22 month old- won't have anything to do with me after vacation HELP?

Question

Ok, My husband and I were just gone for a little over 2 weeks on vacation and could not take my 22 month old son with (which was NOT what I wanted) we've been back about a week and a half and now he really doesn't want much to do with me. At first of course he was beside himself to see me, lots of hugs and kisses, he was overwelmed. But now he doesn't want much to do with me, he will hit me or tell me no a lot, very crabby towards me and if anyone else from my family is around he wants Nothing to do with me. Please help, will this ever end? He ALWAYS used to be my little buddy and this is breaking my heart!

Answer 1

It's pretty normal for him to act out. It's his way of telling you that he's upset that you left him. Just continue to give him lots of hugs and kisses, and he'll come around eventually.

Answer 2

He'll come around. Some babies just take longer to adjust.

Answer 3

He was glad you came home, now he's telling you he's mad that you left him. He is too little to have words to let out his feelings, so he is acting them out. He's also testing to see if you're going to go away again.

Try spending extra time with him, doing things you know already he really likes, just the two of you. Spend extra cuddle time when he is tired and ready to sit for awhile, too. You can use your words for him. You can say, "I know you are still a little mad at Mom for being gone so long, but I'm back and we are together. I love you!" Saying this when he is being "crabby toward you" will help him now and in the future, as his vocabulary increases. He will learn to use words instead of actions through you..

Please, don't allow him to hit you, he is trying to control you and that must stop now.

He is also going into the terrible two's, which is a phase where he is looking for a little more independence from his Mom and exploring more of the world.

It will get better, I promise!

Love and patience will bring him around and you'll need the practice, because this won't be the last time he pushes you away, checking to see if you'll stick around and love him no matter how he behaves.

Answer 4

You abandoned your child for 2 weeks and you expect him not to resent you!

I'm guessing the family you are speaking of are the ones that had him while you were gone or he wasn't use to seeing on a daily basis so he doesn't see them as just up and leaving for 2 weeks!

You brought this upon yourself! Who leaves their child for a VACATION for two weeks?!

If it were for a serious matter like life or death medical emergency then you may have gotten some sympathy but that was just selfish of you!!!

I have never left my daughter over night she has never been away from me longer then 8 hrs and she just turned 4 yesterday. You make them you love them and take care of them!

Answer 5

You know, I have to agree with Kikime. My girls are 9 and 11 now, and I've still never left them for more than a quick weekend. Seems really odd to me that you would leave a 2 year old for that time frame and then expect their not to be some behavioral issues when you return.

Answer 6

Give him sometime.  He will come around.

Answer 7

Would you be mad if he left you for 2 weeks?  Give him some space, he'll come around.

Answer 8

he's not a baby...he's almost two. don't let him hit you.