21 yrs old and cried for no reason

Question

yea so thankful for yahoo answers otherwise i would never ask this question. but yesterday, i came home from work and laid in bed, and i just cried out of nowhere, for no reason pretty much. i've gone through a lot the past 1-2 yrs, and i've been extremely stressed and confused. i've isolated myself from all my old friends and family because i just felt everyones become a negative influence or just sidetracks me, so i spend most of my time studying and going online. i used to party alot and had so much fun but i don't do that anymore. im trying to "grow up" but it just seems to be depressing. i also am in college and have a lot under my belt, i should be happy, but im just miserable. it probably has a lot to do with my non-supportive family and the way i was brought up and all of their drama i had to put up with. they are loving people but just ignorant and naive. anyway im 21 and moving on campus in 2-3 wks, i should just loosen up and be having a good time right? nothing is fun anymore i feel like im far behind, what should i do? is it alrite to just cry out of nowhere, nothing really triggered it. and if you have any thoughts or advice, i'd like to hear it please. thanks

Answer 1

i was in a similar situation, i moved from Fiji to new zealand to study law, brilliant experience, got up to so much S**t with my mates, despite having alot on my plate from work and absolute burn out trying to finish off assignments over night without sleep, then running like crazy to n from lectures! bloody takes a toll. i never actually cried but i was usually on the verge of bursting into tears a number of times...very manly...i know! lol but the only way i got through it was by keeping close to my mates! friends are so important...you should get in touch with yours soon if you want to keep your sanity! O n food n coffee! fuel urself like crazy! if that doesnt work then it might be (not that i would know) depression...take to a doc or google it

Answer 2

Sounds like you are suffering from depression to me. You need to talk to your doctor about this. At the very least go to the library on campus and look it up at the very least. :-)  

Answer 3

Everybody needs a good cry every once in a while.  You're at a point in your life where you have gone through a lot of changes in the last 10 years, in addition to the other problems you've alluded to.  I expect you felt better after this happened.  I also think there's no problem with what happened.

However, if this occurs frequently, you should seek medical advice for depression. Occasionally is fine, but habitually indicates a problem.  

Answer 4

Whatever is the background, the symptoms you describe sound like depression to me.  It happens to a lot of people, crying can also be a form of stress relief.  Though these are both common, both are also remedied, not just from medicine, but also by practicing exercise, eating routinely, sometimes light therepy helps (that's as simple as pushing a shopping cart through a brightly lighted store on a regular basis, honestly).  

Please check into some of the depression screens or quizzes online, or contact DBSA (Depressive and Bipolar Assn) MHA (Mental Health America), or NAMI (National Assn of Mental Illness)  for lots of help from and for people like us who feel down sometimes.

You mentioned that you "should" feel happy.  I used to think so too, but if I'm not, it really is something that is not about "should" or "Growing up".  It's just a symptom which can be dealt with.

Please see a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist, or psychologist, but family doc or physician's assistant can get you just what you need, a simple assessment.

I flunked out of college from depression.  Now I'm a state level administrator of a mental health system, with multiple degrees.  I still have to manage symptoms sometimes, but know that you're not alone.  Millions are managing these, and are having great lives.  You can join us!  And, not all treatments are for life, much of mental illness is nothing like in the movies, so throw all that folklore out the window!

Answer 5

first of all , theres nothing wrong with and outward release of crying. You are facing a lot of decisions, and embarking on a new adventure by starting college. Theres not to say you are depressed in this at all. ITs a lot to cope with for anyone, anxiety will sometimes cause this, as you settle in, make new friend, and become active, you will level out. Don;t down your parents, be thankful that you have them, and what they have provided for you. nothing In life is easy. do the best you can, you will be find.

Answer 6

i know where you're coming from. Loving but ignorant would describe my parents as well. My friends and family, they do everything for me but they never just shut up and listen. Let go mate. We'll all have to do it sometime. Acceptance and forgiveness might be the cure. Over the years, the follies of these people will be forgotten slowly or at least will diminish. You'll look back then and ask yourself why who just wasted your college years. Let go. It isn't as easy as it sounds, but when and if you do it, everything will be alright. It's life, it's not something unique to you, almost everyone has a different form of whatever yu're going through. Peace.

Answer 7

Do not feel ashamed of crying. Your going through a stressful

career. Your a sensitive guy and want to go through college with

high flying scores and pass. To get your college degree thats all.

   Your probably missing home too. Its not easy being away from

home. Go get counseling and God Bless You.

Answer 8

Women tend to cry because of no reason, but hormones do play a part, and tiredness.  It's probably the stress for you.  Start yoga or get a massage - it will help. Take bubble baths if you feel woman enough (sorry this bit probably didn't help).

Nothing is wrong with it, it's actually perfectly human, even elephants cry.