17 year old prego sister and her controlling boyfriend.?

Question

let me start by saying my family is from sacramento, ca which is full of drugs and gangs. my sister was on a really bad track and had a "boyfriend" who abused her. he kept her away from her family. she listend to him cuz she was scared of him. she was only 15 at the time, he got her hooked on extacy. the first time she did it they were at the park and he told her to open her mouth and he put a pill in her mouth and told her to swallow it.

he started pimping her out.

my sister got arrested for prostitution and after juvy she actually came home and had to do work project.

my dad bought a house in ohio and moved there with my sister to get her away from her old life.

after they got to ohio, my sister was doing alot better.she even had a job working at mcdonalds.

then she met this guy.

he seemed a million times better than the last guy.

everyone kept hearing about him cheating on her,but she was the only one that believe his story.

again,my sis started putting her bf b4 her family.

they were always in her room,even when we had family from different states come for thanksgiving she stayed in her room with her bf.

he used to bite her all the time" just joking around" but when a friend of the family bitched at him for leaving bruises all over my sisters arms he stopped. but when he did bite her if she were to like bite him back or somthing he would get mad and they would fight.

they fight all the time.

another time,they were out on my dads front porch and my cousin was in the living room and heard my sister fall and hit the rail.he ran out there and there was a huge blow out.

we all know her bf pushed her down,but when the cops came she wouldnt admit anything.

oh yeah at this time she was about 6 months pregnant.

she didnt talk to my dad for at least a month,until a concert she wanted to go to was comming up then they all sorta made peace and then after the concert thing she kinda stopped talking to him again.shes still not talking to my cousin either tho.

my mom had moved to ohio a few months b4 that and my sis and her bf were staying there.

my mom kinda had them in check a little more than my dad did,everytime she heard them fighting she would ***** at them and theyre fights were never as bad as at my dads.

one day,when my sis was about 7 months prego,my mom heard them both screaming in the garage and when she went to go ***** at them for fighting she saw my sisters bf picking her up off the ground by her hair.

my sister told the cops the she threw herself on the ground cuz she knows it makes her bf mad.

riiight..

well the cops removed him from my moms house and he hasnt been back.

my sister stayed home for about 3 days only talking to her bf on the phone,then asked my mom if she could go to her bf's moms house for the day and my mom said yeah cuz theyr having a kid in like 2 months and she doesnt really want to keep them apart like that.

my sis went to his house and came back each night for about a week and then she just didnt come back.

her and her bf are living with his sister and her bf in a duplex that has no fridge,no hot water,no bedroom doors,no stove no microwave.

first of all thats not a healthy environment for a pregnant woman.

and she wont talk to my mom at all.

her bfs mom brought her and her bf to my moms to get theyr hide-a-bed they had left there. my mom said hi to my sister and my sister wouldnt even look at my mom. my sister played with our brother and sister for a minute and when they were leaving her bf had an additude and said"what do you wanna stay and play?" my sister knew what his additude meant and all she said was"i didnt even say a word to her" meaning my mom.

so now my sister has been gone for about 2-3 weeks. not talking to my mom or anyone else. just my dad when she wants something

(cuz her bf is and *** and still has no job or any way to support a baby let alone himself.even knowing his kid is going to be there in less than 2 months he still wont get off his *** and look for a job)

luckily theyre having a girl,cuz i have a 1 year old girl and i have everything they need for her.WIC provides all the formula so all they need is diapers,which they still wont be able to afford.

right now,my sister is 17 and 8 months pregnant.oh yeah i didnt mention that one of their roomates told my dad that her bf is making my sis choose between him and her mom.

so yeah

i dont know what to do about my sister.

is there anything i can do?

or even say to her?

i just moved to a different state and im supposed to be going back when she has the baby in october,but right now i dont know if i even should.

my mom was thinking about reporting her as a run away since shes still 17.

i dont think ive ever hated anyone as i do my sisters bf.

she doesnt have her own life at all let alone her own mind.

what should i do or say to get my sisters brian to click back on? or anything.

sorry this is sooooo long but its important.

please try to help me out

thanx

Answer 1

that is so intense and i'm really sorry to hear all of that.  i would try to have a serious conversation with her.  tell her how you feel and let her know where your coming from and your willing to hear her out. trying to keep her away from her bf will only make things worse. sad to say but some girls feel they don't have a choice when they're having a baby.  someone really needs to let her know it's dangerous to raise a child in that atmosphere.  the best advice i could give is Pray!!! i'm not sure if your religious or not but prayer does help =) good luck...

Answer 2

Call the police as soon as possible and file complaints and protection against the boyfriend if he comes around your sister. Also having s*x with a minor is against the law too. I would have called the police when I first started seeing signs of the abuse. Only talking about it to the boyfriend won't work because he has the history of abuse and it will get worse. You and your dad and any other caring family members have to get her away from him and have the police protection 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Abusers will try to brainwash anyone and to me abuse of anykind is not tolerated.You and your family can help your sister by calling the police telling them what has happened to her and how she is treated by her boyfriend.

Answer 3

You need to tell the police. I think its the only way to help your sister. My cousin was on drugs and she kept getting into trouble with her boyfriend. Her parents tried everything.... finally they sent her to rehab for a year. She is out and is doing much better. Sometimes the only things you can do to help the person is get professional help. Theropists are there for a reason. So please call the police and get help. The best of wishes.

Katie

Answer 4

tell her to leave him and call the cops

Answer 5

I feel bad for your family and for you.  As for your sister I am undecided on how I feel.  She had a chance for a good life she blew it.  She had quite a few chances like when she stayed with your dad and she turned bad again.  She just doesn't seem mentally stable to me.  I don't know of anyone that would take all this abuse and still be there.  After the first time she was hurt she should have just left but no she stayed.  I don't know if your sister can be helped or not.  I don't know if she wants help.  She seems to be enjoying this pain.  She even gave up her family for the pain.  I do know that someone should report this to the police and to a child care agency.  She should not keep that child, she is not capable of raising a child she can't take care of herself.  I don't think that any members of her family should take care of the child either because she will do anything in her power to steal it away or to hurt it to spite all of you.  I don't know what else to say to this.  I don't know how to help your sister and like you I dislike the bf and I think he should be thrown in jail and throw away the key.

Answer 6

seriously, call Dr. Phil,  and tell him, and if you can't go there,  call the police, call police first really,  how old is this guy? he could be arrested for statuatory rape, i think, i pray she will open her eyes and get the courage to leave him. her doctor can also help her, and she needs to take out a restraining order against him, but she needs to avoid him.  i hope she will leave him

Answer 7

that sure was long, i'm sorry to hear what's happening to you guys, but i think you sister should move away from him and you guys should get immediately help, best wishes and good luck