15 year old with questions..??

Question

I am 27 and I have a 15 year old daughter so I had her when I was 12. I am also 7 months pregnant with my 2nd child. Last night she came into my room and just started asking me questions like, "Do you ever regret having me?" "Why did you keep me, you had your whole life to live?" and things like that.

I answered her with the truth. Never, not even for one second, have I ever regretted having her, from the time I knew I was pregnant I loved her with all my heart, and that If I gave her up for adoption would never be able to forgive myself for giving up the best thing that had ever happened to me.

She has never brought any of that up before, I have always spent all my extra time with her, and since I am pregnant I am trying to spend as much as I can because I know that when the baby comes, she will get a lot less of my time. Have your kids ever asked you these things and if so how do you answer

Answer 1

she is older now and starting to think about things. I doubt it is a big thing. She probably is imagining having a 3 year old and compairing it to now. You were honest with her and that will mean a lot to her. You handled it well

Answer 2

It was good you told her the truth.  But be sure to tell her all of the truth.  If it was hard for you, tell her.  It doesn't mean you regret having her, it just means that you had a little harder of a life.  Either she is curious or bonding with you, or she could be thinking of having a baby.  Alot of girls want a baby at that age.  You should talk to her about s*x and parenting.

Answer 3

12 yrs old ..you poor thing! I cant even imagine .......You must be one strong woman

Answer 4

if she is in high school it's probomby because they have heath videos and stuff and the talk about teen pregnasy and how it ruend young girls lives. she might think that you regret her. i hope everything works out.

Answer 5

I'm glad that you were honest with her. Sounds like she was just curious, maybe curious for awhile and you being pregnant again maybe led up to her finally asking. You're both blessed for having each other.  Cograts on the new baby.

Answer 6

No, my child has not asked me these questions.

OTOH, I was not 12 when she was born.

Your daughter knows what it is like to be 12 and is imagining how your life might have been different had she not been born...what you might have done...what you have missed out on.

She can't help but think about this.

Continue to reassure her.

She is lucky to have you.

Be well.

Answer 7

Okay, its like totally normal b/c shes just wondering. And think that if you were in her situasion, wouldn't you ask. Tell her all of the details and some of the consicuences, but how you never regretted her. :D

Answer 8

YOU WERE TWELVE?????????????????

HOW?????

Answer 9

well, i wasn't exactly planned, and even though i am 19, i still go to my mom occasionally to see if she really really wanted me, or if it was just a social thing to keep your baby at that time.  us unplanned kids need reassurance a lot.  dont be hurt by her questions,  just be there with the same answer every time.

good luck and congrats with the baby!