29 weeks pregnant and having relationship problems in need of some advice thank?

Question

I have several issues ,so I will just start from the beggining. I am 21 years old and 27 weeks pregnant. I met the father(age 35) of my child in November of last year. Everything moved very fast in the beggining. I moved with him three weeks after knowing him and 2 months later I was pregnant. At first he was very happy about the pregnancy, but that didn't last long. When I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant he said he didn't want anything to do with me or the baby. About a week or two ago he called me and said he wanted back in my life ,but he didn't want to be in a relationship with me. He said that might change once the baby is born. Now that he is back he wants to make all the descisions like naming her and has tried to tell me that I can not date once the baby is born. I want to confront him on these, but I do not want to chase him away again, because when we are together everything is great. Thanks for your advice.

Jessica

Answer 1

You need to come up with a plan of how to survive and be strong and a good mom without this unreliable player.  Because he'll leave you again the second something shiny shows up.  

But he'll still have to pay child support.  You need to start the paperwork on that ASAP, in fact, if you're a smart girl, you'll call social services tomorrow and see how early you can do that...my guess would be that it could (and should) be your first stop on the way home from the hospital with that baby.  

He's going to have to support this baby financially but honey, listen, you CANNOT count on him to be there for you or her in any other way...he won't do it. So you have to come up a plan for yourself and that precious baby without him.  But you can do it and it will be fine!  Call Social Services if you need help with rent, food, etc., they can put you on something called WIC and make sure you have food, etc. if you need that.  

Or if you have family that can and will help you, rely on them.  Especially your parents if you can, but baby, he's not going to be there for long.

Answer 2

so many women or i should say kids do this same thing. Have s*x then find out what type of guy/girl they are dealing with. Perhaps if you waited to sleep with him and not bed him so quickly, you wouldnt be in this situation.

Answer 3

You're now finding out why he's 35 and single.  That said, you aren't any better since you got pregnant within two months.  All you can do now is hold out for support payments because that's likely to be the closest you'll be to him from now on.  Welcome to single parenthood.

Answer 4

i think that since he left once he might do it again .and if he leaves again think of ur baby what if 13 yrs later he comes back and change his ind again .. i know im 13 and going threw it.

Answer 5

Oh my gosh, it certainly does NOT sound like things are great. :(  Don't let him treat you like that.  You are not a child.  I'd say move out, stand up for yourself and your baby.  If he wants to have any part of your child's life he needs to grow up and stop being so controlling.  I don't care how old he is.  He's acting like a 3-year-old who wants everything he sees in a candy store.

Answer 6

Jessica,

This does not sound like everything is "great". He sounds like a control freak who is immature.

He will make your life h**l after the baby is born.

Any man that could kick his 41/2 month pregnant GF to the curb is disgusting.