27 weeks Pregnant - Husband wants to leave me!! ?

Question

I am 27 weeks pregnant and my husband has just told me he does not want to be a family with me and our 3 year old daughter and with another one due in November...he has been distant, does not say I love you anymore, does not want to touch me or even make love to me anymore....I don't know what to do....he just keeps telling me he does not know what he wants, he won't talk to me and we are having a baby in a matter of months...I am so scared and don't know what to do?? Can anyone HELP ME!!!! Thanks

Answer 1

if he wants to leave you then apparently he should have never got on top of you and got you pregnant make sure you emphasize on the fact tht child support is not cheap and that this is one of the most wonder-full things he is going to miss out on you deserve better hes a pig  

Answer 2

Aw Hun, sometimes marriages just don't work out.  But sometimes all you need is a little more communication.  Let things settle for a week or two and maybe bring up a marriage counselor.  Did anything trigger all this?   How long has this been going on?  Just don't give up yet, there's still hope.  Good luck.

Answer 3

So sorry!! will your parents help you out? I would not want him there if he doesn't want to be there and he a jerk for leaving you while you are pregnant. Call your pastor if you have one or seek counseling. Good Luck!

Answer 4

That's so sad, my heart goes out to you. I agree call your mum and take your 3 year old with you. Family support is what you need now. Also you can go to your doctor and get a referral for a councilor that might help?

You need to look after your self emotionally right now and your daughter and do what is right for you...

Answer 5

Let him leave. You don't need him. File for child support, and divorce him. He needs to support his kids.  Find a support group for single moms.  Good Luck.

Answer 6

for the sake of your daughter and soon to be born child, let him have his time to sort things out, suggest therapy maybe.  Just make sure he is supporting your daughter since you shouldn't have to support her alone

Answer 7

take control of the situation and leave him.  can you stay with you sister??

Answer 8

Sounds like bull to me. I really feel bad for you I do. But think of it this way do all you can to try and make this work. Once you put your all into it there is nothing else you can do. Your a great mother right? and im sure that you dont need NO man to help you with your kids. Yes financially you may.. but you dont need him if he is not sure what he wants. He will either stay or go. But you dont want to be unhappy in this ya know? Be strong. I grew up with just my dad, i turned out OK. so if worst comes to worse your kids will be ok i promise you. and your sister should let you stay with her because thats what family is for! Dont worry just let him do what he will maybe he will come arouind to his senses.. just remember. Do everything you can.. after that its out of your control! Good Luck hun. Keep us updated ok?  

Answer 9

maybe he is just freking out..hopefully.. if not then he is just a really big jerk. he needs to be a man and be responsible for his wife and 2 children. if he cant talk to you then he needs to go to counsling and seek professional help

Answer 10

let him leave. call your mum

Answer 11

This sounds like my brother in law and his wife. They have 2 kids and he kept saying he was leaving, didn't know what he wants in life. She would cry tell him to stay, all of that. It got to the point where one day he said he was leaving and she said go, didn't get upset or anything, just said to pack his stuff and leave. It made something click in his head and they sat down and talked and now he is being a better father and husband than I have seen him be in a LONG time. Sometimes it just takes the slap of reality that you can go on without him, that makes him realize he doesn't really want to go

Answer 12

I think u need to leave him for a bit make him see what he missing aye hun maybe u guys need a break for a bit, having a second child is hard im only on my first and its difficult trying to hold a marriage together and look after the kids etc...i think call one of ur girl mates and go stay with them for a while sweetie you dont need stress as in worrying about what he is going to do everyday whether he is going to leave etc...you need to surround urself with people whom love you and give lots of love to that little baby and ur baby girl! you need to focus on you! and what you want! be strong hun! it will all work out in the end!  

Answer 13

Tell him that is not an option , You do not get a choice why should he, Tell him to go look in his daughters face and tell her she does not need a father, He needs to act like he still has a pair and step up and be a man.

Answer 14

this is why they invented child support honey.

i know how you feel. im 36 weeks and single and broke, in debt, with no where to live when my baby comes.

but i just want to say, s***w him.

i know it hurts the heart and makes life hard as h**l.

but dont let him control your feelings. the most attractive thing to a man is a strong woman. so take care of yourself, your little one, and your body.

be strong, and show that you can take care of yourself without his help.

your sister should be willing to take you in for a couple weeks till this blows over, or until you two realize what needs to happen.

don't worry. you're not alone.

just take care of yourself, stress will stress out the baby and you need to take care of him/her!

get some rest and take care.

Answer 15

Seems to me that he has some issues.  You can't worry about him and I know it's hard.  You have to think of your babies.  Stress is not good being pregnant.  Have you guys thought about a counselor?  I know I will probably get thumbed down for this but have you thought that there may be someone else?  My husband was distant with me and never wanted to have s*x.  I found out he was talking to another woman.  Go and stay with family or have him leave.  He will see that you are serious about not taking his c**p.  He should see that he will be losing something wonderful.  I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I hope your marriage works out for you and the kids.  Just pray and don't put yourself through all of the unneeded stress.  Good Luck!

Answer 16

He if can't be a man for you - then let the pansy leave and get support off your family.  Is sickens me when a man gets so far in his life, has a mid-life crises and wants to walk away from all their responsibilities.

I know you don't want him to leave - but wouldn't if be harder for you if he stays and continues with this inappropriate behaviour?