3 year old girl refuses to potty train?

Question

My 3 year old girl refuses to potty train. She has never been interested and we were very laid back. Finally, after she turned 3 we got her to try underwear on. (Just for a minute) Then it took weeks to get her to sit on a toilet. For her to start big girl activities she needs to be potty trained. After lots of research everyone said to just drop the diapers and pull-ups and have her clean up the messes. It has been 2 weeks and I am going crazy. She will sit on the toilet with no luck. The second we pull the pants up she has an accident. If you ask why, she says she flat out doesn't want to go in a toilet. She has a very strong will and does not take change well. Help! Do I just go back to pull ups and try again in a few weeks? Do I keep going and eventually she will get it?

Answer 1

Well you totally screwed this up! It was YOUR job as a parent to potty train her at the right age, or at least introduce it once she was 18 - 22 months old. You were lazy and now you're expecting her to change overnight. Doesn't work that way.

Answer 2

Don't go back to pull ups this will state that it's alright to not pee or potty in the toilet. I would keep worker with her. I would set new boundaries and be a little stricter. Also give her rewards if she potties or pees in the toilet and if she uses her panties then I would scold her for it and explain to her why she can not use the bathroom in her panties. Also this might work explain how baby's use pulls-up and if she wants to play with her big girl toys than she has to go to the potty like a big girl. I know it sounds a little mean but I have seen it work in different situations. Good Luck.....I know I'm going to need it. I'm going to start potty training my little boy in a few weeks I want him to be potty train before he is 2 yrs old so we can get that out of the way and start on other things.

Answer 3

When I began potty training my son he was resistant.  We would lightly scold him when he had accidents explaining that big boys use the potty, etc.  I also noticed when he wore pull ups or diapers he wouldn't use the potty.  I done some research & found two things that worked.  One is putting real underwear on him.  He didn't like the wet feeling (which you don't get with diapers or pull ups) when he peed in his underwear.  Also, I stopped all negative feedback.  If he had an accident we just said "oops, lets change your pants" ...no big deal.  And when he did go in the potty we cheered & praised him.  I had to convince my husband to give it a try, but literally with in days we had no more accidents.

Answer 4

Are you having her clean up the messes?? I had the same problem but making them clean up the messes really worked for me. I take it you've tried all the books and tried to reward her with something..? They do it in their own time, you can't change that. Don't you wish your could hypnotize them into going on the toilet? My niece didn't really potty train until they threatened to kick her out of Kindergarten but i don't think you will have to wait that long. I understand your frustration...sorry and good luck!!

Answer 5

Why don't you find an activity that she really wants to do like join a team or club or something and let her know that if she wants to do that then she has to use the potty like a big girl  

Answer 6

is she fond of any cartoon or animal? you could find toilet covers with things she likes and maybe that will make her more comfertable .. ask her why she likes pull-ups and see if you could work some things out from there.. if you want to try something more firm just flat out put the pull-ups away & make her sit on the toilet no matter how long it takes

hope I've helped!

Answer 7

Potty training can be hard if the child doesn't want to. What I did for the kids I nanny was we set up a snowman out of construction paper, and then everytime they went potty, then glued a part of the snowman onto it. (Obviously this was in the winter, so you could pick a more apropiately seasoned thing.) Once the snowman was complete, they were allowed to do something special with their mom. It worked great. The family's third child has proved to be a bit more difficult, so, I would set a timer for every 1/2 hour. When the timer went off we would go to the bathroom, and she would have to sit there for a few minutes, weather she went or not. As you child, she was/is very stubborn about it. But, if playing outside, send her in to go by herself. Make a huge deal out of it, like "You get to go in all by yourself!!!!" WHOA!! Everytime she even tries, you have to make it huge. Give her a couple skittles or m&m's or a star on a chart. Candy is very motivational for little kids, even if it doesn't seem like it is working. Just keep it up, you're doing great!

Answer 8

My daughter did the same thing until she was 4. I asked the doctor because I thought it was unusual and he said that it was perfectly fine. He said when she is ready she will go in the toilet and not to force her because all that will do is make her terrified of it and never want to. What I actually did one day was take a pull up and cut out a hole in the but. Then i put it on her without letting her see the hole and i sat her on the toilet. I told her just to sit on the toilet and pretend to go in it with the pull up on. She believed me and really went but when she looked in the toilet after (which I tried to flush fast but wasn't fast enough) she was not very happy with me. Just thought I'd share that...maybe you would have better luck :)

Answer 9

i dont kno um...try being more hard on here and she doesnt have to be potty trained till 4

Answer 10

I was in diapers until i was 4 1/2 or 5. I refused to be potty trained too. maybe she is not ready. talk to her doctor. dont forget that every kid is diffrent.