17, having a baby, i need help!!!!!!!!!?

Question

well i am 17 and starting my last year in high school soon. well this summer was going really well until i found out that i was well going to have a baby. i am 10 weeks and i have been to a doc but i have not told my mom or dad bec they will be sooooo mad. but my friends have been telling me that i am not aloud to go to school bec of the baby thing is that true. or can i go to school in till i start to show. i dont even know what to do about keeping the baby or even tell my parents and now is it true i cant go to school but i can to to a school for teen mothers where would i even find a school like that. what should i do i need help

Answer 1

go to school have your baby,but make sure you tell your parents.at first they are going to argue but after they will get over it

Answer 2

I went to school right up until 2-3 weeks before my due date. I didn't turn 17 until 3 weeks before I left school. If you go to a regular public school, no it's not true. Some private schools may not allow it though. You'll have to check into it

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hun, I'm so sorry to hear your story...I can imagine things are really hard for you right now... Are you planning on keeping the baby or adoption...your a little late for the other choice. What do you think would be best for the baby? I know telling your parents will be the hardest thing in your life (I honestly couldn't imagine telling my parents if I were in your situation) but they're your parents right? They love you. They want what's best for you and who else comes along. Be brave and be strong. You can stay in school and it would be best, even though facing your peers is just as hard as facing your parents. Things will get better, I promise. Good Luck!

Answer 4

i don't see why you cant go to school i went to school with allot of pregnant people but the best thing is to tell your parents i know your scared but that way they can help you help yourself. 10 weeks is a crucial point you need help and your parents can do it!ad for a minute but they will get over it keep the baby they are a joy but make sure you stay in school

Answer 5

Hi, I was you 11 years ago...I went to school and luckily was able to arrange graduating halfway through the year b4 I was huge. I told my parents which wasn't easy cuz I know they were dissappointed in me.  My boyfriend's mom begged me to have an abortion and said a baby would ruin my life. Anyway, I kept my daughter, but it hasn't been an easy life. A baby really takes your freedom away ecspeacially when you're about to become an adult and be finally be "free" from your parents (it's even harder when you don't stay together with the baby's father).  You need to make a decission that is right for you and hope your family supports you along the way.  Good luck...Ruby

Answer 6

Tell your mom, Then go to school, Don't let the baby ruin your future, find a baby sitter,  find  time for collage and the baby.  

Answer 7

what show are you watching??? Sounds like something out of that new show about a highschool pregnant chick.  You can stay in school...it doesn't matter if you are showing or not.  And go tell your parents..you were big enough to have s*x...so now be big enough to tell your parents

Answer 8

You need to tell your parents, especially seeing how far along you are. You will be done with your first trimester soon, which will make it more difficult to make an informed decision about what to do for you and your baby. You still have choices. You are very young and if you do have a child, it would be fair to say that your parents will probably look after it a lot because trust me, you will need help. If infact that will be the case, wouldn't it be fair to let them know what cards life is dealing them? They can also help you figure out school and make an informed decision. Get smart, do some research, and educate yourself on what bringing a child into this world entails. And also think about birth control for the future, by all means!

Answer 9

Don't be afraid to tell your mother, whats the worst she can do? Yell at you? Big deal, she will get over it! This is a little life you are talking about, don't do anything drastic over fear. Think about what it is that YOU want to do without the outside influence and base your decision from there.  

Answer 10

WELL FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR PARENTS THEY ARE THERE TO HELP YOU.THEY NEED TO KNOW AND IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOUR SCHOOL WHEN I WAS IN HIGHSCHOOL MY FRIEND WAS PREGO SHE WENT WITH ALL HER PREGANANCY IN SCHOOL WHEN SHE REACH HER 9 MONTHS SHE HAD TO DO HOMESCHOOL SO YOU SHOULD ASK ON THAT I GUESS ALL SCHOOLS ARE DIFFERENT AND THERE IS SCHOOLS FOR TEENS MOMS THEY EVEN TAKE CARE OF THE BABY WHEN YOU HAVE IT.THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS TALK TO YOUR PARENTS THERE GOING TO BE THE BEST HELP FOR YOU TRUST ME THERE NO ONE OUT THERE BETTER THEN YOUR PARENTS YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP ALREADY YOUR 10 WEEKS YOUR GOING TO START SHOWIN ALREADY AND 8 WEEKS AND AM STARTING TO SHOW  

Answer 11

I think something you should think about again! please ! this is your life, I wish you will make a decision you like, and have better life, better futhure.  Give you my best wishes!!!

Answer 12

I was 17 when I had my first baby.  Stay in school that's the best thing for you.  They can't kick you out because you are pregnant.  You can still go to school no matter what school it is.  Tell your parents.  I told mine and they were mad at first but they eventually got over it.  They will understand.  It just might take awhile.  Tell them your not sure if you are going to keep it for yourself.  But you are considering all options even adoption.  Just don't get an a abortion.  Your babies heart is already beating.  That would just be terrible. You will get through it.  It might be hard at first but it will be worth it in the end.

Answer 13

I never heard of a school not allowing somebody to attend because they are pregnant, and I'm pretty sure that is discrimination and against the law.  Not sure where your friends got their faulty information, but you can still go to school.  

You need to tell your parents.  Like somebody else said...if you were big enough to have s*x, you should be big enough to deal with the consequences.  I really hope that you decide to have the baby, even if you give it up for adoption.  The baby didn't do anything wrong and he/she can make you or somebody else very happy.

Good luck!

Answer 14

schools are different and have different rules.  at my highschool as soon as you start showing they make you drop out and attend the "alternative" school for misfits (mostly everyone who had been expelled), you need to find out your schools policy on that one.

and you need to tell your parents no matter what.  they will help you figure out what decisions you want to make.  yeah they are going to be mad, they are parents, thats what they do.  but you need to make choices fast.  if you do decide that you're going to have an abortion, some clinics dont do them after 12 weeks.  if you want to keep the baby, you're going to need to go get vitamins and do all the checkups and make sure everything is going ok.  if you want to put it up for adoption, its best to start planning that stuff now

i know you're in a tough spot, but make sure you tell your parents, you dont want to go thru it alone.

Answer 15

Go to school, tell your parents. There's no such thing as a school for pregnant teens. Your parents should have known ages ago.

Answer 16

I don't know if your school has a policy about this but you should be able to attend school while pregnant. The only exception would possibly be a Catholic School. They can make their own rules, but you are entitled to an education so they will have to make other arrangements for you. Don't worry about this right now. You have to go to your parents. They will be mad but they can't kill you. They will get over it and then they will be the ones to answer all these questions. Believe me, your parents love you and no matter what they want what is best for you. They will see to it that you can attend school and they will help you through this. Don't rely on your friends for advice they do not know what they are talking about.

I really wish you a lot of luck. Have faith. It will all work out for you in the long run. It will not be easy but I will work out.  

Answer 17

Where I am from, the school has SEVERAL pregnant girls.  I don't know why you wouldn't be able to attend school.  There was a girl that graduated in may and had her baby a week or so after she graduated.  I would talk to the school nurse about that issue.

You need to tell your parents.  They will be mad at first, but they are the only support system that you will have if the father leaves you.  You need to have people to be there for you.  If you aren't wanting to keep the baby, you can give it up for adoption.  There are many couples that can't have children that will take good care of your child.  You should really think about what you want to do because you don't want to regret your decision, no matter what it is, for the rest of your life.  You will be able to complete school and have a child, but you will need help and you have to accept that.  My sister in law's mom got pregnant at 16 and finished high school, went to college and graduated with a teaching degree and now teaches a pre-k class and has even had a second child since then.  You can make it, but you have to have the desire to make it.

Best of luck to you and your baby.

Answer 18

Hey there...   You should tell your mom and dad just to get it over with.  They can't stay mad at you forever and everybody makes mistakes.  With this being your senior year maybe you won't have a hard time like all the other young mothers whose parents don't support them and just kick them out.

Talk to your parents about what to do.  Don't abort it.  Check out public assistance and get on medicaid or medicare.  That'll cover the doctor appointments and delivery.  If you feel you want to keep the child instead of giving it up for adoption.  You'll be a good mom!  

Just think it over. You'll do good.

Answer 19

Yes you can still go to school, they can't kick you out becuase you are pregnant, they do have schools for young mothers also.

You need to tell your parents, I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant, im 18 now, I wrote my parents a letter, explaining everything, I told them I needed their support, specially right now. I said for them to call me when they are ready to sit down and talk to me about this, not scream or get mad, but talk. I left it where they could both find it and went and hung out with my best friend, when they finally called they had all of their anger out and they were ready to talk, now they couldn't be happier!!! You need to tell them because you're going to need the support, you won't be able to go through it alone, and they will be upset, but they love you no matter what, no matter what you do they will ALWAYS love you!!!

Answer 20

You cvan go to school until you are close to delivery. Then, the school has to provide you with a tutor.

You need to tell your parents - they are going to be mad no matter when you tell them so get it over with.

As for what to do with the baby? That's something you should think about before having unprotected s*x.

Nothing you pick is going to be easy. keep the baby and try to support it on your own while your friends are out having fun.

Or, make two people very happy and give it up for adoption.

I am not sure, but I think it's too late for abortion. i thought the cut off is 9 weeks so that might not be an option.

Whatever you pick, you are the one who has to live with it so no one can decide for you. Think long and hard - then do what's best for the baby.

Answer 21

Look you can go to school until you are ready to pop that baby out if you want to.  But let me tell you, you say that you have already been to the doctor right?  Well if you are on your parents health insurance which most likely you are then they will receive a doctors bill so they will find out either way so it is better to tell your parents now cause they will be even more angry with you if they find the bill and you didn't tell them about anything.

Answer 22

You do need help... you are young and it is scary, and nobody should have to go through this alone. Just for one hour pretend you are brave. Put on a fake brave face, take your mother aside in private, and tell her you're scared and need help, then just tell her you're pregnant. She might yell, scream, cry, or dance for joy (or all of them) but you will feel so relieved that the secret has been shared. And most parents will support you in the end, even if they are very unhappy about what has happened.

School has to come last in priorities just now. You and the pregnancy have to come first and second. Public schools will let you stay. Even if you left, there are other options to complete your education as long as you are determined. So at least rest your mind that you will not miss out on your education unless you CHOOSE to.

Do not! I repeat do not! let your parents harrass you or change your decision on whatever you choose to do about the pregnancy. It is your choice alone. However it is important you understand the three options in full, this is called Informed Choice. You are now coming to the end of your first trimester and abortion is no longer a simple procedure, no matter what anyone says, it's painful and not nice. Keeping the baby will make life tough (but not impossible). Giving it up for adoption can be stressful too even though you are giving the greatest gift of all. There is no easy solution, and not one of these choices makes it all just disappear, so sit down logically and write down the good and bad points to each decision.

And please tell your mom.

Answer 23

You can still go to school. Even when you're 9 months.

I know it's wrong, but you could tell your mom it was rape and you don't know who did it.

Or just tell your mom the truth, she'll still love you.

BUT, when you're 9 months will you be 18, cus if so they can't do a darn thing about it.

If you're gonna be 18 soon, hide it until you're 18. When you're 18 what you do is your decision.