17 year old child wants to move out with a friend?

Question

I have custody of my brother whom is 16 and will be 17 in one month. I have custody but he lives with my uncle because he was giving me some problems in January (running away and putting holes in my walls) so I gave my Uncle guardianship for school and medical purposes. Now it has been 6 months living with my uncle and he is causing problems there. They are making him leave so since I have the actual custody of him he is having to come home with me. He is causing problems for them for the same reason that he was causing problems with me...He wants to live with his "best friend. I do not believe this. I know he does want to live with his best friend, but undercover I believe something is going on with him and his best friends mother. I can't prove it, but I believe it. This woman has already told him that he can move in with them. She has not attempted to contact myself or my Aunt or Uncle. He is moving back with me and he is going to make my life a living h**l until he gets what he wants. I do not want him to live with me again. I have children of my own that his attitude influences. I need advice on what to do in this situation. Can I allow my brother to move out at 17 to live with his friend without getting myself in trouble? We are residents in the state of Texas and I believe he can drop out of school at 17, but I am not sure if he can move out without me being responsible for him. Please advise!

Answer 1

Give him a good kick up the ***, put him in line.

Answer 2

i moved out of my house at 16 and moved in with four lads and my best girl-friend :) but i am from the UK and moved to college by that time.

i do believe, if it was like over here that you have full control of this boy until he is the age of 18 but in some cases it could be age of 21.

you will need to speak to someone about this, someone who knows what they're talking about and not possibly going to find a 100% correct answer on here.

you will not get in trouble i imagine as you're allowed to live wherever you want, with whoever you want, whenever you want but it would still mean if he was to cause trouble, that it would be reported to you or your uncle.

try talking to your brother and making him understand what he is going to do. maybe living with a friend will calm him down and stop him from his behaviour being so bad. i know moving in with my friends changed a lot and i calmed down as i used to be a complete mess. the first few weeks i was quite bad, drinking everyday and night but once my friend i lived with spoke to me and told me i need to calm it or i'll be out, i changed and nearly been here a year now and i'm happy :)

Answer 3

ur brotehr is nuts.. hes needs councelling well if ur children r gettin influenced then i seem u dont have any option...

i hope i helped..

Answer 4

I would check the laws in your state to see if he could do what he wants to do. It sounds like he need some counseling. He needs anger management also. He just may feel that no one wants him. If he moves in with his friend will he smashes up their place and cause you damage cost, are you going to be able to handle that. My heart goes out to you. He will be 18 in a year and be responsible for his own actions.Hopefully he behaves till then.

Answer 5

All you can do is love him and hope for the best. At 17, he's only got a year left anyway before you have no real say. If he's trouble now, you aren't going to change who he wants to spend time with by saying no. Little late for that.

Answer 6

I dont know about the legal things, but I think u have two options.

1. Protect your bro and force him to stay with u, no matter how much trouble he causes.

2. Save your kids and let your bro handle his own life.

and yes, there can be a balance in between. U can tell your bro that he will be moving out when he's an adult, as its really soon, so u just wanna spend one last year with him. Make him emotional. And talk to your kids, and make them realise that they shouldnt behave like your bro. Good luck :)

Ps- are u sure your bro has a thing for his friends mom? cause we should not believe something without any proof. If u can, u should frankly discuss this with your bro.  

Answer 7

his not an adult yet and you have responsibility of him. Anything happens to him it's ur going to be the blame. Now I suggest you go to a judge or a police department and ask. His obviously can't live with you. Just kick him out, but know that this woman ur talking about the court must know. It's not a sleepover so you got to handle this with the law.

p.s. If ur brother drops out he will have no job nor any money just remember that you got a family of ur own and don't need him around ruining ur life

good luck.