15 yr old came home drunk?

Question

my 15 yr old daughter came home at 11(thats her curfew) drunk. What should I do. Does my daughter have serious problems?

Answer 1

Teen age drinking is a widespread problem, but there are some things you can do to keep it from happening to your daughter.  First, find out who your daughter is hanging around with that would encourage her to drink and don't let her hang with them.  Second, after grounding her, have your family start spending quality time together doing an activity you can all enjoy.  It helps if you start when they are younger, because as they get older, they aren't so keen on hanging with the parents.  However, it's never too late.  Make it a habit to talk to your daughter or rather listen to her.  Treat her and her opinions with respect and she will likely return the favor.  If your children have a good relationship with you and respect for you, they will not want to disappoint you.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

She needs some serious a$$ kicking.

Answer 3

Studies show that kids who start drinking at such early ages wind up having problems with alcohol later in life.  My suggestion?  Take her to AA and have her witness firsthand how screwed up alcohol has made people's lives.  Second of all...15?  11:00 curfew?  Sounds like she needs you to be her mother and not her friend.  

I was raised old school...if I caught my child stripping, I'd beat her BUTT!  I don't believe in abusing kids, and trust me, I don't, but I believe in using leather on their butts.  Use the board of education on the seat of learning!!  She wouldn't be going anywhere, no matter what she tells me!  I'll say it again, kids need us to be their parents, NOT their friends!

God's blessings on you and yours...Always.

Answer 4

have a serious talk with your daughter. drinking at age 15 is unacceptable. or if you want her to learn the hard way, let her drink with you...a lot. get her so drunk that she will be puking her brains out and never want to drink again. that's what my dad did to my brother and it worked.

Answer 5

So, you had your daughter when you were 14? You can't spell...and you need to know if a drunk 15 year old has problems.

Sounds like someone isn't a good mother to say the least!

Answer 6

If you don't stop it now, she will. Take something (or several somethings) away from her, like her iPod, her computer (or at least disconnect the internet), her cellphone -- don't let her dictate her own behavior in YOUR house. You're the parent, not her FRIEND.

Answer 7

Get her involved in a drug/alcohol education class.  You might be able to find one at either your local outpatient rehab or local hospital.  Also see if you can locate a Teen AA Meeting near you.  I found a link to AA meeting and posted it below.  Seeing what it's done to others might make a bigger impression on her.

Answer 8

well is this her first time coming home drunk? Why is she hanging out with people who can get her alcohol? DO you even know who her friends are? Sounds like you let her have too much freedom and you dont ever check up on her!

Answer 9

your 15 year old daughter comes home drunk and you do not know what you should do?  First of all 15 is way to early to drink. and getting drunk is  not good for any age person let alone a young girl.  Ground her-  and you say you let her do anything that she wants as long as she tells you- did she tell you that she was going to strip for her BF and his friends?  NO, of course not, until you found her doing it.  Any mother of a 15 year old should know that she should be grounded from going out for awhile until she realizes that drinking and striping is not appropriate- if she is doing this what else might she be doing?

Answer 10

You have to get a handle on it.  Take her cell phone, and she is grounded.  No talking on the phone to friends at the house either, and only supervised internet.  But you also need to have daily discussions with her on why she is acting this way, etc.  Get her to talk it out.  You might want to set her up with a few visits to a counselor as well.

Answer 11

Well, she may not have problems yet. You need to "Nip it in the bud". Don't yell at her, you'll only alienate her. Talk to her and ask her not to do it again. Explain how alcohol can wreck her life. Also how people do things under the influence that they may not do under ordinary circumstances. Men/boys can and will take advantage of her sexually and she may not even remember. Good luck. I hope she doesn't do it again. It can lead to soooo many problems.

Answer 12

looking back at my childhood ( I am from a very small town 1,000 people) and I can tell you most of us started drinking our Freshman year of high school.  You need to sit your daughter down and have a real conversation with her.  I am sure she does not have a problem but you need to talk to her about alcohol.  To be honest I would rather know that my child is drinking safely (not behind the wheel of a car or in a car with someone who has been drinking).  She is very young but in all honesty she will probably continue to drink behind your back if you don't have a realistic approach to this.  I am now 31 and looking back I would have drank a lot more if my Mom would told me that I could not.  Instead, she allowed me to have a couple of drinks at home with her and I was not allowed to leave.  Since I could do it at home it just didn't seem as fun.

Answer 13

Don't give out privileges until your daughter has shown she can handle the accompanying responsibility.  She's shown that she's totally incapable of handling the amount of freedom you gave her.  Personally, I would only allow her to go to approved activities in public places (like a library or sports practice) or friend's houses where you know the parents will be home and trust their parenting.  And, I would suggest that if that's the kind of thing that seems like a good idea with the group she was hanging out with, then it's not a good group for her to be with.  And I would seriously be restricting her privileges.

My 2 cents.

Answer 14

Simple, grounded! Thats far to young to be drinking, and you could get into a lot of trouble for this as she is well under the legal age.

If you don't put a stop to it, its going to happen over and over again

Answer 15

Well if it makes you feel any better my 15 yr old sister just started drinking, and I was doing that among other things around that age also.

However, it is TOO young to be engaging in such behaviors and their many risks (legal, physical and emotional) of her underage drinking. Lay down the law, make it CLEAR to her that this behavior will  not be tolerated, give her a set curfew, call her (or make her call you) multiple times when she is out and if she fails to comply she's grounded.

Answer 16

shes 15 shell have such a bad hang over she might not

even do it again yell at her

and thatll be good enough

make her wake up early to.

all teenagers are curious about getting high or

getting drunk, you only live once

just remeber that

Answer 17

"Serious Problems"? Not necessarily. There are so much peer pressure going on with drinking while you're a teen these days. Most likely, she did it just to "fit in".

That however, doesn't make it right. You need to discipline her. Whether it be grounding or whatever, but if you don't, she's just going to keep doing it. also talk to her about peer pressure. It's best to wait until you're legal to have that "first drink".  She doesn't have to drink to fit in. If her friends expect her to drink to be their friends, they're not real friends anyways.

Good luck.