3 mos old pulling the no one can hold me but mom deal...how long might this last?

Question

and how did you get past it, after 12+ hours with her itd be nice to get even 10 minutes totally to myself, and she wails and screams when hubby holds her, or anyone else for that matter

needless to say when he only has 1 or 2 hours to spend with her each day hes becoming quite upset that she doesnt want to be somewhat calm with him.... and in turn its making me upset seeing him feel that rejected way.....

i do not know what to do, its been a week already.....

Answer 1

Make sure many people are holding the baby. Not just you, and not just you trying to get your husband to hold the baby. Also something that would help a lot is to introduce her to having someone else feed her and change her diapers. Having some other people do things that you typically do will help her become acclimated to not just mom!

Answer 2

I saw this work for a lady with the same problem.

She stood in front of her husband who held the baby outward so the baby could look right at mommy. First he fussed, but mommy got the babies attention and had him laughing soon after he was fussing.

Within a few minutes, Mom could step back a little bit as long as baby could still see her. Etc etc until mom could leave the room for a few minutes and Dad was holding baby talking softly to him and he was fine.

It takes some work, but have Dad rescue baby from crib when he's crying. Even if Dad only takes baby to mom, he'll come to understand Dad is ok.

They do outgrow it..but you can help him be more secure with family you trust holding him.

Be calm and assertive with him while you are doing this. Dont raise your voice like Most people do when they talk to a baby. Keep it monotone.

Answer 3

Congrats on the new baby!  They will go through many,many stages in their life. My son did this with me and my husband. He would want me for 2 weeks and then he wanted his dad. The best thing you can do is say "I am leaving you in of baby and taking a 1/2 hour to myself" and then proceed to show your husband how you comfort her, and then leave she will eventually learn to allow your husband to comfort her. It won't take that long either. Good luck and if you sneek in and see her sleeping like an angel, it will erase all the days crying. promise:)

Answer 4

oh gosh -- a week? i hate to tell you: ruby was like this for four months. from 4-8 months she would go to no one but me. it was really hard. granted, she was an extreme case. there isn't much you can/should do at first. the best way to set him up for independence later is to respond to his dependence now. basically, the sooner he feels safe, the sooner he will grow out of the clinginess. and his safety is totally based on your responsiveness to his needs. once you feel he is a little less anxious with others, then you can push a bit. here's what we did with ruby: once she seemed ready (or ready-er), we left her at grandma's (you can do this with dad instead) for 30 minutes. then, a few days later, we left her for an hour. then 2 hours, then 3, until after a few weeks we were ready to leave her for a full day (8-5). now she does a day a week with grandma and is literally waving bye to me before they are out the door. and let me tell you, she would not LOOK at grandma until she was 9 months old! again, ruby was an extreme case, but i would follow the same model with your daughter. and if you don't have one already, get a baby bjorn or a beco carrier. the bjorn was the only way i survived during those super clingy months. and i know everyone says this and it is hard to imagine, but the day will come soon when you will miss the clingy days. (really. i swear). hang in there, momma!

Answer 5

My two month old started it 15 days back. I had a word with my pediatrician. She suggested I pump breastmilk and let the daddy feed the baby once or twice in a day. Also she assured that there will be plenty of time later for daddy to play with the baby and bond.  

Answer 6

it could last till she/he is mobile it sucks all my babies were so attached if she breast feeds like i do it just comes with the teritorry all i can say is give her/him as many cuddles as posible when mom isnt avalible and sitting next to your husband while he kisses her and gives her funny faces soon you will be able to leave the room while she s geting sweet loves from daddy

Answer 7

She's only 3 months old. It takes time. Keep at it. Pretty soon she'll only know the two of you and will sream and wail at other people she doesn't know. Usually at age 8 months. Your lil one will come around. Don't be discouraged. It could be maybe he's holding her wrong or wants to be bundled or feed. Try eliminating some things that could be making her cry.