2yr old with a temper....?

Question

my daughter has somewhat of a temper...i know she is only 2 and they have not learned how to control their emotions and as parents it is our job to teach them... i have a 6 year old who can handle her emotions... but all children are different and i just am having trouble with my baby... for example... yesterday when we tried to leave the library, i was holding my 2 year olds hand and when she relized we were leaving she threw herself on the floor and started screaming "i no want to leave.. please mama!!!!" over and over. I had to go we had been there close to 2 hours (she had been really good those 2 hours too) . i tried talking to her like i would have done when my 1st daughter was 2, but it didnt help.. finally i just picked her up and carried her out with all eyes on us....what did i do wrong? how should it have been handled?

thank you for your time..

Answer 1

ignore her behaviour at this age, if u make a big deal she will realise shes getting ur attention by doing it, even though its negative attention. if she continues to do it when shes older then u can give her the relevant punishment, ie. sending her to her room, stopping sweets etc.

Answer 2

all children are different and unique.

just be aware fo time with this little one

reward her and praise her with words and smiles when she is being good.

i fond that with my 3 yr old( who is gogint hrough his terrible 2s now) that if i fill him up with praise before it does go bad  he clams down quicker.

i talk to him in a quiet voice.

i get the library leaving situation alot.

we set up a regular time each week that we go, a set routine.

  i give warnings that we are going to read the last  books then we are going.....

just keep calm - u did fine,...

Answer 3

All adults are different, so all kids are different too and you will have to try a few things to find what works for.  What works for me is to tell my son before we go how long we will be there and what we will do, then I tell him a few minutes out that it is almost time to leave, so let's (I pick something I know he likes) "xyz" two more times (pick two more books, etc), then good job...that is one book...let's pick one more then it is time to go.

I also ALWAYS make sure we have something fun planned at home even if it is just reading a book before his nap.  That way, when we are leaving I will tell him that I want to hurry to get home because I really want to have time to read him a book before nap (or go on the swing before lunch...whatever).

Anyway, it has really helped to give him a 5 minute, then 2 minute warning and then as we are leaving start prepping him mentally for the next activity.

Answer 4

I know that this bit of advice is not appropriate in a public place, but by and adult mirroring a child's tantrums doing all the crying and screaming - can show a child how silly there tantrums look and makes them think about what they are doing more. Obviously this is only really good to do when a child does this at home.

Answer 5

Dont let your kids walk all over you that's for sure. Smack her *** and tell her what she is and isn't going to do. You are the parent. You think it is bad now wait until she is 12 or 13 and after all those years of getting what she wanted just because she threw a fit, you will be in for some long nights. A family isn't a democracy, it is a dictatorship. You are in charge and the kids do what you say, when you say it, or there are consequences. easy as that.

Answer 6

You need to tell her when you get there that when you pick up the diaper bag it is time to say good by for now. Then tell her 'it's time to say good by for now' and firmly do this.Allow her to take a minute to say good by and wave.But,  Don't drag it out. Be firm and let her throw her fit and pick her up if you have to. She will get the idea after a few times that this is the practice. Always be firm and consistent. Until the communication gets better and she realizes that you do understand; but, you are the boss; this can be an issue.

This is the same way to handle all issues with a toddler; be it nap time, bed time, play time, etc.