17 year old realtionship drama..please help!?!?

Question

so im 17 and i started datin this guy when i was 13. and it was a long distance realtionship..we hung out once and he ended up of course cheating on me...this guy was my first love...well after 2 years of on again off again....we finally ended...still only seeing each other 3 times... well just here lately he had contacted me (in july) and the 2nd night we were talkin we were already arguing!! and it was b/c he wants to get back together....

part of me wants to get back with him...but then again part of me is scared to get hurt..

he says hes changed and he has moved down here to were i live..and he always wants to hang out. but with my job...i never have anytime besides on the weekend...

in which i have to fit in all my friends...my parents, family and now him? i just dont know wut to do...i dont wanna get hurt again..

i mean only been a month or 2 that weve been talkin and we're already fighting...he kinda contorlling....

so i guess my question is

should i get back with him? or maybe try and find time to hangout and take it on step at a time...which he doesnt wanna do....so it pretty much either be with him or let him walk outta my life for good..AGAIN?

Answer 1

You kind of answered your own question.  It sounds like he only wants you because he knows he can have his way with you (not in a sexual way).  You being there when he calls makes you seem desperate and when I was his age, those are the girls that I wanted more.  I'd bet if you seemed uninterested in him, he would stop wanting to be with you.  In my opinion, once a cheater always a cheater.  Besides you are young yet and have PLENTY of time to find the right guy for you.  He doesn't seem to be the right guy for you.  I hope you make the right choice for you and no one else.  Take care!

Answer 2

I think you should let him go

it seems like he is olny hurting you and if he really cared about you he would be more understanding and respectful of your feelings

Answer 3

I think it sounds like a heartache waiting to happen. let him go  

Answer 4

i know  what u mean with work school family and a relationship. Its hard to manage all those things because  theres a lot of stress. But honestly everyone has a first love and yeah u will alwys have feeling for that person but sometimes its better just to let go and move on. Maybe he did change people can so that sumtimes and actually mean it. If u love him go ahed but ir hes controlling and doesnt want to take things step by step then hes  not worth ur time. Hes jus gna make u have more stress..... and if he really wants to be with u that bad he shouldnt be rushing things. he should wait til ur ready...tell him....if u really want to be with me ur gna wait for me.....tell him its not gna be wen he wants but wen ur ready....dont let him control u....plus theres many more people out there tht can make u happy....ull get through this...follow ur heart

Answer 5

he's controlling.

STOP right there. Isn't that a warning flag? Goodbye times with friends and family, this guy is out to get every second he can. Leave him, once a cheater always a cheater. Don't get mixed up with him, you'll feel even more heartbroken.