17 year old and pregnant??

Question

Hi I have a 17 year old daughter (this isnt my answers profile its hers just letting you know) anyway she is pregnant but she is 16 and will be 17 in 2 months she just found out that she is pregnant she hasnt went to the docs yet still waiting for appt date to come around. Anyway I have 2 jobs and it is hard for me to be home all of the time. I work from 7 am - 5 pm then on sat and fri i work 5 pm - 2 am so I will not be home in case there is an emergency with her. Her and her boyfriend have been dating for 1 year and 2 months so they are staying together and he wants to help her through this, his dad and her and her bf has talked about what would happen and his dad is considering letting her move in with them but i am still thinking about it his dad is really nice and loves the both of them and plus she doesnt have her license yet and her bf does and has a car she will be getting her license in 2 months anyway should I let her move in with her bf so some one can be there all the time with her and be able to take her to her docs appts she is also going to get a job and be homeschooled so they have a solid plan but i am still considering letting her move in with him should I ?

Answer 1

I say let her try it out and if she doesnt like it or changes her mind let her come back home..if she's gettin her license in 2 months then she should be ok to drive herself around a least for a few more months. So i say you ask her what she wants..and you two just talk about it..if you're really comfortable letting her go there then why not try it? as long as its what the both of you really want.

Answer 2

It's up to you and her.  If you think it will be best for her and the baby then maybe it will be.  I mean what more damage can he do she is already pregnant.  If you trust the father and knew he will be helpful then maybe you should.  I think you should let your daughter decide she is an adult now.  See what she wants to do it's her life.

Answer 3

no need to burst your bubble, but if she moves in their may be a risk of her getting pregnant again. Ye, you love her and wants the best for her, as not alot of moms would not accept their child being pregnant at 17. Anyways try to be around when you can, but think twice before letting her move in with him. Although it may provide her company, do please think twice.

Answer 4

This must be a very tough decision for you (as the parent) to make. I don't think you should give your daughter the priviledge of moving in with her boyfriend. We all know, that this means more s*x... She certainly does not need that!

I think your daughter needs to be at home with you. You need to discipline her for getting pregnant. Don't give her a pat on the back and listen to what she 'wants'. She has to stop being selfish. She is about to welcome a baby into the world. You need to keep an eye on her- for her safety. Maybe if she wants to move in with the bf after the baby is born and she is at least 18, then okay so be it... otherwise she is too young and needs to pay for her poor decisions. Aknowledge that she took a wrong action & then support her. Keep her at home with you..

p.s there shouldn't be that many 'doctor appts'. usually you only go in the beginning of the pregnancy and then like every other month(unless something is wrong with the placenta.) so she doesn't need someone 'driving' her around. she will probably only have about 6 doctors appointements the whole pregnancy anyway.

good luck

Answer 5

i think u should if the father is nice and ur daughter and his son will stay together

Answer 6

I was 15 when I got pregnant....and my parents let me move in with my boyfriend and his parents. It helped me alot...knowing that someone was there for me if anything did go wrong. Let her if she wants too...shes old enough. Expesially if she is pregnant. Tension between her and her boyfriend is not good. And she needs to be as least stressed out as possible! Glad you arent mad at her! Support her shes gonna need you! Good luck to you and her!

Answer 7

I think if her boyfriend and her have a good relationship and his father is nice and respectable you should let her. Just let her know that she is always welcome at home.

Answer 8

you do have a solid plan. Good for you. I would definitely let her move in. This way there wouldn't be problems with the whole back and forth whose house thing. There would be one house for this baby to grow up in which is much better than being volleyed back and forth. The Dad can help take care of them and support them financially, which is a better than throwing them into their own apartment.

I give you points for being so poised about this whole situation and making a reasonable plan! Go you!

Answer 9

i would make her stay with  you. does the bfs dad know how to take care of a pregnant women and she can always go vist them when your at work.

Answer 10

They are having a baby together and if there so, I think it would be beneficial for them to live together with BF's dad.  It will ease your mind and they can become young parents together learning the responsiblities together.  

Answer 11

Overall it sounds like your  daughter is responsible.  SHe wants to take care of the baby together and they will share the responsibility. Remember this is her baby, please help her but do not make your life more difficult...ie more work time.  More so, I am a teenage mom and the best thing that happened to me and my parents was that we came onto the same playing field and I now understand where they have been coming from all these years!!! Just be her mom and biggest supporter!

OH yes let her move but VISIT

Answer 12

So you want us to give you our blessing for your daughter to shack up with a guy who doesn't respect her enough to marry her and not make the baby a b*****d child? Well they already fornicated, the pregnancy is proof of that. Some people actually want better for their daughter. How about his dad suggest he do the right thing and marry her?. Or is that old fashioned?.

Answer 13

Sure. I am just happy that he is actually caring for her. He seems like a really good guy. Most boyfriends leave their girlfriends in high school when they hear that their pregnant.

Answer 14

i dont see why not, sounds like all the parents here are wanting the best for your daughter. once the baby is here she will need all the help she can get especially in the first few months. dont feel bad for working a lot either, you sound like you are doing what you need to do too. i think it will be good for her to have all the support and help she can get   good luck to all of you