2years age gap?

Question

im 5 weeks pregnant right now..and i have an 18months old boy..and he will be 2 when the baby comes..Im a little nervous about having a newborn and controling a 2 year old at the sametime..i want to know about other mothers who had their children this age groups..how did you handle the situation??and how was your first few days with your new born and your toddler??i live in japan and i dont have anyone to help.. my family live far from my place and i have to manage all the newborn and toddler stuff..

thanks for hearing ..

Answer 1

I have 3 children and the first two were 3 years and 1 month apart.  This was the perfect gap between my first two.  My oldest helped out lots and was proud to be the big brother.  My second and third are 2 years and 4 days apart and for me that was too close.  My middle child was a very active 2 year old and he kept me on my toes!!  The first few days were okay though, it wasn't until everyone had settled in that I started to have problems with him.  I actually preferred having no family except my husband help me because I could settle in to my own routines quickly.   My only advice is make sure you stick to your routines such as meals and naps as much as possible for your toddler.  A well rested and fed toddler is a lot easier to deal with than a hungry tired one.  I tried to get my 2 year old to nap around the same time as the baby, then I could nap too.  Didn't always work though.  Your experience will depend on your sons personality, I have friends who have their kids 2 years apart and think its great.   Now that I am past the difficult year and a half after my youngest was born, I think 2 years is perfect!  They play really well together and am really happy with the age gap.   Good luck and remember it is only a stage and this stage will pass!!!

Answer 2

my girls are only 10 1/2 months apart...thats two babies, not a toddler and a baby...its hard...but you manage

just keep your 2 year old on its schedule and remember to if you need to take a time out yourself and cool down

Answer 3

our age gaps r slighltly bigger, but when our 2nd baby came our first son was 3, , we made a conscious effort to always involve him with the new baby, feeding, bathing, giving them cuddle time with baby, so there is no jealousy etc. when ur newborn sleeps, give ur 2 yo one on one time - yes it will be tiring, but once the new baby grows the pressure will ease, all the best. PS. we have had no help from family ever - our kids have never been babysat & its been 9 yrs now!!, tiring but worth it (we have 3,:  9,6,&2);)

Answer 4

well the best way to handle the situation is taking it day by day.your new baby is going to be different than your first one,the difference is that you already have the experience from the first baby and that will help you a lot withyour second baby.as far as dealing with 2 babies at the same time that is somethng that you will learn by making little adjustment once the new born comes along. i was in the same situation and is not easy but in the long run is so rewarding, please don't let worries get in your way belive me you will always find the way to deal with any situation,never be afraid to ask for advise and always follow your mothers intuition.take tons of pictures after all kids grow up so fast. always tell them how much you love them they need to hear and feel that as much as they need food to survive.be the best mother you can be your own way. May GOD bless you and your babies.

P.S  Get the babies father involve that will help a lot,remember is not your reponsability only. Take care my friend

Answer 5

welcome to my world..I had 5 years old too. first thing ..let me say congratulations.. that is great.. you going to have a twin situations moments.  Second you need to ask for help if you need it and can afford it (maybe nanny/maid.. or mothers club.. neighbors.. friends) and the most your significant other. I had to hire a part time nanny/helper.. I needed some time for myself to rest and get energy.and I had to make a schdual with my husband the first month I couldn't' sleep more than 3 hours @ times...I was very tired and my house was very very messy.. you need to get your priorities...and you need to use every moment you can to sleep or rest.. when they are sleeping you go to sleep.. the 2 years old may going to be hard.. he may want more attention from your... the best way for me was to talk to him and explain every thing I do.. and include him in some of the activities.. like holding the baby cloth.. or bring the wipes. and the most important keep his schedule as mutch as possible.. the nanny helped me with the baby while I took a nap with my 2 years old.. nannies are not for those who work only.. or for no being home.. but also for being the best mom you can be.