16 and want a baby! How can I stop myself thinking about it?

Question

ok, I'm 16 and really want to have a baby!

please don't lecture me about not being financially prepared and all that because I probably won't be having a child any time soon but I want to stop wanting one because I can't stop thinking about how much I'd love to have a son or daughter.

I have tried lots of things. I have been working part time in a nursery, I went abroad to help out my cousin with her 3 year old twin boys and 3 month daughter while her husband was away on work. I thought the getting out of bed, changing nappies and the constantness (is that a word?) of it might put menoff slightly but its made me want one more because I loved eery second of it!

please don't tell me that it would be irresponsble ofme to hve a kid or judge me when u don't know me, just if u have at advice it would be very much appreciated!

thanks

Answer 1

take my  2 yr old for a day..that'll learn ya!

Answer 2

hi some people born mothers u sound sensible in saying that it wont happen any time soon when the time comes you will know best wishes in your dream to be a mum

Answer 3

Take some Midol because this is all apart of PMS. I have the same problem and I feel this total jealousness fill me when I walk anywhere near a pregnany mom or a baby. So a few deep breaths and then you should be fine.

Answer 4

Okay, I'm not going to lecture you. But you really should stop watching TV and focus on school, that will keep your mind occupied. We are adults, we know how it's like to be in the teenage years and the feelings that associate with it, so don't tell us and think that we don't know how it feels. And yes, I agree with one other person, get a puppy or another pet. It's pratically the same thing.

Answer 5

I don't see anything wrong with you wanting to have a baby. You did mention that you probably won't have a child soon and I think that you're in a mature mindset to think that way. So, continue wanting one but don't make any... "steps"... towards it. o_O

Answer 6

Maybe try getting a puppy. I just got one(I'm 15) and people keep telling me that it's a good way to teach me not to have a child because of all the work(which doesn't make sense to me because I'm not the type of person to be doing that at my age). I have to get up like every 2 hours to let her outside to potty. If she makes any messes I have to clean it up. I even pay for all her medical bills, food, everything. If you got a puppy, maybe it would either show how much work it is or it will soothe your feelings for a child. That is only if you can handle it and your parents let you have a puppy.

I tried to help.

Answer 7

Think about missing your high school prom, not going out on weekends with your friend, not going on dates,  having to hire a baby sitter just to go to high school, any freedom you have coming to a screeching halt and dont come up with the excuse that your parents or who ever will help you. Think about when a baby is constantly screaming because it's teeth hurt and there is nothing you can do to console them.... and your doing this all on 3 hours of sleep every day. Think about waking up at 2am for the day after you just got to bed a few hours before because they have an ear ache.

Think about your body... you are 16 years old, your body is not fully developed yet and is not meant to be pregnant yet. There is more of a risk of complications in teen moms. Think about laying in bed for 4 months because you went into preterm labor or god forbid, seeing a baby that weighs less than 2 lbs fighting for its life because your body could not handle a pregnancy. There are alot of things that can go wrong with a fully matured woman in her pregnancy, much less a teenager.

Maybe you should ask  your cousin if you can watch her kids with out her or their dad for about a week... around the clock. Even babysitting and being a nursery worker your not getting the full essence of being a mom. Its different when they are your own child, not just watching them for 8 hours a day. And even going with your cousin for 3 months... she and her husband were there, you were not doing it alone.

I suggest going to college and going to be a kindergarden teacher or something if you love working with kids. And I know you said you dont want to hear it, but kids cost alot of money. Wait till the time is right and you get a good job that you can support yourself on (i.e. pay rent, utilities, car payment, insurance, etc.) then have a child. Yes it IS a huge factor and should be taken into consideration when having a child. You can not live on love alone...

Answer 8

Everyone wants a baby... there's nothing wrong with that. They are cute and adorable and fun but there are a lot more than just waking up at night. Being a parent is a 24hrs job. U are going to miss your youth while being a parent. Don't grow up too fast. Occupy yourself with some other activities young ppl like you do.  U will never get to be 16 again if u miss it so have fun being young. Worry abt adulthood and motherhood in the future. Enjoy the moment!

Answer 9

Get a puppy.

It's basically the same thing.

Answer 10

I had my son at 16 and it ruined my chance at finishing  high school and going to college. Also, because my body wasn't ready to carry I only went 25 weeks before he was born  at 1lb 14oz and he has Cerebral Palsy because his brain wasn't fully developed. Not that I don't love him but I just wonder what life may have been like if I could have kept my feet on the floor and my pants zipped. :-)

Answer 11

There is nothing wrong with WANTING.

Answer 12

Watch Baby Borrowers.

Answer 13

How about this?  There is a reason that up until the 20th century giving birth was the #1 cause of death for women.  It is still not something to be taken lightly:

Tubal Pregnancy: http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnanc...

Pregnancy Discomforts: http://www.webmd.com/baby/understanding-...

Toxemia (common for pregnant teens): http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/preeclam...

Gestational Diabetes: http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnanc...

An in-depth look at labor and delivery: http://www.webmd.com/baby/labor-delivery

Postpartum depression: http://www.webmd.com/depression/postpart...

Sound like fun?????

Answer 14

You have only see a small part of being a parent. Try to do something tiring all day then baby sit them without them taking a nap or when they may have had a bad day. Try taking them along when you want to have fun with your friends. AND if you know some1 with a child with a disability like autsim or who requires extra care try dealing with them without somone there to guide you for an hour. Its not all smiles and laughter.

Answer 15

Do you have a partner? It helps if you have someone to share the parental workload with.  Raising a baby means double the work if you try to do it alone.  And if you do have a partner, then ensure that you know how to keep a relationship going and happy. Invest in one of Gottman's books on relationships, for example.  Be certain to take parenting courses as well. And support of your family is invaluable.

But frankly, women of all ages can experience a strong desire to have a baby. It is part of our programming. And, frankly, your most fertile years are up until you are about 27 or so ... so there is no sense in waiting until your 30s.

Answer 16

Maybe you should just think and plan about when you get older to have a baby.  Just change your thinking to when I have a baby.  I know you would rather be out of school and have a good job so you can give your baby everything.