18 yr old girl pregnant by 44yr old guy?

Question

what advice would you give?

not me by the way, my friend, please be nice =]

thank you

Answer 1

They're both adults, they should handle the situation themselves.

Answer 2

well the truth his he is a perv a perv means perverted he must be .. she is barley legal. he obviusly goes for younger 2 and he needs to be arrested. he is older enough to be her dad what kind of sick f his he ??? BY NOW HE SHOULD HAVE A WOMAN HIS OWN AGE NOT SOME DOLLY BIRD ON HIS ARM TO SHOW OFF. HE OBVIUSLEY DOES NOT LOVE HER . IT'S MORE OF A TROPHY THING FOR HIS OWN PLEASURES. i doubt she is stupid,she probley after his riches and plans to either kill him or he has some kind of terminal illness and she knows she can get his money. the most likely of the situation is she will marry him and divorce him for half of his money. she has got halfed why wait till he dies to get full he is not even fifty yet so i bet  that's her plan !!! seems she is more in the wrong here but both are. her to get his money and him to go with technically a school kid. well she didn't do a good job avoiding s*x if she was after his money lol

Answer 3

Does she want a baby? Are they together or was it a one night thing?

I'm sure the age thing could be dissmissed if she likes him and he likes her. But he's 44 and if he's not married i mean it begs the question why not? Xxxxxx

Answer 4

Well... I know you are going to hear all kinds of "that's wrong" or anything other than positive remarks. I was 19 when I met my now husband. He was 39 when we met. We have been together for 4 years. We have a two year old daughter and been married since March. We love each other very much and get along great! I couldn't ask for a better partner in life. He is a great father, wonderful husband and a terrific provider.

That being said. I don' t know your friend and her circumstances. So I don't know if she was with him before they got pregnant or it was a one night stand. If they have a relationship than she has to tell him and hopefully he will be happy with the news. If it was a one night stand she still has to tell him as he has the right to know that he is going to be a father. No matter what (if she decides to keep the baby) he has to help in supporting the child. You should just support her in any decision she makes.

Hope I helped

Answer 5

Why was she with the guy in the first place she should stay with him or find a new guy and obviously allow the father if it is the 44 year old man have access to his child. And it's not really your problem it's hers but you must be a supportive friend there isn't much you can do.

Answer 6

Abortion. And never do it again.

Answer 7

He sounds like a perv, and she needs to get away from this guy. I feel really sorry for your friend. Thats really wrong, and sick in away.

I'd give her support, if she wants to keep her baby then let her raise it good as a single parent or get her parents help, or your support. If she doesn't want it, don't tell her to have an abortion let her keep it and put it up for adoption, all the best.

Answer 8

What was she doing thats like me getting pregnet by my dad!

Answer 9

obviously this is wrong but if your friend love this bloke and wants his child you got to stand by her and be happy for her  

Answer 10

I see no problem now,but later ?

good luck to you !!

Answer 11

Wow, if i was her i would get out. I hate to be judgmental but he sounds like a right perve. Does she love him? No-one can tell her what to do with the baby, just make sure she has thought about her decision thoroghly.

Answer 12

Was she 18 when he impregnated her and was it consentual...because if not then she should go to the cops. If it was consentual then make him take responsibility for the baby. This could either mean child support or fatherhood depending on what they decide. It is a little bit hard to answer not knowing exactly what she thinks of the relationship.

Answer 13

this is awful at that age sadly we tend to fall for the older man and think they are the bees knees but they tend not to be. im thinking that she probably is wanting to know what to do about the baby and whether anyone thinks hes going to stick around. ask her to have a check to see if he already has children has he been there for them if not then the answer is quite clear. my best advice for anyone no matter how old or young ask yourself if you are not using contraception could you bring up a baby alone? the answer tends always to be yes

Answer 14

ew ,

arrest him ,

Answer 15

Well, she's an adult, so they can do whatever.

Answer 16

Not good at all. A really bad situation.

I'd be reporting it him. That's not right. He doesn't deserve anything but jail.

Even if she doesn't want him reported, tell her to leave him and get as far away as possible. That is beyong wrong. He's old enough to be her father.

Answer 17

Does she know the bloke are they in a relationship?  

Answer 18

wwwwwooooowwwwww (I'm speechless !)

Answer 19

wow, thats a pretty big age limit, like hugh heffner and his girlfriends...

tell her 2 go with her gut.

Answer 20

I wouldn't give any advice- this woman is an adult and able to manage her own affairs without your help. NO, this guy doesn't need to be arrested or reported- what he did was perfectly legal. She can go to the doctor and get checked for pregnancy and get prenatal care all by herself, and she needs to work things out with her boyfriend.  

Answer 21

So many variables that it's hard to comment on the situation.

A colleague who is 19 was dating another colleague who was 31 and that raised several eyebrows, I'm sure it's not a path anyone would chose for their daughter.

But, stuck in that situation, if at all stuck, we don't know if it was of her own choosing or not.  

Did this man impose himself on her?  Is that the problem, how did they meet, is she being 'brainwashed'?

If she choses to be with him and the pregnancy is planned then the best of luck to them.  As i said, not what i'd want for my daughter, but love comes in various guises.

Anyway, if she needs help there are plenty of advisory services out there, plus friends and family; don't worry about how they will react, just tell them, they'll find out sooner or later anyway and at least being straight up with them gets it out in the open sooner and gives them longer to come to terms with the situation and help.

If she has a relative who is understanding approach them first if speaking to her parents is proving troublesome, they know her best and really are the best people to help her sort this out, whatever she decides to do.

Answer 22

bad, reaaaal badddd i mean really tho, thats badddd, lyk way badddd, thats really badddd

Answer 23

What she should do? umm... does she want the baby? any feelings involved? was it an accident. it depends on the situation of how the whole thing happend. she is silly. he has been their, done that- her life just begun and now she has to babysit. he is mature and should have a clue on what to do. 44 year olds aren't young and naive (hopefully) so he should know what to do and how to work this out-

does he want her to have the baby?- since he is 44 years -old he should be able to support them financially and not run away from this like a 16 yr old. he is less likey to behave this way if he is as mature as his age. she should do what she feel is right. she must ask herself- is she willing to go through with this for this older man.

good luck

Answer 24

She is legal and stupid.