22 y/o expecting father looking to Propose, should I?

Question

I'm currently 22, turning 23 in a couple weeks. My girlfriend is 25 and currently 5 months pregnant. We have been together for a year and a half and have lived together for a year. We both are extremely happy in our relationship and i have doubts about proposing strictly because I do not want her to feel like i am doing it because of the baby (which that is not the only reason but it is one) I have thought about this for about 8 months and i am curious to what other situations you may have had and your outcomes.

Answer 1

If you truly love her and want to spend the rest of your lives together then definitely propose and congratulations!!!!!

Here's my all time favorite quote for you from the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin. Hope it helps you see love  :)

Iannis: "When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is!"

Answer 2

Wait until after the baby is born.  Being pregnant and trying to plan or thinking of planning a wedding can put a major strain on a relationship and can be an added stress to your already stressed pregnant girlfriend.  There's no need to rush....after the baby is born will bring you closer.  The proposal will be that much better.

Answer 3

Ask her TODAY and the two of you have a ceremony as soon as possible - well before baby comes.

Time for you to step up, dude, even if a bit late....

Answer 4

i think you should wait until after the baby is born otherwise your girlfriend will always wonder did you just propose because you thought you should as she is pregnant.

Answer 5

I think that is the best thing you can do. Not only will you two be happier, but I think it makes growing up easier on a child if his/her parents are married. Tell her that you have been thinking about it for a while and now that you are going to have a family you think now is the time to make the leap. Let her know that she is the one for you and that you want to spend the rest of your life with her and only her. Good luck.

Answer 6

If shes the one,I would do it.

Answer 7

I Guess It Would Have It's Pro's & Con's.

People May Think You Want To Make An Honest Woman Of Her Or That You Want Her To Know How Much She Means To You Before Having Your Baby.

People May Also Think That Your Only Asking Because She Is Pregnant Like You Said.

But If You Feel Right About It, Then My All Means, Ask Her.

Tell Her How Much You Love Her, Tell Her You Wanted To Marry Her No Matter What, The Baby Isn't The Reason - But Having A Baby With Her Is Just A Bonus. If You've Thought About It For 8 Months Then That Proves The Baby Isn't The Reason

Good Luck & Congrats On The Baby

=)

Answer 8

My husband and I went through something very similar. We always knew we were going to get married, it just happened differently than we thought. I think if she is the one then you should do it. Every woman deserves to be made a "decent woman of". It might be old fashioned, but it is nice to "make it right" especially if you were going to propose anyways.  

Answer 9

I have a few friends who have gotten engaged while they were pregnant and a few who have done so after the baby was born.  In most cases, the couples were already planning to marry, so the time tables were just sped up a bit due to the pregnancy.  Either way will work!  

Talk to your girlfriend about the situation and decide together what you want to do.  My fiance and I are not pregnant, but we discussed marriage at length before we became engaged, so we both knew it would happen eventually, but he was still able to plan a big proposal and surprise me as he had hoped.

I have had two friends who proposed while their girlfriends were pregnant and the marriages didn't work out, but that may not be the case for you and your girlfriend.  Every situation is different, so just talk to her.  If you love this woman dearly and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then simply let her know how you feel.

Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 10

if you are sure you want her then yeah, sit her down and talk to her open and honestly of why you want to marry her *s* we girls apriciate honesty as well, and if you apear totaly honest we will belive you to be so as well and take you on your word

besides kids is a valid reason for traditional or religious reasons, i fully respect my bf dont want them before married for such reasons, no problem, i know he also wouldnt marry me if he didnt love me

so if it feels rigth and you sertainly thougth about it long enough, sit her down and talk to her (it migth be she havent, in which case be understanding if she need some time as well if you never talked to her about it, afterall you had 8 months thinking it through)

Answer 11

It's obvious from your question that the baby is not the only reason that you want to propose. If you really love her, go for it!

Answer 12

wether or not you are having a baby shouldnt matter. if you lover her and want to spend the rest of you life with her then aks away. take her to her favorite place and ask. everything always works out te way it was meant to be. congrats and good luck

Answer 13

It's a personal decision, but I wouldn't marry her just because she's having your baby.

Do you love her? Do you see yourself 50 years from now sitting on a porch sipping coffee with her? Or do you see yourself with dreams that don't include her?

You need to get your priorities straight. If your having doubts, you shouldn't marry her, but you can still be the best possible father to that baby all throughout his/her life!

Maybe in a few years, you will marry her or maybe you two will be split up. Either way, the important person here is the baby.

I wish you the best of luck! God Bless!