30 something and shy how do i overcome it?

Question

30 something and shy how do i overcome it?

Answer 1

Good question. I'm 19 and just starting to come out of my shell.

Answer 2

Shy? You mean you are kinda introvert? A person who doesnt want to talk much. I am also that kinda person. May be we can become friends. Message me!

Answer 3

Well, for starters, you could email me, and we could have a little email conversation going. You tell me what kind of things you like, and I could tell you all my warped fantasies. Give it some thought. Just go to my profile, and click "email this person"  

Answer 4

You need to work on yourself, read books on self esteem, Love yourself, and then you can love others, you need to know that you are very important, and that you deserve the best. You can overcome that shyness, but like everything else, it is going to take work, look in the mirrow, and talk to yourself, pratice, things that you need to say. Work on having confidents in yourself. You can do this!

Answer 5

well, it depends on what u are shy about.

i used to have this pb too and though i still haven't entirely overcome it it's gotten much better.

i owe most of it to my current bf. he's been incredibly patient and supportive as i'm sure ur family and friends are with u.

he's a therapist and here's what he had me do and what u could try.

EX1:

close ur eyes and imagine u are in a place u love, the sea the mountains, any place.

breathe slowly and relax and imagine all the details, smells colors textures

u are all alone and safe and there is no one to criticise u or hurt u or make u unconfy in any way.

this is called ur power place.

every time u fell ur shyness is taking over just picture urself there even for only half a second.

EX2:

this one is loads of fun once u get over the initial shiness. now i do it for entertainment...u'd say i'm a crazy punker kid or something ...ha ha

ok, what i want u to do is get dressed for a day of shopping for outfits.

get comfy shoes and something that comes on and off easily.

now, before u go out the door, reach into ur purse and take all ur money out[except the sum u may need for transportation]. yes, that is right, your are going shopping with no cash with you

ha ha, don;t worry, i'm not trying to turn u into a shoplifter.

once u get to the mall or wherever u want to shop, find the most expensive, high end, designer labeled store there is and go inside.

it takes some guts i know, but remember, u are all alone in ur power place.

scan through the clothes, touching them, taking them out, looking at the labels....and once u've had enough pick an item and go straight to the dressing room. try it on.

if ur uncomfy, take a friend with u and tell her what ur up to. it's more fun in 2 anyway ;))

try more than one item on, even if u don't like them. remember, u are not gonna buy them, ur just trying them on.

in time, vary this exercise for more fun. try asking for all the wrong dress sizes, and ask loads of questions like why is it so expensive, where is it made, and so one. vary the shops and shop types. the shop assistants don't know u, u have nothing to be ashamed of. and u have ur power place.

here is how it works:

doing something u KNOW is "adventurous" helps u build up confidence.

there is more where that came from. i'll tell u more exercises if u want to...

Best Regards

Answer 6

I think you'll be fine!

As long as you are being the real you...and once you do feel comfortable with someone you meet you do or can open up to them :-)

Maybe a shy guy is out there saying exactly the same thing ... and when you meet each other you will both be shy at first - but like each other - and slowly get to the point of boyfreind / girlfriend

Guys have it harder - HE'LL be the one who will have to pluck up the courage and ask you for your number and ask you out on a date etc

So just get out there and be true to yourself