30 plus years or marriage gone? Other woman dont get it?

Question

I saw this on tv a husband told his new girlfriend that his wife was dead but she was not. He was romancing his new fling and his fling had relations with him for like years! after the wife confronted them the fling told her that she was not giving him up because she invested too mush time with him.

Why are some people so stupid in relationships? It is like they want a loser who cheats. How come some cant see it?

10 points for best answer

Answer 1

for them they have enough reason..

to stay in that relationship..

even though it look like they are stupid & fool...

we can't judge them by simplifying listen to 1 side..

maybe because they are the 90% reason

why their husband do that...(cheat)

Answer 2

They see it, they just don't care.

Answer 3

I believe that there are three main problems with the way people view love and relationships:

1) They believe in "The One" and are too afraid to leave a scumbag because that person is their "soulmate" (the wife and maybe the fling too)

2) They let lust or love get in the way of their judgement of a person's character- by the time s*x stops to matter as much and the rest of their life kicks in, they've been with them so long they're afraid to leave (the fling)

3) They'd rather be miserable than alone. (the wife)

In all fairness, the scumbag should end up completely alone with no marriage and no girlfriend.

Answer 4

Some women are so insecure that they look for men who are unavaliable, and they seek to change them.  They think that if they can just seduce this man, make him love them, that they have "won."  They get some satisfaction and an ego boost from going after a man who is a "challenge."  They also get a thrill out of hearing how much better they are then the wives these men have.  They enjoy the praise they get from these men, and the attention.  They have images in their own heads about what great women they are, taking care of a man who has been neglected.  If makes them feel like they have a purpose, and that they are needed.  It makes them feel as if they have reached a goal.  The truth is, they are incredibly insecure, sad women, who have deeply rooted issues.  They do not love themselves, and it manifests itself in the form of an affair with a married man.  While they know they are selfish, they push that thought to the back of their head by telling themselves why it's ok to do what they're doing.  Very sad indeed!

Answer 5

they don't see him as a cheating looser,they actually think this won't happen to them.other women don't care, they may say they didn't know he was married, but usually they do.in their minds they are smart,and it strokes their ego to be able to get someone to leave their wife for them.

Answer 6

Because basically sweetheart most of us are blind when we are in love with someone and in our hearts don't believe they could something like this, even though our head tells us something different.

Answer 7

well some people are like that

some people are use to do this & many of us are use to belive all this they tell us...

WE must be more carefull cause we know that not all guys can be trustfull !...................

Answer 8

I agree its totally stupid as if they don't respect themselves...