3 under 3?

Question

yes before people start its our choice but just wanted to know if any body has any tips on how to cope or any tales to tell if they were or are in the same boat as me and my family.

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my third son and that menas i'll have 3 children under the age of 3. Up until now i've not had any doubts as how we'll cope but maybe its because my due date is soon i'm starting to panic thinking how will i cope? will i be able to look after all 3 no problems when the husband is at work? how will my other 2 react to the new born? can i make time for them individually? please help if you can. x

Answer 1

Really only you can answer these questions. Just remember that your a strong person who is a pro! (you've done this 2x before) At first it will be hard to make time separately for your kids, but once you get in the flow of things having the newborn around it should be easier and easier to find some individual time. Just relax, and remember that a mothers love knows no bounds. <3

Answer 2

I was in your boat - when my daughter (my third) was born, my sons were 13 months and 2 1/2 years old.  I remember telling people I had three kids under three - and they'd say "thats impossible!"  Um, no its not!

You'll cope.  Where your older two are boys and they'll be so young, most likely, they won't even notice the new baby or care about him (mine didn't).  So jealously was not an issue for me.  I won't lie - its exhausting, but mainly because the baby is getting up at night.  I don't think I was any more exhausted then when any of my kids were newborns.  And the added benefit of the other two being young - they all still nap - so you get breaks during the day, which you wouldn't get if your kids were older.  Also, if they don't nap at the same time, that will give you some individual time with whoever is awake.

I was definitely kind of house bound for a bit - I felt like I spent my whole day putting kids down for naps.  So in the beginning, its pretty rare you have all 3 awake at the same time.

Think of it this way, you get the sleepless nights, bottles, diapers, etc. all done at once - most people drag out that exhaustion over many many years.   :)

Good luck!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Don't worry, you can do it.

Just be possitive about yourself from bringing a new life and there is no such thing as a 'perfect, best' way of being a mum.

Congratulations!

Answer 5

You managed two you will manage three just as well

Answer 6

First off well done!!! It well be hard but routine is the key and wont the3 year old be starting nursery in sep???  Maybe buy a present and ask relatives too  for the older kids so they wont feel left out. Asked relatives for help too. Try get a bed routine in place so you and your hubby have time together, if it wasnt for my child free evenings i would go mental!!! Good luck x

Answer 7

I had 3 under 2 for 2 months(had twins 2nd time around)

You'll cope. You already know the basics from the first 2 so wont take you long to establish a routine for little one, plus because none are at school you dont have to have strict times to get anywhere. I currently have a 2 yr old, twins are 7 and eldest is 9, and when baby was little it was a bit of a nightmare making sure other kids got to school on time so at least you wont have that worry lol

Good luck and congratulations

x*x

Answer 8

I've got two 1 year apart - currently 14 months and 2 months.

The idea of falling pregnant now petrifies me lol, BUT, I remember panicking about how hard having two so close together would be - as you must have done, but once the new one is here the routine just kind of appears on it's own and you wonder why you worried!

I'm sure you will be just fine. And once your eldest is in nursery it will be easier to have time alone with the other two - make them have their naps at different times and you'll be fine :)

Answer 9

congratulations

my sister had 5 under 9 the other is expecting her 6th and her oldest isn't 12

they say forget about sleep and buy an alarm clock as you will be up two hours before anyone else

I think they are planning sleeping for two years straight as soon as the youngest are off their hands

Answer 10

yes your are just panicking im sure you will be fine,many people cope fine and well if you decided to have your third well you must of felt ready for it. get any help you can from family or friends dont get worked up and worried just focus on your kids take things in your stride its the only way to manage. plus your newborn will sleep a lot at first so this will give your other kids time to get used to him and give you time with them. they will have great fun as they older and be great company for eachother.best of luck and remember its only a few years and theyll be off to school,sure times will be hard and your only human but you will survive just get in good routine and stick to it so they are all getting enough sleep and not too cranky and get your husband involed in the evening to take the pressure off you

Answer 11

I'd love to have you in my online group for mommies.  I'm sure you'd find some great gals to talk to there!  

http://www.lilaguide.com/groups/momsofmu...

A good friend of mine has 6 kids, ages 4 and under!  Two fraternal twin boys, age 4.  2 year old boy/girl "twins" (were originally triplets but they lost one a couple weeks after birth).  AND... twin baby girls born just a few months ago!  To top it off: one of the 2 year olds may be autistic, her husband has multiple sclerosis, the youngest babies were preemie and need a lot of special care, AND she got ovarian cancer in her last pregnancy and had to have a total hysterecomy after they were born!  Whenever I think I've got it hard with my 3 year old and my baby, I think of my brave amazing friend who is going through more than most moms can imagine!  People always say "You sure must have your hands full!"  and she always replies "I'd rather have my hands full than my arms empty".  Oh, and btw, she was on birth control for the first two pregnancies, and the last one was planned!  The docs said it was insane to have THREE multiple pregnancies like that.

Answer 12

I had 3 under 3 too.  its mental, frustrating, hard work and totally wonderful too - I woudn't change it for the world.  Its all about logistics at this stage.  I found having my second a bigger shock than my third.   Just have realistic expectations about what you can achieve in your day. you can totally manage!