26 Wks and miserable. Any suggestions/word of encouragement?

Question

Hey, I just cant seem to want to do anything, I'm always mopey and I cry pretty much everyday and sometimes I don't even know why. I'm happy I'm pregnant and I'm very much in love but lately I just cant shake this slump. I'm feeling so overwhelmed. I don't have an apt yet and I'm living with my fiancés family. being there bothers me because its not my house and they are quite messy people.

I just cant help thinking nothing is going to work out how I wanted it to.

I have no car, no apartment and I am looking for apartments but there isn't many available in my area.

I feel like everything I try to do someone is behind me telling me I'm wrong. I just wanna tell the whole world to shut up and leave me alone!!! Did/does anyone fell like this too? I'm just so moody and miserable.

Answer 1

Actually at 26 weeks you are allowed to telll everyone to shut up as you please :]

If it feels like time is speeding by while simultaneously dragging on, you're not crazy, you're just pregnant. One minute you feel totally unprepared for the changes having a baby will bring, the next minute the anticipation of meeting the Mini that's been swinging from your ribs makes you cry. Such is the roller coaster of pregnancy (and strangely enough, of being a parent, too).

Answer 2

Well, it seems like a perfectly natural way to feel considering the facts.  You are going to have a child and you:  

are living with your "in-laws";

you can't find an apartment in your area;  

you don't have any form of transportation;

you are realizing the life changing event you are about to enter (like it or not, it's too late to do something about it now!)

and lastly, you didn't mention your age, but I assume you are also young.

Who wouldn't feel like that?  You are depressed and I'm sorry to say, it doesn't seem like it's going to do a 180 any time soon.  You have a huge responsibility coming up and the weight of the world will be on your shoulders.  How will you take care of your child without the necessities? (transportation, shelter, money, food, safety)  I'm sure you love your baby and your boyfriend, but it will not get any easier from her on out.  Did you hear me?  It WILL NOT GET ANY EASIER from here on out.  Please, please don't think I'm being insensitive, but what about adoption?  Somebody out there wants a baby real bad and will love your baby and give it everything it needs.  (something you would give it if you could, but you can't yet.....  not just yet)  I wish you the best of luck.  And ps, maybe you can ask your doctor about depression and if there is anything you can take while you're pregnant....not sure if there is though...

Answer 3

been there i just learned to let everything fall into place because eventually it will try to enjoy your pregnancy relax let these things be in the back burner its hard i know but remember theres a precious life inside of you that you need to worry about more than the little things in life just bring in a healthy baby and like i said everything will fall into place best of luck

Answer 4

no. i wish i had the chance to feel blah when i was 26 weeks, instead, i ended up in the hospital, from there got transferred over to university of chicago and had to deliver by c-section due to pregnancy complications.

you should try to enjoy your pregnancy to the best because it's a beautiful

time for a woman and i was just starting to love the fact that i was pregnant but it had to be cut short. baby is well now and is going to be 1 year old soon and is my little miracle. hang in there sweetie it could be worse.   :)

Answer 5

whoever suggested adoption is an idiot. ALL of us pregnants have gone thru a slump, some are worse than others. Just remember that although its crappy now, its about to get a lot better. you dont have control over how many apartments are available, so dont let that get you down. I completely understand feeling crappy and miserable. It sounds like what you need is a treat. You need a treat really bad right now. Go buy yourself some comfy panties. sounds crazy, but nice soft cute undies always make me feel a little bit better...you cant feel that bad in comfy cute panties. Also, get a pedicure. Chances are you havent gotten to up close and personal with your toes lately, and getting them painted and massaged will definatley be a mood lifter. It sounds petty but really, those little treats make a BIG difference on how you feel about YOU right now...which is important. good luck hun, and remember you are BEAUTIFUL and  you CAN DO IT and youll make a great mommy! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

I once lived with two pregnant women who were in that same boat. Pregnancy has got to be the hardest part of a woman's life, in my opinion. I think that you may benefit from concentrating on the needs of you're child. When you worry and get scared, so does your unborn baby. My mother got pregnant with me when she was living with her parents, didn't have any money, no car or apartment, my dad ran off as soon as he found out she was pregnant so that didn't' help things, but she did a great job with me and my little sister. When I was a kid, being raised by a single mother who worked full time and was in college, we were always really poor and had to move from crappy apartments to even crappier apartments. I think that it sucked but it was worth it because my mom was strong and always supportive and caring no matter what; that taught me to be stronger too, and I am completely happy with my life now and proud that my mother was such a great woman. I think you will be fine, you are just going to have to be tough, for you and your child's sake.