23 months and i still need to lay down w/ her...HELP PLEASE!!!?

Question

My daughter is almost 2...i nursed her until she was 18 months and co-sleep still....i have to lay w/ her to get her to sleep (sometimes over 1hr)..she slept in her own bed fine lastnite, but i sat there w/o saying 1 word for 45mins....right now is nap time, she's so tired and i've put her in her bed..it's been one hr. and she's still fussing/talking/whining BUT she knows that she must stay in her bed, so if she gets out, hears me coming she'll run back in!...so i think she's getting it....

.i hate to hear her cry and it's pulling at my heart, but i'm tired of it and if i EVER want to try for another baby..this one has got to get out of my bed!!!

What can i do to keep her there and learn to put herself to sleep?..she has no sooky things..it's always been me...i am the only soother and bears/babies don't help!!!

Answer 1

I know it's hard but you have to be strong.  She must learn to soothe herself- and sooner rather than later or it will only get worse.  Keep doing what you did last night.  Put her in her bed, and just sit in the room until she falls asleep.  Don't look at her, or respond to her verbally or otherwise. If she gets out of bed, gently return her to it without any other interaction.  After a couple of nights, you should be able to stay just outside the room, then leave altogether.  It won't be easy!  Just remember the reason you are doing it.  Remember when your parents told you things were harder on them than you, but they were doing it for your own good?  Now you see what they meant...   Good luck and stay strong!

Answer 2

It's time to be firm with her...If you keep doing this, she'll keep on playing around with her...At this age...be firm but gentle.

Answer 3

I know it's tough, but at naptime and bedtime, set a routine for her. Read her one story, tuck her in, and give her a kiss. If she cries, let her. If she's tired enough, she will go to sleep without you in there. I had the same problem with my son. I had to let him cry for him to get the picture. Once you start this, she'll learn some independence and won't rely on you so much, so you'll get a break! Good luck!

Answer 4

It's the hardest thing I ever had to do I put her in her bed and had to let her cry she finally went to bed and slept through the night the next night she didn't cry as long and by the third or fourth night she went right down as for bears and babies not working mine wouldn't sleep with anything for a while then one night she took her giraffe to bed and has ever since

Answer 5

stay strong ....it's hard to hear them cry, but it's the only way.  Eventually she will get so tired that she will lay down to relax, then just fall asleep ...it takes time, but she will get used to it.

Answer 6

just stay firm. When she gets up put her back and eventually she'll just give up the fussing and know she wont get her way and she'll go on to sleep. Dont stay in the room with her, just lay her down and read a book or whatever you normally do,then leave the room. Make it a routine, it will be hard at first but when you give in you'll just have to start all over. Good Luck

Answer 7

some kids don't sleep at this age.  close the curtains, dim the lights, and put on quiet music or a video for an hour.  call this "quiet time" and learn to pick your battles.

Answer 8

Try playing soothing music EVERY time she goes to sleep, no matter where. I have a Baby Sleep CD I bought at a discount store. Eventually, she should get a "cue" when the music starts and she'll go to sleep quickly.

Make sure you are keeping a quiet, soothing, regular bedtime schedule.