22, married, 2 year old daughter and joining the navy. Good or bad idea??

Question

Ok...I am a young married mother of one and i've decided to go in the navy. I'm now second guessing myself because i'm so afraid to leave my daughter. I'm currently a stay at home mom and my daughter is very attached to me and vice verse.I want to make a better life for my family but i'm so torn in my decision. I also have this terrible fear that something might happen to her or my husband while i'm gone and i would have been able to stop it if i never joined. HELP!

Answer 1

bad idea...you should stay with your family.

Answer 2

What the h#!! r u doing? Something to prove to whom? Get a job at the video store or have you been watching too many armed forces commercials or are you trying to prove something to someone? It makes absolutely no sense. You know you will not do it...so drop the idea and looking for attention. Take Care Hun.

Answer 3

Why did you have to join and not your husband?  

Answer 4

Well the navy will have you gone for months at a time, my girlfriend's mom was in the navy and she literally NEVER saw her mother growing up. She has major mom issues now, I say be careful with that, I couldn't do it and be gone like that. No way. Join a different branch at least the Army will not deploy you all the time in most circumstances. I personally couldn't join the military because I love my 2 year old too much, my husband is an army officer though and I support him. He works with a lot of military mom's, women do it all the time. Good luck.  

Answer 5

please please dont leave your daughter. she is 2 years old, and I don't have kids, but i wouldn't miss those growing steps. if you have this many fears DON'T GO. WHY WOULD YOU GO TO THE NAVY WHILE WE ARE IN WAR RIGHT NOW AND ALL THIS POLITICAL NONSENSE GOING ON. IT was ok to go to war in 80s, but there is too much stuff going on right now, and i think you AND your family is SAFER HERE IN THE US. i know ur thinking that the gov't can pay for schooling, and benefits and everything, but joining the army or navy is NOT YOUR ONLY OPTION. YOU ARE A new mom..

I SAID YOU ARE A NEW!!! MOM!!! YOU ARE A NEW WIFE...PLEASE DON'T GO AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU. I'm not for the war or against the war

there are other jobs that you can get!!

Answer 6

No stay home, go to a trade school to learn a skill.  If you have no idea how the military works it will put a lot of unnecessary stress on your marriage.  You'll be gone anywhere from 3 - 6 months sometimes longer in a year.  You will miss your daughter and your husband.

Answer 7

BAD IDEA BE THERE FOR YOUR BELOVED DAUGHTER SHE NEEDS YOU! YOUR HER MOTHER..

Answer 8

i do not think it is necessarily a bad idea. you will provide housing and good insurance for your family. see, if you a man, people would be like, no, no, it is great.

c'mon people. equality!

Answer 9

If you take a job like YN or PS you will be home a lot more than most. It's not a bad idea. It's job security. My husband is the military spouse and I'm the active duty member. It's different and a little trying at times but I wouldn't change it for the world. I think now is perfect for joining. If you're really concerned about deployments, take IA right away for 6-9 months (overseas usually the sandbox) and then come back and pick your orders. You can then decide you want to be on shore for the rest of your enlistment. I know plenty of moms and dads that do it everyday. I am a military brat myself and I don't have "Daddy issues" And I didn't even live with him, so I never saw him. I think the fear is something you will learn to cope with because it's never forever. Make a better life for you and your family. There's no point in struggling when you don't have to.

Answer 10

Your daughter is VERY young. And she and your husband will miss you very much. In addition, she is very attached to you and the separation won't be good. I remember when I was like 6 or 7 and my mom would travel to England for like 2 months for business and me and my brother who is three years younger would miss her so much. We used to count the days till she returned home. Maybe you should wait till she is a little bit older. And how long would you be gone?

Why don't you pray about it because that is the ONLY way? See what Christ Jesus says to you and puts on your heart because no matter how much advice you get, Jesus' Way is the BEST Way.

And congratulations on having such a sweet little girl and your great, close relationship with both her and your husband.

Answer 11

dont leave your duaghter she needs you right now

she still young you needto be with her