19 month old temper tantrums?

Question

My daughter will be 10 months tomorrow, she throws the biggest tantrums. Last night at a ball game she wanted to by the street, I kept taking her hand and tellin her no, that it was'nt a place to play(mind you her vocab is only 4 words and I don't think she understands what I'm saying to her completly) well she started screaming and kicking her feet. My mom then took her to the swing set and when the game was over tring to get her off the swing was a nightmare!!!!!!!!! So throw herself on the ground kicking screaming gaging herself(which she does to the point of throwing up) fought my putting her into her carseat and continued this for almost a mile. What am I doing wrong? I really don't believe in spanking, at least at this age( I don't think she would get why she is getting a spanking or what it is) and also how do you give her a time out, she won't stay there. Just some advise no rude comments please I was unable to have children for 14 years and yes she is spoiled. I just need help

Answer 1

It could be normal behavior. Stay calm and try to calm her, if that doesn't work , let her in her room to finish the fit and see her when she is through. She is very young to understand any reasoning or punishment. This behavior DOES NOT mean that she is spoiled. Every child is different with their own little personality. Every child wants what they want When they want it(who can blame them?)Try different things, whether diverting her attention to something else, ignoring her, or just letting her work through her anger until she clams down.

I had a child like this, but she never stopped acting this way and she is 6 now. I tried spanking(which I dont believe in either) and everything else~!Nothing worked! When she started school I found out she has a bipolar disorder or possibly aspergers. I dont think your little one has this, but I REGRET getting so upset with her when she was little and finding out now that she couldn't help it!So just do the best you can and give YOURSELF a relaxing time or break once in a while as well!Good luck & just love that baby, she will be all grown up before you know it!

Answer 2

Ha! I don't think she's spoiled.  This is normal behavior for a 19 month old.  My daughter who is 28 months now, used to have tantrums about things I didn't understand.  The things she is having tantrums about are perfectly normal.  If she didn't have these sorts of tantrums before, then welcome to the terrible twos (my daughter started that when she was 15 months!).  You don't spank which is good.  She is trying to show how mad she is because she can't communicate it with words - and she is MAD.  When my daughter started this phase, I used to get mad at her and sometimes yell "STOP IT RIGHT NOW".  But after awhile, I decided to stop getting mad at her and just let her vent.  Being patience and saying things like "I know you're mad, but we have to go home now".  Just stay calm.  I know it may not stop these tantrums, but you will be more sane and your child will know she won't get punished for expressing her emotions.

Answer 3

Well if she is spoiled then thats the problem! It is horrible to spoil a child so young just because they dont truly understand what is going on. When you give give give, and then take take take, the child is very confused! I suggest changing your ways before she grows up and expects to be spoiled. But also, you are dealing with the terrible 2's! My newphew has a horrible temper too, but it is also part of his personality. By nature he is very stubbron. I wouldn't suggest spanking until they are older, but all i can really say is make sure you get your emotions across. When you grabbed her from the street did you use a soft tone and say, 'Well sweetie its not safe to play" You need to grab her, set her down and use a very stern voice and a very stern look (Don't yell) and tell her the street is not safe, the street will give you owies, mommy would be happy if you play over there (point to where).

Children that age dont understand sentances yet, use words they are already familiar with and use your emotions to get the words across. As soon as i tell my nephew that what he is doing has the possiblity to hurt him (give him owies) he calms down. He is still a little persistant, but he is also more cautious.