[17 years old] Me And My Brothers Best Friend?

Question

We've been having s*x on and off for a year or so. [My brother knows but doesn't say anything] And now it seems like every time we hang out we end up having s*x...most of the time i say no put then get caught up in the moment and do it anyways, and I have really Strong feelings for him. And he likes me to, but I think he's afraid to have a relationship with me because of my brother, even tho i told him that all my brother wants is for me tobe happy...What should I tell him to let our Friendship move on to a relationship? And if he doesn't want to be in a relationship should i stop having s*x with him?

I don't care if you guys criticizes me about this so say whatever you feel.

Answer 1

He's just using you for s*x. Move on

Answer 2

i think hes just using your brother as an excuse because hes already having s*x with you and you say your brother knows so i dont see why you guys just cant be bf&gf i mean you pretty much already are...

and if he dont want  a relationship with you then s***w him STOP having s*x with him...because hes just using you for s*x pretty much =/

well good luck and i hope you make the right decision!!!

Answer 3

I think that you should tell him that your not going to have s*x with him unless you are in a real relationship with him, and if he says that he doesn't want to be in a relationship then I know it will hurt but he's not worth it

Answer 4

If he doesn't want to be in a relationship, then you should stop having s*x with him!!

Talk to your brother about it. It just might help. Make a decision. If you and your brother's best friend date, but it turns out bad, how will it affect his relationship with your brother? Think about all the consequences first.

Good luck.

~Julie

Answer 5

Im 35yrs old and dont take this the wrong way but 17yr old boys dont want relationships they just want s*x and given the choice of a serious relationship or "just friends who have s*x" they will pick the latter because its less effort on their part, I know i was 17 once too.

tell him you want to make the relatonship a more serious one do proper boy friend girl friend stuff make the relationship more public.

If he's willing to hold his head high and say this is my girl and i dont care who knows them maybe he's worth keeping if for any reason he dont want people to know you are a couple them get shot of him .

ive got two sisters and they both had their share of loosers

plenty out there.

ps use protection

  

Answer 6

If he keeps providing excuses, like your brother and his recent graduation, it's because he doesn't want to upset you, but he doesn't want to date you either, probably ever.

If you keep having s*x with him, you need to keep in mind that he isn't going to be more likely to date you because of it.  It hasn't worked so far, has it?

You should stop seeing him at all, since you are so attracted to him that you can't not have s*x with him when you hang out, for long enough to make the choice of if you are okay with being his s*x toy, or if you rather move on.

Answer 7

Just be careful. It sounds like he is just dating you for the s*x, I'm really sorry to say. Next time you guys hang out, if he asks for s*x - say no. If he gets mad, then you know right off the bat. Give it a few more times, and see if he says anything - that would be the tell tale sign of knowing what he really is dating you for..

Good Luck! =]

Answer 8

There are two pieces of advice I will give you, and you will understand when I say them.

1) Say something now, or forever wish you had

2) It is always to regret doing something than to regret not.

This should tell you everything :)

Answer 9

I'm in a relationship with my brothers best friend. I have known him for nearly 6 years. Although, we have only recently started dating.

My brothers fine about it. He actually told me that he's glad we're together because he knows his friend is a genuinely nice bloke and he can trust him to treat me right - unlike my previous boyfriends.

We're sexually active. The first time it happened, it wasn't planned. My boyfriend  told my brother because he felt so guilty ! ( I'm 15 and he's 19 ) My brother didn't say much. He just told him to use protection and not to force me into anything and left it at that.

The best advice I can give you, is to talk to your brother and his friend. Communication can go a long way.  

Answer 10

If he doesn't want a relationship with you, of course you shouldn't have s*x with him!

And he keeps making up excuses right? So that should tell you about how he feels about you.