1st day of jr. high and 2 older boys asked my son/friend if they wanted weed. Should I call the principal?

Question

My son asked that I not tell because he's afraid he'll get beat up plus he says when he said no the boys laughed and he thinks they were joking. My son is the one that would have to face daily if they got in trouble and it could mean retaliation. Should I let it go as long as my son said no? I mean if I call the school my son may never tell me anything again. What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

He was honest with you, and then asked you not to tell so I wouldnt. You will break his trust and could cause major problems at school. Kids are mean sometimes and he may get harrassed and called a narc. I think you should just leave it alone for now. Its good that your son is so honest with you so if anything major happens you know he will come to you!

Answer 2

I have 2 kids in jr. high and 1 going this year. My to oldest were in 6th grade last year and they were both approached. It's sorry to say but it's out there, calling the principal won't change anything. All you can do is educate them. As long as you and your child communicate it will be fine.  

Answer 3

Do not call!

It sounds like your son handled it himself.  It sounds like he did an excellent job handling it himself.

Substance abuse is an unfortunate fact of life and it sounds like your son made a choice to say "no."  You should be proud of him for saying no which is not easy to do on the 1st day of junior high.

Your son is at time in his life when he will have lots of difficult decisions and peer relationships have to take priority in his navigating these experiences.  By continuing to handle matters himself, he can establish more respect among his peers and hopefully continue to say no to drugs.

The best you can do is to be there for your son, give him guidance, but always listen as much as you speak.

Answer 4

The same thing happened to me on my first year of high school, the kids where a year younger than me and they were in junior high(don't know why they were out, but they were walking by my bus stop. And they asked me, right away i sad no. And they started to laugh, and i said i am not that stupid. Cause i am not. And i am a girl. And the person that asked me (well there were 2) were guys. And they knew no to bug me anymore. I am 5'8''. And i may only be a dancer, gymnast, swimmer, but they knew not to mess with me. Cause when i was in elementary, we would play games like Mercie or hand wrestle, and i always won. No one was intimated by me, they just knew not to bother me to the point. Even though i said no. I did not tell my mom until about a month later. I was afraid my mom was going to go to the school. And i mean let the kid be stupid, as long as your sons are smarter than those kind of kids, then you should be fine. Me still being a high school, say let it go, your kids did the right thing they know. Reward them, Get them ice cream. And over the ice cream tell them that weed is really bad, and you never want to have it no matter what anyone says. Tell them that you are proud of them for saying no. And never bring it up again. I think they should be fine. I got asked twice in my life. But i knew not to accept it both times. I doubt there going to be asked this everyday. Just make sure they know, and tell them you are proud of them, and don;t call the school. Cause if that kid gets in trouble, it can make it worse, they will probbally just leave him alone now, but if they don't then its time to talk to his parents or the school. =) Hope i helped, good luck. =)

Answer 5

I wouldn't be making a big issue out if it at this point in time.  You don't want your son to find out that you told after he asked you not to.

I think the biggest thing to be thankful of this that 1.  Your son said no and 2.  He had the confidence in you to tell you what happened.

If this becomes a habit - maybe suggesting to your son to tell a teacher or the principal as he will be able to identify the boys accurately

Answer 6

It's an unfortunate incident, but yes the school principal needs to be informed, ok so it's weed right now, what's next? speed? crystal meth? coke? I mean seriously of course it should be reported, drugs in the school is NOT ok and the school needs to know so they can put a stop to it.

Unless he didn't actually see any, then no let it slide for now, as the boys might have been joking. but if your son saw it then yes report it. and ask for it to be kept confidential, explain you are afraid of retaliation towards your son. It's probable other kids were approached too so your son probably wasn't the only one.

Answer 7

If you must- call anonymously (sp?) that way no one would know it was you. But, on the other hand, this is something that your son is going to be faced with SEVERAL times, he's not even in high school yet! As long as you can trust your son enough to make the right decisions, I would say let it go. Sounds like he is a bright kid and handled the situation well. Good luck with your decision!

Answer 8

Just call the school and give an anonymous tip about the student. I work at a high school and parents do it all the time, and we always follow up on the tips we get. 9 times out of 10 the parents are right and the kid gets busted and no one is any wiser to it.  

Answer 9

ok im 15 so i would be perfect for this question... do NOT call the school, your son asked u not to so dont, people would label him as a snitch.. alot of people offer people trees. also your son would get mad at you..... and they where probly messing with him (sense he probly so little and young, well hinse that he just started middle school)

Answer 10

Defiantly (sp) call the school and tell them about the bad boys without them knowing whom you and your son are.  Your son sounds like he knows not to take it so I would defiantly have a good conversation with him about the situation and reasons why he should not use the stuff or other things of that nature.  I hope my son is that smart and brave to tell me when his time comes which we all know is coming for all our kids these days.  ;(  Hope this helped.

Answer 11

Tell your son you won't tell...and tell him that you'd like him to keep talking to you about these things because it makes you feel close to him.  If they were joking then it probably won't happen again.  If they weren't then it probably will...and then a call is warranted because he's being pressured by a second request.  An anonymous call.

Ugh.  Almost wish my daughter would stay 4!! :)

Good luck to you.  Take good care!