3 months pregnant by my ex, should I wait??

Question

Ex fiance and I broke up about 2 months ago, a week after that I found out I was pregnant. He didn't believe me at first, and didn't really care to talk to me and sometimes cursed me out, and had his so called gf's call and tell me not to call him. So about 2 weeks ago after they broke up he calls me and just wants to talk to me and see how I'm doing. We have talked about every night since and sometimes fell asleep on the phone together. I've been to the dr. a few times and the last time I went I had a physical done. He got mad at me because I don't have an ultrasound yet, but I got scheduled for one in 1 month, I'm only 12 weeks and 4 days, the dr.'s wait at least 15-16 weeks before they do an ultrasound. I explained all this to him, but lately he has been really nasty and sarcastic towards me. I still love this man with everything from the bottom of my heart and I would love to be with him, but he says he doesn't want to be tied down to one woman right now. My real question here is should I just leave him alone and still wait for him to come around or just go on about my life and do me? And any other suggestions of what you think about the situation will help too!

Answer 1

Oh Wow!  No offence, but sometimes I wonder if the girls on here have any sense of self-respect!

1) He's asked his gf to call you - pathetic and cowardly

2) He waits till (she's probably dumped him having more self-respect than you) he's alone again and calls you - he's using you as a stop gap

3)He got mad at you for not having an ultrasound?? WTF Sorry  -why exactly when you didn't have one booked and he got mad at you???

4)He's nasty and sarcastic towards you - wonderful...

5) He doesn't want to be tied down to one woman - What about being tied to the child?  Bet he doesn't want that either right?

YOU LOVE THIS MAN FROM THE BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART???

Oh my God!!!! Name one thing - just one, about his behaviour that indicates that he loves you 1% or that he will be a great dad to your child??

Move on - its enough that he will have rights to see this baby (if he wants to) when its born.  Carry on like this and you risk becoming one of those mums where the father comes to see them for a bit of action on occassion and never commit.

Question - Don't you and your child deserve more?

Answer 2

hey, im sorry to hear this, but honestly this guy is not a keeper he does not seem supportive of u, i honestly would not keep the baby, but its your choice. im sure u will find a better man as time comes

take care

Answer 3

He sounds like a deadbeat. I would let him alone - but make sure he helps support the baby he helped create. Its only fair.  

Answer 4

Sweet do not wait for this man he sound like a right looser i mean you preggers with his baby and all he cares about it is having several women!! I would move on sweetie becasue you have got to think of you and the baby now and there are plenty more fish in the sea!!!

I hope everything goes well for you!!!!

Good Luck xx

Answer 5

He's obviously told you how he feels about you by his actions.  Leave the loser alone and focus on you and your baby!  Good luck!

Answer 6

Particularly during a pregnancy look out for yourself and your child.  The rule applies to life in general also.  As for your pregnancy care - follow the advice of your doctor - your instinct and nothing else.

Answer 7

Dont put your life on hold for him....focus on the health and well being of this child thats on the way....too much stress is not good for you right now.