1st year of marraige?

Question

I am recently married- and have been told numerous time that if you make it through the first year & 1/2 you've got it made.

Why is this?

Answer 1

LMAO I'm recently divorced and when i filed i did some research.  90% of first marriages fail nowadays so if u make it ur a minority good luck.

Answer 2

because for most married couples

the first year is one of the hardest

years.

Answer 3

Ha my parents have been married long time and they were seperated long time. That's false. Keep the relationship healthy even if it's 5 months. Talk, have romantic time and lots more.

Answer 4

That is false.  You must learn to live together in your home and feed each other.

That is your cave dwelling and will be your home till the day you die together.

If you get tired of living with the one your with then you should not marry at all because marriage is a job for life and there are no vacations from it. Your married to it and it will devour you in every way until you get fed up and leave it, but if you desire it then so be it.

Answer 5

Not really true. But the general rule is that the first year is tough because you are working through living together, merging finances, merging lives, merging everything. Sharing, snoring, cooking, cleaning etc. The longer you make it WITHOUT children and strengthen your relationship the better chance you have of making it. If you have children within your first 3 years of marriage your chances of not making it go up. Children add a tremendous financial, emoitional and phsyical strain on a relationship. If you are not good together then you will be even worse. Just my experience.  

Answer 6

That's ridiculous.  The first year(s) are the easiest.

Answer 7

The entire marriage requires a lot of work from 1 year to 100 years. The first year is pretty stressfull, yeah, but nothing like what the future can bring. Sickness, poverty, children, retirement, you name it.

Answer 8

i thiught the first years was the easiest all the work came later  so i wouldnt agree with that i think alot of people give up in the begining though because they dont want to put the work in  

Answer 9

Adjustments to a new lifestyle are hard. The only thing that is constant is change. But F.Y.I., BIG problems can occur at any point in a marriage. I always figured it was after the 7 year point but my husband had his affair after 12 years. Go figure. So, I put NO weight into statements like that.

Answer 10

I don't believe that statement. I've been married 25 years and still have an occational arguement. It matters when you get through the tough times together. Thats what I believe anyway.

Answer 11

i feel if two pepole go into a marrage open mindedly and expcet to make some sacrafices things will start to get eaiser after 5 yrs

Answer 12

They used to say that because back in the day, you never lived with a mate until you were married and then you learned real quick their habits good and bad. Nowadays, we knowa lot about the other and I do not think marriages end inthe first 1/2 or 1 year, they can end at any moment at anytime. Worry about important things and forget about myths that ahve no substance

Answer 13

Hum non, people can divorce after 5, 10, 15, 20 years ... happens all the time.

Answer 14

It's a myth. Look around - plenty of couples get divorced after 3, 5, 10, 15, 20 years of marriage. I would say, if your first year of marriage is bad, it's not like it's gonna get any better later on unless you both change your ways; and not all people are willing to change themselves and work on the relationship that is sub-optimal. So, if you recognize the problems and are both willing to work them out, your marriage stands a chance; and only time can show whether or not it's truly working. Honestly, I've been married 2 years, and we have a good relationship; my personal feeling is all the talk about "the first year being the hardest" comes from people who rushed into marriage without using their good judgment, and now have to make do with what they have and adapt to a spouse who isn't compatible with them to begin with. If you use your common sense and choose the right partner for yourself, the first few years (and hopefully beyond) should be wonderful.

Answer 15

So not true...If anything I believe the first couple of years are the easiest.  The hard years are when you get past about 7 and you have fallen into a routine with that person and that chemical high you got when you were first were with them has completely faded.  That is when you find out if your relationship can hold up in the long run.

Answer 16

the ONLY way you've got it made is if you both love each other, married each other for the right reasons and of course were ready to wed. the  number of years being married does not determined that. people seperated 6 months, 2 years 24 years 35 years....must have meant something was missing.