do, and want the very best for you -which includes safety. It also includes self discipline, which you only learn from parents who teach you how to control yourself when they say no.

Be careful what you post online, honey. Your brother has a lot of hormones -tell him what i just told you. He will have a girlfriend soon enough and she will be just like his mom.

Answer 11

Have a talk with your parents and just ask why don't they trust you?ANd also explain that you need to socialize.As long as the party is chapperoned by an adult there shouldn't be a problem.Explain that they are suffocating you and that they need to stop treating you like a little girl.You're a teen, not a little girl.And ask what are they going to do when you get to college?Are they going to treat you like a little girl forever?

Explain that they are being over bearing.

They have to cut the umbilical cord sooner or later.You're almost 18.