17 and having s*x, should parents be upset?

Question

I am 17 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, we are in a very loving and commited relationship. I do understand the risks of s*x but i also know that i am mature. My parents found out recently and haven't been as supportive as many would. They have over-reacted in my opinion and not took time to talk to me, instead i have been told not to see my boyfriend again which really gets to me as i do truely love him. Anyone got any advice to approaching the subject without another argument ?

Please help :-(

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Answer 1

First of all you're at an age where you're mature enough to make your own decisions as you're at the peak into adulthood.. what i recommend though is that you take your mom aside (its always better to talk to your mom about these situations than your dad) if she doesn't want to listen, be assertive(this will let her realise u're getting mature)& talk to her woman to woman.. Start by telling her that you're not a kid anymore & that she can't keep sheilding you from the world because you'll oneday have to face it anyhow & that at your age you're mature enough to make your own decision also ensure her that you're well aware of the consequences that s*x brings along with it & that if anything should happen you'd take the full responsibility. You could also inform her that if it would make her feel any better she could follow you to purchase birth control pills(this could help to lighten the situation a little)

Answer 2

Not as much as a 15 year old but yeh still upset

Answer 3

explain to them get birth control and use protection

Answer 4

you left out an important factor, how old is this boyfriend? your parents might be against it for reasons other than just s*x...

Answer 5

Do your parents believe that it is wrong?  Would they react the same way if you were habitually shoplifting?  Perhaps they waited until they got married and they are disappointed in you.  They may feel like your boyfriend pressured you into it.

Answer 6

You need to just lay it out to them. Tell them that, as parents, it is their responsibility to protect you and support you. What they are doing is accomplishing neither. Tell them that they are acting very immature and that you will find a way to be with your boyfriend no matter what to say, they just have to accept it. Be very mature with this conversation and give the impression that you are grown up and know what you are doing.  

Answer 7

Your parents are fighting a losing battle.  It's normal for 17 year olds to be having s*x, and there's virtually nothing parents can do about it, except risk driving their kids away with unrealistic demands.  Sounds like you're acting responsibly (short of not having intercourse, that is).  Time to be an adult and stand up to your parents like the young woman you see yourself to be.

Answer 8

I would sit down with them and tell them that you have made a mature decision and that you understand (and will accept the consequences) of having s*x at this age. Explain that you are legal to be having s*x (check to be sure, most states it is 17). And tell them that you waited this long for him and you truly think that you love him, and that you want to express your love to him. Explain that he will be wearing condoms (hopefully you already were), and that you are going to planned parenthood to get on birth controll and have a PAP smear (if you already havent!) Just be as mature as you can about it, and make sure you don't whine or throw a fit, parents really hate that. Best of luck with talking to your parents, and make sure to be safe with your boyfriend and use condoms! Hope this helps.

Answer 9

It depends. No parent wants to think of there kid growing up and having s*x. And you not married they are probably looking at how many 17 year old kids get pregnant and end up raising the baby alone. They could be thinking you two might not make it. If you are really mature set them down and talk to them. Explain to them that you are mature and using protection. You should also consider what would happen if you accidentally got pregnant. You and your boyfriend should discuss this as well. You should tell your parents you have a plan.

And if you are still in high school your parents have a right to be upset. I would be upset if my high school daughter was having s*x.  

Answer 10

explain to them that you are mature. But make sure that you tell them that u intend on still keeping your relationship.  

Answer 11

I don't understand when parents tell a kid they can't see their boyfriend / girlfriend. They should know that they're going to try to make it work, anyway.

Look, I totally support you. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you're not just jumping into something. You have to let your parents know that. Sit them down, and really tell them how you feel. Explain that you truly believe you are in love, and this is a decision you have thought about for a while. You must stress that you are going to use protection.

Tell them they can not keep you from the person you want to be with. Tell them that things are going really great, and you are mature enough to handle the situation, even if he ends up leaving some day. Tell them that you simply just can not tell someone to stop loving another.