2 questions!!!! PLZ PLZ ANSWER I dont wanna end these friendships?

Question

Im really mad at my friend kelly because me and her were texting and talking about goin to the mall yesterday and alll of a sudden she stoped texting me, then today i heard Kelly another one of my friends Jenna were goin to the mall today and they didnt invite me but Kelly knew from yesterday that i really wanted to got to the mall and even after i told them how i felt they still didnt invite me, now they r just mad at me because they think its stupid. What should i do??? Should i leave it alone???

or should i be mad until they understand why im mad say sorry???

My next question is about my same from kelly, she basicly only thinks about herself... all the time all she says is ewe im so fat (SHE IS SOOOOO SKINNY!!!!) and ewe im ugly or ugh ever body hates me. i dont know if she does it for attention or if she really thinks that but me and my friends all think ots supper annoying. I wanna help her but i dont know how. And i think she is so self obsorbed and thats why she doesnt understand why im mad. How can I help her???

Answer 1

Well, to answer your first question, I think that you should be mad at them of why they didn't invite you at the mall.  The second question, however, there's nothing that you can help her because people don't change.  I suggest that you find another friend who will be loyal to you, trustworthy and always hang around with you.

Answer 2

Look you have been a very nice friend, there is nothing you should be worried of, they have to be worried believe me. Don't contact Kelly any longer, she is not a nice friend and don't tell any of those girls how mad you are because you are not invited for anything. Just stop talking to them and they are very rude. Make new friends who are good with you, don't find popular girls, they are stupid at all. Make new friends and teach Kelly a good lesson. Let them apologize for what they did to you and you don't talk to them. I mean it.

Answer 3

You shouldn't be mad the 2 friends just wanted to go by themselves,why would you wanna go if they don't want you to? Find someone else to go with and have a great time. Kelley seams to have a problem, sounds like she may not be the friend you think she is. When she says she is skinny or ugly or etc. just tell her what she wants to hear, I think you are very pretty.

Answer 4

Best way to handle this and my way:

Just ask her why she didn't invite you to the mall.

2nd question;; Best way of handeling it: Talk to her abou it.

My way of handeling it: I'd be like your a really skinny ***** who I shouldn't be friends with anymore because your a pieace of sh**! And I'd curse her out.

Answer 5

this has happen to me before. just talk to them together and tell them why you are mad and ask for forgiveness. then you all should do something together. (first Q).    

(2nd Q)  take a picture of a really big person then take a picture of her put them side by side and point out that she is very skinny. or take her and sit her down w/ a pad of paper and a pencil and have her point out all what she thinks are the negative things about herself. then after that read them back to her. then you write down all her positive things. read them aloud as you write them. i am pretty sure it will work

Answer 6

u need to figure out y ur first freind kelly didn't want to invite u, and secondly she is acting emo jus tell her that and it ight make her b quiet

Answer 7

first of all if your friends would leave you out of thier fun stuff they might have been talking about something important, but if you told them that you felt left out and they didnt care then they arnt very good friends. you should start talking to nicer people.

and second you need to tell someone about your friend. she sounds anorexic. and if she is she could die. its serious. i knew someone like that, but i never told anyone and she died. so if your afrad then send a tip annonomously. write a letter describing her actions and say that you dont want her to know you told so you want your name to be unknown. and slip it under the principals door. or the counselor.

dont NOT tell. you have to tell your friends life could be in danger!

Answer 8

first, stay mad. your friend's shouldn't just blow you off like that. if they really care, they'll invite you. just wait and see what happens. if she says sorry and learned her lesson, she might be a good friend. but if she doesn't care, she was never a good friend in the first place.

second, there are a lot of girls that do that. you just have to sit down with kelly and tell her she's skinny and gorgeous and if everyone hated her, you wouldn't be there telling her all that stuff. use this website to find her body mass index and it'll prove shes not overweight.  

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

hope that helps

Answer 9

With your first question, just leave it be. Try to forgive them and not hold a grudge. Its just silly....it could have been a lot worse...

And for your second question, just try to be understanding with her and tell her how you feel when she says mean stuff like that. Don't fight back with negative remarks like hers, it will only keep the tension going. I guess in general, just be patient with her and her mistakes. Show her what a true friend really is by being there for her.....however, if things get worse and she's toying with your head, it might be best to not be friends with her..

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Answer 10

FIRST QUESTION: you have all the right to be mad at them because good friends don't just ditch you for no reason and invite another friend. if they don't realize why you're mad, then just tell them. if they're good friends then they'll understand what they did was messed up.

SECOND QUESTION: You can help your friend by being honest with her and telling her that she shouldn't beat herself up about her appearance. And tell her why you're mad because she'll understand.  

Answer 11

Your first question: Obviously they knew this would get a reaction out of you and are expecting and looking for one. Don't do it. If you act mad they will have the satisfaction of knowing they made you that way (even though you do have a right to be upset), just blow it off, it sounds childish.

As for your second question... Its hard to say why girls say these things, most commonly it is in order to get someone else to give them a compliment, to disagree and tell them how beautiful they are. I always find that the best way to stop someone from saying "oh I'm so fat" is to say "well if you want to lose a few pounds or tone up why don't you try an exercise video.."  By not giving them the reaction or answer they are particularly looking for you can ward off some of this annoying behavior.

Good luck!

Answer 12

I would say to help yourself and find some new friends who appreicate you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:)